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vandelay
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CBL, Schmoodle, Gypsy, Auburn, Magoy, Choco_lab, and my other moral compasses from my post below
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Thanks for being honest with me. Really. I wanted frank opinions and I got them. And you're right. Annoyingly, inconveniently right. :-)
So below is my last ditch effort to get to keep my lovely wagon with the nice quiet rubber wheels that will be perfect and not noisy on regular evening walks on our neighborhood's uneven sidewalks, and still feel like I'm not a brat --
I call my SIL and explain that I had already bought a wagon before we received their amazing gift. (Technically true, although I haven't picked it up yet). We didn't tell them when we spoke with them last night because we were so touched by the thought and generosity of the gift that we just didn't have the heart to tell them we already had one. But I've been thinking about what to do, and I think it would be really great for Ivy to have a wagon at my parents' house because they love to go on walks through their neighborhood (this is true), and it would be fun for them to pull Ivy along with them so that she can look around. It would also be nice for her to have a fun outdoor toy to play with when she visits them. I wanted to get SIL's input first, though, because I know she put a lot of love into choosing that gift, so if she would prefer that we exchange it for something that will stay at our house and that Ivy will play with more regularly, I'm happy to do that as well.
I did think about just keeping it and having two wagons, but I don't think I can sell DH on it; our house and yard are small and he doesn't think we have room for even one wagon. I've checked with my parents, and they are fine with keeping it at their house. So...let me have those opinions!
On another note, if you think there's no way around it and I should give up my wagon, do you have any other nice first birthday gift suggestions? I had planned on the wagon for so long that nothing else seems as special -- I got nothing!
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Re: CBL, Schmoodle, Gypsy, Auburn, Magoy, Choco_lab, and my other moral compasses from my post below
I think your proposal is fine - it all depends so much on personality, you know? I would just suck it up with some people if they gave the wagon, but with others, I'd be comfortable letting them know and asking if they were ok with sending it to grandma's.
As far as other gifts, besides a wagon, there's ride in/on cars or other toys, rocking horses, etc. as typical bigger 1st birthday gifts. We got Toodle a mini Schoenberg piano for his first and he loves it.
Best of luck!
Well, I may be the one that people feel is ungrateful and stuck up- but here's what I think. You obviously are very touched by their gift, otherwise you would not be feeling so upset over this.
It's a very nice gift, but you researched one that is a better fit for you (less noise, rubber tires) why should you not get the one you wanted? I think keeping it at your parents house is a great idea, it sounds like they would get a lot of use out of it and your DD would still enjoy it with them, and how fun to have your parents take walks with her with this fun wagon.
Call your SIL- explain to her that you already have one- ask if its okay that you take it to your parents and you wanted to tell her becasue you just are so touched by the gift and felt bad taking it over there. She will either say that's a great idea, or ask you if there is something else you needed- she may tell you to exchange it for something else. I don't know if Little Tykes or where it's from- but there may be another fun toy you could exchange it for. Just explain the situation, I think you will be surprised what your SIL says.
NO NO! I was more saying that to be joking- I should have put HAHA or something. It takes a lot to offend me, and after reading my post again it does sound a little stuck up. I just feel strongly that at the end of the day it's your child and you are the one that has to use all this stuff day in and day out- so if having rubber tires makes your walk more peaceful- who is anyone to tell you that you should give that up? They aren't the ones taking your child for a walk everynight.
Honestly, if my sister called me and was having real issues over taking my gift to our moms or exchanging it- I would be so blown away that she even took the time to call me and explain this to me- I would tell her, please do whatever is best for you- and would not be offended in the least, and I would offer to get her something else, because no one needs 2 wagons at their house! We don't have room for that either!
I didn't reply below but I think that sounds great. We bought Reed a kettler trike for his first birthday..It has rubber wheels and blows all of the other tricycles out of the water. It has a seatbelt and a place to put the baby's feet before they can peddle, a push bar, an adjustable seat. I could go on. It was ridiculously $$$ but worth it.
The rubber wheels on your wagon that you chose are going to be awesome! We get compliments everywhere we go regarding how quiet and smooth Reed's trike goes...and our red wagon with the plastic wheels...the only thing that is good about it is the seatbelts. Other than that, it is hard to maneuver, and clunky and heavy and annoying.
Your proposal sounds great.
I saw your OP but not any of the responses - I think your proposal here is excellent (and prob goes further and is more gracious than I'll ever hope to be, ha ha!)
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I think your proposal is a great one. Even if you hadn't bought the wagon already, you had put a lot of time, thought, and effort into choosing that as your gift. I'm big on being honest and I feel like your proposed solution is just that.
Good luck - I hope the call goes well!
I love your proposal & agree honesty is always best! If it were me, I would really appreciate the consideration & being asked, although I would totally say it wasn't needed and do whatever you like.
More than likely, she is going to be A-OK but I think it is very respectful to leave it up to her & be honest. I too would not pass up on the wagon you wanted if it just fits everything better. And I really like the idea of having one at the grandparents house, I think they would enjoy it just as much as your DD. 
Unfortunately whenever I have tried to go the dishonest route trying to make someone not mad at me, it has backfired and that's exactly what I did. It always comes out, somehow.
But yea, great idea! And Shay---I'm sorry if I bashed you, just your wording came off a certain way and I tend to forget that it's SO hard to remember that what posters write often times does not come out the way they mean/intend.