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Marriage Rules to Break
Because I share 65% of everything I read/hear with you all...
Marriage Rules to Break (on The Early Show)
"Discuss!" (said in Linda Richman's Bronx accent)
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Re: Marriage Rules to Break
I'd be such a weirdo (even more so than now) if DH and I shared ALL the same hobbies, and vice versa.
Ditto. I mean, seriously, my husband watches NASCAR and dirt-track (sprint car) racing. NASCAR, people!
He's the most intelligent hillbilly I've ever met.
Dude, NASCAR and dirt racin' are awesome.
I hope you are being sarcastic.
Fine. YOU can go with him to Lawrenceburg, next time he tries to drag me along. Billy Heaven.
True Story: The friend that introduced me to my husband, his family races at Lawrenceburg.
Honestly, it's his only WTF quality; but it's a BIG one.
Eh, my SIL likes it. I would consider going to a race...for the people watching.
only 65%? I demand more.
Tyler Anthony arrived on 9.21.09
The Chronicles of Justin and Tyler
You gotta watch out for getting flashed by 60 year old women. They are usually wearing triangle bikini tops so it is very easy for them to flash.
Next GTG. Gawd, could you imagine all of us there, trying to avoid being speckled with mud chunks and guzzling Beast Ice?
I agree w/ most of the topics except: 1. having same hobbies and 2. sleeping in separate beds. I think that you should be willing to share hobbies with your spouse but that doesnt mean it has to become your hobby too. For example my husband LOVES guns, hunting, etc. Will I ever go hunting with him...uhhhh no but I did let him put up a shooting range in our backyard (we have some land anddd we are little redneck haha) and I will go back and do some target shooting with him or go to the range with him on occasion. Its not my favorite way to spend time together but I know he really enjoys sharing his hobbies with me (and yes he like racing too and I have been to my fair share of nascar and formula 1 races w/ him and my dad).
As for sleeping in separate beds-- I dunno I think this is a slippery slope, I get their point of why it can be beneficial but I also think it just opens the door to being in separate rooms to be an everyday thing, which could then lead to a decrease in intimacy just by default, etc. I get sleeping in separate rooms on occasion (when one of us is sick, or if one of us has something going on where we REALLY need to get a great nights sleep or during pregnancy when there just isnt room in bed for me, Dh and all my pillows). I most definitely would sleep better in my bed by myself b/c DH snores, gets on my nerves and his alarm wakes me up 4 times each morning but would I trade our late night talks before bed, cuddling with him, etc just for better sleep-- not so much.
I think that the whole not going to be angry thing should be something you strive to do but realistically it often makes more sense to set aside a specific time the next day to discuss the issue. It often gives me time to get some perspective and realize that whatever I am mad about is not that big a deal or it gives me time to think about how I can approach him more appropriately to get a better response.
Thankfully I have broken H's Nascar obsession...thankfully!
H works for Toyota and probably 4 years ago when we were dating (meaning when we did things with others that we didn't want to do) Toyota sponsored a truck race in Nashville and he got free tickets. We went because it was a great get away for the weekend, we had the whole 9 yards with the hospitality tent and food/beer etc.. so I didn't even get the FULL Nascar experience and we stayed for 10 laps. That was all I could handle.
I grew up rural! I mean, I raised pigs for 4-H and FFA, I went to every county fair in the state, I dated guys who drove tractors in the tractor pulls (shame, I know) and yet Nascar, that was just too much for me!
Not saying you have to share ALL of the same hobbies, but having activities you enjoy to do together on a regular or semi-regular basis strengthens your bond together.
Think about who your friends have been thru life. Weren't they usually people you shared a common activity with, of one sort or another? And if / when that activity ended, what happened to the friendship? Just something to think about.
I agree.
I just wish my DH had hobbies (and no surfing the web isn't a hobby IMO), which leads us to boredom which is what I fear
My DH recently said, "I'm a redneck and an engineer. That's a dangerous combination."
this is AWESOME!
I totally agree with this list and regularly break each of these rules.
With the arrival of the kids we don't always sleep in the same room and I can be honest that I LOVE me some big bed bed to myself.
As for hobbies, there are definitely things we do together but we each have our own personal hobbies too. I think that too much togetherness is bad. :O)
I agree with many of the points of this article. IMO, marriage is about building a life and a family together.
DH and I are boring. There are many nights where we would rather be in than out and about. We like predictability. Call me weird.
We did sleep in separate beds when B was a newborn and when I was VERY pregnant. I snored so bad it was the only way DH could sleep.
I love a vacation with DH. But I went on a girls trip when B was 9 mos old and had a great time. The week away did all of us a lot of good.
While we do share common interests, the fact that we do have some different interests helps us have something to talk about. I think that's important.