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September 2011 Moms
Are people calling YOUR baby THEIR baby??
This is SO annoying! My dad always asked me "how's my bean?" meaning, HIS bean and it drives me batty. I tell him it bugs me, but that doesn't change anything. My DH mom has said "I can't wait to hold my baby". Ugh. Anyone else?
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Re: Are people calling YOUR baby THEIR baby??
My mom says "How's our baby cookin?" I think it's cute thought. She is really excited.
Yes, but not after i set her straight. DH's mother was beyond ecstatic crying etc when she found out we were pregnant. (Mind you she has two grandson's from DH's brother already). We found out Christmas morning and for weeks after all she kept saying is that was the best Christmas present anyone could have ever given her, and she kept asking me how "her" baby was doing. Finally, one day she was texting me and at the end she told me to "take care of her baby." I finally had enough. I went a little hormonal (in the nicest way possible) on her, but she took the hint. Sometimes you have to be blunt.. GL it's a rough situation to be in.
My MIL and step mother call the baby "My Grandbaby". Which is fine... it is their grandbaby. But then they say to me, "Take care of MY Grandbaby." The way they say it takes all "ownership" from me and my husband. Like I'm going to do anything to harm MY BABY! Totally hormonal pregnant annoyance, but I'm sick of feeling like I'm going to be overwhelmed and not get to see my little one. I'm so worried that these two individuals are going to forget that new babies are new to the parents too. I've got a feeling I'm going to have it out with my father's wife before this is all over. MIL lives 4 hours away so that helps. Oh and my step mother calls my dad, "Papa." That really bugs my husband because he says, "I'm the papa... he can be the grandpapa." I totally get why it bugs him. Neither one of us like my step mother that much, she's just so in your face and forceful about everything.
My mom refers to it as "our" baby sometimes too LOL...they're all just excited. It's their first grandbaby.
My dad took ownership the minute we told him saying "take care of my grandchildren" (he was convinced I was going to have twins until he got some u/s pictures). But generally they keep it to their actual role 'My grandbaby, My neice or nephew', so it doesn't bother me too much. Mostly they just refer to the baby as Popcorn (which is what we call him/her). And ask "How is Popcorn doing?" and stuff like that.
Ok, this is WAY worse and that would crush me. You have got to say something about that.
It used to bother me, doesn't really that much anymore. I can't stand my ILs, and for all of the things to detest them over, this is nothing. Plus, it is cultural, my FIL is from a region where women do not matter, they are not considered as important. My MIL jsut adopted that nonsense when she married him. As long as my DH and I can make fun of them after we leave, it is all good.
Well, that's good that it doesn't bother you anymore. I wouldn't be able to keep my trap shut, cultural or not..lol.
wow, you have some patience putting up with that one.
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