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The Happiest Day of Your Life
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Someone on another board asked if it was your wedding day or the day your LO was born.... I answered slightly differently. Just wondering what day you all see as your happiest?
Mine was two days after my daughter was born. It was the day that I realized everything had truly been worth it and I could do this on my own.
I sent my mom home (she was my support person) and had the whole day with my daughter. There were no visitors for most of the day and I got to spend quality time ALONE with her. I was able to take in my whole situation, cry and come to terms with it. I needed that more than anything. By that afternoon I felt closer to DD, it felt real and it felt amazing. This is the day I look back on and smile the most because we truly bonded. I took this picture that day:
It is my favorite one of the two of us.
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Re: The Happiest Day of Your Life
I can't pinpoint just one day, since there have been several over the course of my life, depending on what stage I was in.
Age 11 -- Bought my first horse
Age 16 -- Won Grand Champion Showmanship and 5 other first places at the fair showing my horse
Age 25 -- Got married and was able to celebrate with all of my family in one spot (yes, it was the happiest day of my life despite the final outcome).
Age 26 -- Had DS -- I think this will stand as the happiest day of my life for a long, long time
It definitely was the day P was born. My wedding day wasn't unhappy it was just...weird. I felt like I was in a fog and I didn't really feel a lot of emotions, which is strange for me. Like I was watching someone else get married or something.
When P was born it was definitely exhausting and painful but I'll never forget when they put him on my chest and he looked up at me. XH was to my left but it was so strange, he literally faded away like he didn't exist. I couldn't see him anymore, he got all blurry. It was truly surreal. I remember before the birth being really worried about letting my emotions take over and wanting to become a family again when we had that time together after P was born. Instead I got really annoyed with XH because he was pulling all of his old crap (pouting about other people being around, wanting more attention on him, acting like a baby, etc.). I just didn't have time for it anymore and I realized how obnoxious he was. I realized then that everything was very clear. I had one baby now, I certainly didn't need another.
I have lots of happiest days.
When each of my children were born.
The day I emotionally connected to my DS b/c it was weeks after he was born.
The day I first really slept after leaving my ex and all the weight was lifted off.
The day my pastor told my ex that he would support me getting an annulment b/c there is no way a sacrament happened at my vows to my ex. My Ex was so shocked b/c he made me go to the appointment thinking the Catholic church would MAKE ME stay married w/ him.
The day I graduated from university was also the same day I found out that my 2.5 year divorce was finalized.
The day I married my now H.
I don't remember the wedding to my ex as a happiest day not b/c how it turns out but there was a huge fog in my head...similar to the one Achase describes. I distinctly remember my dad asking me for the last time that if I was sure i wanted to do this and it's okay to get back in the limo and go home. I also remember thinking I guess I could get divorced if this doesn't work.
CRAZY. I had that same thought.
The day after DS was born and we first made eye contact. Everything in the world ceased to matter at that point. Wouldn't trade that moment for even the perfect husband...
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I was so out of it while I was actually delivering C that I don't remember much of it. But I remember my moment, it was when they gave C to me the second time.
When they first put him on my chest he didn't cry right away. His eyes were open and he was pink but he just didn't want to cry. They had an entire team of doctors in the room for him already because I was on medication while I was pregnant and they were there as a precaution. They took him away to another part of the room and I couldn't see him. I remember asking my sister what they were doing to him and if he was ok.
They finally brought him back over to me and he was perfect. He was wide awake and making little noises that reminded me of a kitten. Nothing mattered at that point.
"There comes a time in life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh, forget the bad, and focus on the good. So love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who don't. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living."
Thank you for posting this. I am pretty sure my marriage is going to end and I am so sad all the time. I needed the reminder that the happiest day of my life has yet to happen. I hope at my daughter's birth, I can feel as strong as you did.