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Had an emotional break down last night & vent
I cried, I yelled, and bitched at my dh last night then went and slept in the spare bedroom last night. 
I hate the economy, I hate that my freaking car failed inspection and cost me all our extra $$ so it would pass inspection. I hate that I feel so unprepared for this baby. (we have a crib and changing table travel system, bouncer, some onesie's and some clothes & diapers) DH doesnt want me to buy anything else for the baby until my baby shower which is in 2 weeks.
And now its getting cold outside. I have 1 long sleeve maternity shirt from my sil that doesnt look like I am wearing a gaint tent and well my shirt $$ went for 4 new tires.
We where doing so good. But like everyone else we are getting hit by the bad economy. Bought a house and more unexpected expenses arouse causing a loan to be taking out. Now money is tight. Sometimes i wonder how we can even afford to have this baby.
Oh and to top off my frustration with dh is that he has a trustfund type account from his family that he wont tap into to try and get a few of our small monthly bills paid off...(credit cards) Iam not telling him to take it all out just a fraction of. But he wont for some reason or another.
Thanks for letting me vent and get that off my chest. PG hormones are brutal this week...on top of little sleep last night.
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Re: Had an emotional break down last night & vent
It bothers me greatly that your husband will not touch a trust fund that was set up for his use to keep his family from going into financial ruin!
I would talk to him about this instead of just accepting his excuses.....
I am sorry you guys are struggling believe me I understand what you are going through!
Don't feel bad...I'm having the same anxiety about not being prepared and having everything for the baby. But if it makes you feel any better, I think you're more ready than me! We've got the crib set up with bedding in it, and we're using my DH's old changing table from when he was a baby...but we don't have the pad on top of it or anything like that yet. And that is pretty much all we have!
My shower isn't until the 15th (is that when yours is too?!) and now I'm starting to worry because my friend said no one has RSVP'd. We have so many things that we need still...and if we don't get them at the shower we're going to be rushing to the store mid-December to get them...so of course we're doing this at the tightest time of year, right around Christmas!
I also know what you're talking about with the maternity clothes too...it sucks that we had to get both summer and winter! I did get one more long sleeved shirt for $15 at Motherhood last night. Now I have 3...but that is still really hard working in a professional office with only 3 winter shirts! What I've been doing lately is still wearing the summer tops with a cardigan sweater over them..unbuttoned of course! And I don't want to spend the money on a maternity winter coat when I only have 8 weeks or so left to go, so I'm just wearing my regular coat unbuttoned.
Try and hang in there....hopefully you feel better after your shower!
So sorry you had a bad night last night. But I gotta tell you, I had MUCH less than you 2 weeks before the baby came home and never got much more. I'm glad we didn't spend loads of money on that stuff because that's not what matters ... the stuff. You'll be trying to get rid of it in a year anyway.
It sounds to me like you have everything you need. That and love and you're covered ... The rest I'm sure you'll get at your shower. So don't stress the stuff. It's just stuff. Seriously. Find a way to get your bills paid without tapping into the trust (my DH would never do that, either. It's probably better in the long run because you never know what's ahead) and focus on having a healthy baby. And get some rest! best of luck. Seriously. You'll be fine without extra baggage.
InACitySoNice is right you don't need half the crap the baby industry trys to sell you.......seriously my kid is happy two places in my arms or on his play mat.
We have a swing he barely uses, a boppychair we only used while he was sick and toys that he has no interest in.
Clothes, Food and a place to sleep are the most important things at first.
you took the word right out of my mouth! I totally know how you are feeling except we don't have the baby's room done, the crib is only 1/2 put together and nothing else...we need to finish painting the baby's room and doing the laundry etc...
Not to mention my dh is family owned company commission only flooring sales...in this economy NO one is buying flooring...I have 0 paid maturity leave, high risk, and my peri says I maybe will have a cs as early as 1219 instead of 119!
I did find several tops by the way at JCPenny's buy one get one $.88...I ended up getting 2 for like $20! I also do the summer shirts with a caridigan....
Vent away we all understand!
Take care~ in the end our baby's really only need us!
I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of this. It sounds like you are quite prepared for this baby. Heck, all you really need is a car seat, some diapers, and some clothes, and you've got that covered. They really don't even need anywhere fancy to sleep. I wouldn't worry too much about baby stuff at the moment.
However, in terms of maternity shirts, you may want to check out craigslist or ebay. I just got a bunch of shirts (7 long sleeve, 3 short sleeve, and a cardigan) all for $35 off of craigslist. Used maternity clothes are great because it's not like people have an opportunity to wear them out before they sell them.
I know you would love your DH to use his trustfund account to help with some of the expenses, however, you may want to discuss the situation more with him. It could be that there is some sort of penalty if he uses the funds or perhaps the money is in stocks or something that would take a huge hit if you cashed it out now.
Hang in there! It will all work out...
***Twin fraternal girls born at 35w6d in 12/2008***
I am so sorry you are feeling this way. Please know that you aren't alone.
I, too, am stressing about money. I want to know how we are going to afford everything PLUS daycare. I try not to think about it b/c i have sleepless nights as it is.
You are ahead of me as far as furniture for the baby. The nursery was just painted, but it still needs it's border, we don't have anything on the windows, and all the furniture is at my sisters, which I have no idea when we are going to pick it up b/c she still has to order NEW furniture for my nephew. I had my shower last weekend and still need to buy stuff (only have 1 base, no mattresses, mattress covers, onesies, etc.) Also, I found out b/c I have GD, that Peanut will be making an early arrival (still don't know how early yet).
As far as clothes - it stinks that we had to get clothes for summer AND winter (to extremely different seasons). Motherhood has some pretty good sales. Just get a couple of things to mix and match.
I hope you feel better and hopefully you will be able to get some sleep. I was told that Tylenol PM is ok to take. I took one pill one night and felt great the next day.