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Just putting it out there...

GiGi1221GiGi1221
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I'm not trying to stir up any drama but following the dd I just wanted to say:

I am not a SAHM, thought I would want to be- but was going batty doing it. I love my DCP!

Failed at BF'ing- was all gung ho and just couldn't do it- I was pumping an oz per session.

and... I'm still a good mom and don't judge anyone based on the above parenting issues. We're all doing the best we can!

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  • MrsLntMrsLnt member
    There was a DD? 
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  • kimarino13kimarino13 member
    Uh oh... what did I miss?

    After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
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  • kimarino13kimarino13 member
    Ohhh... did that Judgy McJudgerson post get DD from earlier?  Damn, I didn't get a chance to respond!  I was too busy AT WORK.  Surprise

    After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
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  • amanda31Hamanda31H member

    imagekimarino13:
    Ohhh... did that Judgy McJudgerson post get DD from earlier?  Damn, I didn't get a chance to respond!  I was too busy AT WORK.  Surprise

    Yeah- the one about "working."

    It went no where very quickly!!!

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  • MrsLntMrsLnt member
    I missed it.  Can someone recap?
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  • leviandlandensmomleviandlandensmom

    imagekimarino13:
    Ohhh... did that Judgy McJudgerson post get DD from earlier?  Damn, I didn't get a chance to respond!  I was too busy AT WORK.  Surprise

    Judgy McJudgerson here  Embarrassed and I'm very sorry if I offended anyone. I didn't mean to make it sound like I think putting kids in daycare or FF is bad parenting. I don't think that at all. I don't have one or two kids I would be putting in daycare, I have four who are not in school. There would be no point in finding work if I had to put them in daycare. We all do what's necessary to survive and we all make our choices based on what we feel is best for our children and our family. I realize I came across very judgy and that's not who I am and that wasn't my intention.

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  • robinsokjrobinsokj member
    imageleviandlandensmom:

    imagekimarino13:
    Ohhh... did that Judgy McJudgerson post get DD from earlier?  Damn, I didn't get a chance to respond!  I was too busy AT WORK.  Surprise

    Judgy McJudgerson here  Embarrassed and I'm very sorry if I offended anyone. I didn't mean to make it sound like I think putting kids in daycare or FF is bad parenting. I don't think that at all. I don't have one or two kids I would be putting in daycare, I have four who are not in school. There would be no point in finding work if I had to put them in daycare. We all do what's necessary to survive and we all make our choices based on what we feel is best for our children and our family. I realize I came across very judgy and that's not who I am and that wasn't my intention.

    But your husband isn't working. 

    someone can get a job and the other can watch the kids.

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  • MrsMommyLoMrsMommyLo
    I missed any drama from yesterday.  I 100% agree with you.  I LOVE LOVE LOVE our DCP.  I also truly enjoy my job as a teacher, and once my kids are all in school I don't see any reason not to work since we will share days off.  I think working has allowed me to manage my time better and enjoy each moment I share with my kids on weekends, evenings, and days off. 
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  • RedWingsFanRedWingsFan member
    imagerobinsokj:
    imageleviandlandensmom:

    imagekimarino13:
    Ohhh... did that Judgy McJudgerson post get DD from earlier?  Damn, I didn't get a chance to respond!  I was too busy AT WORK.  Surprise

    Judgy McJudgerson here  Embarrassed and I'm very sorry if I offended anyone. I didn't mean to make it sound like I think putting kids in daycare or FF is bad parenting. I don't think that at all. I don't have one or two kids I would be putting in daycare, I have four who are not in school. There would be no point in finding work if I had to put them in daycare. We all do what's necessary to survive and we all make our choices based on what we feel is best for our children and our family. I realize I came across very judgy and that's not who I am and that wasn't my intention.

    But your husband isn't working. 

    someone can get a job and the other can watch the kids.

    This is my question - if you do get the LC job, why can't your H stay home and watch the kids while you are at work?  You'd still be bringing in extra income and you wouldn't have to shell out for daycare.

    Unemployment checks and side jobs don't last forever, and I don't know that you can afford to be picky with employment, especially in this job market.  I'd be taking whatever I can get because I would want to teach my kids a good work ethic and that pride doesn't matter when you are a parent - you do whatever it takes to bring home a paycheck, no matter how small or "beneath you" it may seem (example - before C found a job at his first law firm, he worked at Best Buy.  Sure, he felt silly that he had a law degree and a masters, but we needed to pay the bills.  End of story). 

    I also think there's some back pedaling here, but whatever - you did say that you didn't have kids to put them in daycare, which is a pretty strong implication that daycare is bad or that having kids and going back to work is bad.  It may not work for you, but there are a lot of us that chose to go back to work or that needed to go back to work to make ends meet, and there is nothing wrong with that. 

     


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