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Hi all...haven't been on in awhile..but wanted to get some advice. Now...I know that pregnant women are supposed to remember that bodies will be changing...weight will be gained...etc. However, I was a plus size bride to start with and I am pregnant with twins....23 weeks along. My husband and I went shopping to find a dress for me to wear to my bridal shower and it was AWFUL! As bad as swimming suit shopping!
I put these dresses on and felt as big as a house. I was in tears I was so upset....I am sure that my current hormonal state didn't help matters either! Jason was trying so hard to be supportive, but it just didn't work.
Wondering if any of you ladies have felt like this and how you get through it...past it to acceptance that this is just the way it is!
Darlene
Ryan Michael and Violet Debra born July 14, 2011
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If I was you I would go shopping for that kind of stuff right after a Dr appt. This way you hear how great your LO's are doing and feel good from that. I know it's hard trying on clothes that are bigger than what you're used to wearing. Just keep reminding yourself that you're housing two beautiful babies and whoever thinks otherwise can suck it!
Hang in there and I'm sure whatever you pick you'll look lovely.
Sweety- almost there...when these babies are born you will feel the skinniest you've ever felt! In the meantime maybe walking and pampering yourself will help with the self- image...but by the end of the day you have a husband (will have a husband) who thinks you're beautiful no matter what and that is all that matters!
You are not alone. I feel this way often! I was plus size to begin with and then to have to struggle to find maternity clothes that fit...ugh. This is my 2nd child and I seem to have grown MUCH faster than with the first. I was able to wear normal tops at this time with my first...not this time, I had to go and get maternity tops. I am a SAHM and I'll be honest, there are days that I haven't gotten out of my robe because I know it fits!
Enough about me..
Keep in mind that you have TWO babies in there. They are taking up a lot of real estate!
When you feel your worst remember those 2 little faces you will meet soon and that husband who obviously loves you dearly since we know how much men like to dress shop! lol In a few months those babies will make you smile SO much you'll have many days where you completely forget what you were sad about in the first place.
If all else fails go and do something just for yourself...bubble bath, pedicure, curling up in your favorite comfy clothes and just watching TV, etc. :-)
Just wanted to say we both have the same due date
and as far as the image, like other pp said just think it is all in sacrifice for the beautiful babies you're carrying! we don't have much longer... hang in there!
BIG hugs for you!! The feeling is definately mutual. And p.s. I think you look absolutely amazing in your photo:-)
I was never big. It made me the black sheep of my family. My mom, my dad, my sister, grandparents, all of them are "fluffy" as we call it. I was the 110lb could eat anything I wanted and never gain an ounce. Ha! That went out the window. I now am approaching the 200lb mark at only 15 weeks. I popped at 10 weeks. Now mind you I wasn't as super skinny as I had used to be, when I got pregnant I was 175lb. But I remember going with my mom to one of those "not quite a teenager, but not over 30" stores looking for clothes at week 10 because DH kept teasing me that things "weren't fitting me like they used to". I tried on a size 15 jean. It didn't fit. When I went to the counter and asked for a larger size the skinny *** behind the counter said "we don't cater to plus sizes here". I wanted to ring the wenches neck. I sat in the dressing room and cried. Here I was, I had a decent body to start with and now, now I'm already showing and it has me shaking in fear of what I will look like at 8 months. And maternity stores are great, but I understand what you are saying, because I watched my sister struggle through her pregnancy. She was 265 before becoming pregnant and when she went to a maternity store for maternity clothes they told her they had nothing to offer her, because she had been big to start with. It ridiculous. You would think, with as many women that are on fertility treatment and increasing the chances of multiples that SOMEONE would wise up and make a market for women like you. But they won't. Makes no sense to me either.