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Driving my self down hill...

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So at the beggining of my pregnancy all I wanted was sex but now I feel like my sex drive has all but gone "BYE BYE"

My DH thinks that I am not attracted to him any more and its really starting to get on my nerves. He wants to have sex at least once a day. I CANT DO IT! I dont understand what he doesnt get about "I am not in the mood" or "I am tired" I work all day and yes I am only 11 weeks but I still get worn out. I still have to go work out and cook dinner.

COME THE F ON! There are ways of dealing with this problem and he doesnt seem to want to do those. I am really at the point where I just want to kick him in the balls so he will shut up about sex! Any advice??

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  • Matt DvorakMatt Dvorak
    once a day - wow! That is a ton for even pre-pregnancy!!
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  • jsongjsong member
    imageCandim1920:

    So at the beggining of my pregnancy all I wanted was sex but now I feel like my sex drive has all but gone "BYE BYE"

    My DH thinks that I am not attracted to him any more and its really starting to get on my nerves. He wants to have sex at least once a day. I CANT DO IT! I dont understand what he doesnt get about "I am not in the mood" or "I am tired" I work all day and yes I am only 11 weeks but I still get worn out. I still have to go work out and cook dinner.

    COME THE F ON! There are ways of dealing with this problem and he doesnt seem to want to do those. I am really at the point where I just want to kick him in the balls so he will shut up about sex! Any advice??

    I feel the same!  :)  My husband doesn't want it as often as yours and I was really sick for the first 4-5 months so, husband had no choice.  I mean, he would see me with my IV and med pump and thought it would be a good question to ask if we could engage.  REALLY!?!?!  Now that I'm feeling better, he is on full force.  I do feel bad but for whatever reason, sex doesn't appeal to me right now.  Sorry, I don't have much advice for you but I can totally relate to your situation. 

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  • ladylisaltladylisalt member
    Wow! Once a day is alot. I would want to kick him too. I feel like once a week is good at this point and the more I grow the less I want it. You are also at a time period where exhaustion sets in for a bit, something he probably really realistically dosen't get. I am not sure of any advice to offer but hope that he becomes more understanding as it "sinks in" for him that you really are pregnant and tired.
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  • SugarQueen101SugarQueen101

    The first trimester, my sex drive plummeted, but has picked up in the 2nd trimester.

    Pre-pregnancy i wanted sex more than my husband. Like your husband, AT LEAST once a day was what I wanted in general. More was even better.... I can relate to how your husband must feel when you turn him down over & over again. When my husband did that to me, I started to feel like I wasn't sexy enough, like he wasn't attracted to me, like I did something wrong. For me, sex is not only a basic need and a great way to relax at the end of the day, but it also helps me to feel connected to my spouse.

    My advice is to not kick your husband in the balls & try to be more understanding. There are a lot of women out there who are willing to give your husband what you won't. I'm just saying...

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  • Candim1920Candim1920
    imageSugarQueen101:

    The first trimester, my sex drive plummeted, but has picked up in the 2nd trimester.

    Pre-pregnancy i wanted sex more than my husband. Like your husband, AT LEAST once a day was what I wanted in general. More was even better.... I can relate to how your husband must feel when you turn him down over & over again. When my husband did that to me, I started to feel like I wasn't sexy enough, like he wasn't attracted to me, like I did something wrong. For me, sex is not only a basic need and a great way to relax at the end of the day, but it also helps me to feel connected to my spouse.

    My advice is to not kick your husband in the balls & try to be more understanding. There are a lot of women out there who are willing to give your husband what you won't. I'm just saying...

     

    I totally understand what you are saying. We have always had a pretty full filling sex life for the both of us. I dont think 3 or 4 times a week is bad. I really dont think that once a week is bad. BUT the constant badgering isnt helping how I feel. I know he wants to do what ever it is to please me but I just cant seem to be able to lay down and enjoy it like I used to. :( Trust me its not just on his part, I want to make him happy and I know that is a big part for the relationship, but I just cant find my happy place to be comfortable enough to do it. I am not going to kick him I just some times get so frusterated.

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  • Caitlin224Caitlin224 member
    imageSugarQueen101:

    The first trimester, my sex drive plummeted, but has picked up in the 2nd trimester.

    Pre-pregnancy i wanted sex more than my husband. Like your husband, AT LEAST once a day was what I wanted in general. More was even better.... I can relate to how your husband must feel when you turn him down over & over again. When my husband did that to me, I started to feel like I wasn't sexy enough, like he wasn't attracted to me, like I did something wrong. For me, sex is not only a basic need and a great way to relax at the end of the day, but it also helps me to feel connected to my spouse.

    My advice is to not kick your husband in the balls & try to be more understanding. There are a lot of women out there who are willing to give your husband what you won't. I'm just saying...

    EXACTLY.  Though I am on pelvic rest until LO is here [shakes fist at doc] so it doesn't matter much at this point. DH is 12 years older than me, so our drive differences are understandable. lol

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  • jsongjsong member
    imageSugarQueen101:

    The first trimester, my sex drive plummeted, but has picked up in the 2nd trimester.

    Pre-pregnancy i wanted sex more than my husband. Like your husband, AT LEAST once a day was what I wanted in general. More was even better.... I can relate to how your husband must feel when you turn him down over & over again. When my husband did that to me, I started to feel like I wasn't sexy enough, like he wasn't attracted to me, like I did something wrong. For me, sex is not only a basic need and a great way to relax at the end of the day, but it also helps me to feel connected to my spouse.

    My advice is to not kick your husband in the balls & try to be more understanding. There are a lot of women out there who are willing to give your husband what you won't. I'm just saying...

    If your husband is willing to go get it from elsewhere because you are going through hormonal changes and all the other symptoms of carrying his baby, then there are bigger problems.  No women should feel pressured to have sex at his demand just to "keep" him.  (I'm using the word "yours" as a general term, not specifically to anyone in particular.)

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  • MrsRebz2BeMrsRebz2Be member
    once a week bahahaha. yea right. i have not had sex since i found out I was pregnant in early February... basically just because I feel like arse everyday and the simple thought of sex makes me want to ralph. you should defintely not feel like you need to please your husband once a day just to keep him from going to get his jollies off somewhere else, whoever said that must be a little insecure that her own husband would do the same.  Men will never comprehend what women go through with pregnancy and child birth, and they would never want to... so I suggest he just hold off until you feel like you have a little more energy. 
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  • JeepersWifeJeepersWife member
    I think this symptom of pregnancy is the worst!  I feel bad for DH because he doesnt understand that Im just not in the mood either...I hope things change soon!
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  • Candim1920Candim1920
    Thank you all for the advice. I have a lot of stress in my life and he is learning to deal with it. At least he doesnt get mad any more
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