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June 2011 Moms
bunnymama625
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Disconnected MIL-- less a vent than a sigh...
bunnymama625
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So my MIL is really not into the baby- not exactly sure why, except she doesn't strike me as a baby person, which is fine- whatever.
Completely out of the blue, she called me a couple of nights ago (she never calls me directly, but DH was at work), and said she heard that we got our crib (very very generous neighbors gave us theirs) and that she and my FIL had talked about it and decided they would like to buy us the mattress.... umm, thanks, but we got 2 with the crib.
After she briefly questions whether my mattresses have bed bugs (gee thanks), she says well, how about a bumper? Uh... we aren't using a bumper, but if we were, we were already given one (we're thinking of using it tucked down around the space made when the mattress is up high)-- so then she mentions she was looking at clothing, but didn't know what sizes I wanted--- I had to tell her, we just don't need ANY more clothes-- I tried to make a joke about it, but I could tell she was getting annoyed.
I feel really bad for shooting down all her ideas, but frankly if she had taken 5 min of interest before this, she would have known all of this already. DH just shrugs and pointed out that after he told her all he wanted for his bday was baby stuff, she bought us an ottoman (sad but true) and that there is no way to get through to her.
I'm not sure how to get her connected in now that she's shown SOME interest- frankly, this is a huge improvement already. And if she really wants to buy us something, we have a whole registry full she can go nuts on-- not sure why she's not looking at that....
Any suggestions? I don't want to discourage her, but I don't want to suddenly throw all the baby prep at her either. I'm still waiting for her head to explode when she hears we are cloth diapering....
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Re: Disconnected MIL-- less a vent than a sigh...
My MIL has been a bit odd as well. She recently decided that they want to buy something "big" as well, which is really nice. But we've already bought the furniture and we plan to use it as baby furniture, not just kid #1's furniture. I pointed her to the registry and she said that she wanted to buy something that would be around for years to come. I suggested she make something as she's very crafty. She said she will but wants to wait until after the baby is here since we aren't finding the out baby's sex. I had nothing for her after that. I don't want to be difficult, but I really didn't know what to tell her. It sounds like you're in a similar boat.
maybe invite her to go shopping with you?
mention that you're going to babies r us or something and if she'd like to buy something for the baby she'd be more then welcome to go with you so that way you can look at things together?
my mil is kinda the same way. she's not a baby person at all... and what she does buy isn't always useful, but i accept it... just to be nice i guess, even if i don't do anything with it.
She did suggest we "go shopping"-- but experience has told me in the past that when she says this, she means she points out things she wants me to buy... and frankly, the 53rd argument about why I don't need/can't afford more silk camis was the last time I wanted to do that....
I like the "update the registry" idea-- maybe I'll try that! A little worried about her arguing about the things we've picked, but it's worth a shot!
If she wants something nice that will last how about a special piece of artwork or a nice piece of jewelry with the baby's birthstone as "baby's first piece of jewelry" or if you're Christian a Christening gown?
Hmm, ok that's all I've got.