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You canNOT spoil a newborn! (vent)

mommyjenny257mommyjenny257
in March 2011 Moms
Someone please tell my mom, stepmom, husband, and grandmother this!  I'm so tired of hearing that I shouldn't pick him up when he cries.  I've read the books and so on, holding him when he cries at this age may actually reduce his crying after he's 6 months.  I'm the mommy....I got this!
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  • amy259amy259 member
    I totally agree with you, how can you let a brand new baby cry it out!!! It's heartbraking for me to hear her cry.
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  • beeunitbeeunit member

    I JUST HAD THIS CONVERSATION WITH MY MIL AND HUSBAND TODAY!

    I was holding him and my husband said "you're spoiling that baby" and I said that newborns can't be spoiled...my MIL looked at me and said "OH yes you CAN".  I glared at both of them and said that neither of them were doctors and I've read all the books..they shut up.  Grrr... 

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  • TwinkzTwinkz

    I HATE that belief!  It's illogical and horrible for the baby to go through!

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  • soontobehimessoontobehimes
    I could not agree more. Crying = they need something. And I'm loving "I'm the mommy! I got this!" because I already want to kill a few people.
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  • StellarStina26StellarStina26

    I have had to repeat this line A MILLION TIMES!  I feel like a broken record saying that I am not spoiling her.  It kills me when we are driving places and I can't soothe her.  That is the ONLY time I let her cry - I don't have a choice for safety, the car seat it is, I wish DD understood that.  

    My boyfriend is always telling me to let her cry it out to sleep and I repeat again and again not until 4 months and I don't want to use that method to get her to sleep anyway!!  Grr!! 

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  • MrsCarroll.6-10-07MrsCarroll.6-10-07 member
    Me Pediatrician even told us that. You can't spoil a newborn...but you can spoil a 3-6 month old. So tell them your "Pedi" said...to get them off yoru back. =)
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  • bre87bre87
    UGH yes!!!!! why do people keep saying this? i'm not giving my baby tons of candy or toys she doesn't deserve. i'm holding her when she cries.  it's my baby. if she'll be spoiled because i couldn't stand the sound of her crying then let me deal with it.
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  • 1Mrs.Jones1Mrs.Jones

    i agree ... cry it out does not work with newborns. my SIL did it with her newborn, so everyone on that side of the family keeps mentioning that to me. there have been a few times that i haven't been able to pick up mackenzie immediately when she started crying (in the car, when i was in the shower and she was in her bouncer in the bathroom) and she just got MORE upset.

    Also, my pediatrician said that cry it out should only be used for up to 15 minutes, even with older babies ... good post!

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  • BloggingTeachBloggingTeach
    Love, Love , Love this!
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  • KayteagirlKayteagirl
    This is one of my favorite posts ever!  Keep holding those babies ladies!
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  • veggybuggveggybugg member

    I held my little girl for probably 22 of the last 24 hours,  the other 2 she was in her swing or with daddy.  She's only this ;ittle once.  Why should I not snuggle her and soak up every moment?????  We'll start the hard stuff like discipline & CIO when she's older.

     

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  • pregaftertubalpregaftertubal
    i posted this on my FB page when LO was about 2 weeks old.  EVERYONE who comented said ABSOLUTELY NOT, including two of my friends who are maternity nurses!  be strong ladies and don't let the haters change your minds!!!!
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  • hispenguinhispenguin member
    I must be in the minority here b/c no one has uttered those words to me. My mother loves to come over and "spoil" her granddaughter.
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  • AntiquecharmAntiquecharm
    Absolutely.  I pick my son up every time he cries.  Statistics show that if you do within four minutes you are actually bonding with your child.  Also, they do not yet know how to self-soothe until around 4 months.  I have had people say I am spoiling him-I give them the facts and basically that is a warning to back off from how I am handling my child's crying.  They usually "get" the hint. 
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  • Red_DahliaRed_Dahlia member

    imageMrsCarroll.6-10-07:
    Me Pediatrician even told us that. You can't spoil a newborn...but you can spoil a 3-6 month old. So tell them your "Pedi" said...to get them off yoru back. =)

    Ditto this advice. My pedi did tell DH and that we can't spoil our newborn by holding her. He said to hold her as much as we want. :) 

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