I don't think I can do this every month

Melgor78 · March 2011

I've been stressing myself out way too much and I'm only in my 3rd cycle. My cm has been confusing me this month and I feel like I'm O earlier than expected so I've been BD every night. Last night we didn't get to and now tonight, last minute plans came up for MH so we can't and I started crying because I'm afraid of missing my window. I don't know what to think about this, I don't think I can take this every month. I never realized how emotional this was going to be. Maybe I need a TTC break or something. This was going to be my taking it easy month. I just can't seem to. Ugh... thanks for letting me vent

Redsoxchick · March 2011

I completely understand, TTC is so much more emotional, harder, more stressful etc than most people realize it's going to be because you only usually hear about people getting pregnant, you dont get the back story. That is what makes this site amazing. You get to see that other people are going through what you are, that it unfortunately isn't just a fairytale, but you also get to see these people come on here and post about their BFP!

It's a journey, and it can be a tough one but I'm willing to bet it's all worth it in the end!

wagneram13 · March 2011

It is tough & stressful. My heart goes out to those who have been trying for so very long. I'm early in the process too and find it very difficult. It really makes you wonder how there can be so many unplanned pregnancies when it can take so much effort to get pregnant for others!

Hang in there. Hugs!

MrsJetSet · March 2011

I've been there and we are only on cycle 4. I really feel for those that have been trying for long periods of time. I almost lost it when I got a smiley OPK last week and thought DH would be out of town too long for appropriate timing. I try to relax and think of other things but it is hard to put out of my mind!

retallica · March 2011

Aww, I know exactly how you feel.

This much harder than I expected it to be, and especially emotionally. Just hang in there, I wish I could say it gets easier, but just try to keep in mind that it takes time and that there is always another chance next month.

Shayliz · March 2011

TTC is emotionally harder than most think it will be in the beginning.. it doesn't necessarily get easier as time goes on - you just become more accepting of everything and learn to go with the flow.

I hope you find a healthy balance soon.

clarisa_b · March 2011

I know how you feel, I never thought that this would be so hard. Or that seeing a BFN would make me cry, and I'm only 4 cycles in. Wishing you the best of luck.

adoruhbul · March 2011

Giving up and not doing this every month means you won't get pregnant. It's hard, it's emotionally draining, and makes you miserable most of time. You just have to find a way to keep yourself balanced, and try not to worry too much about your fertile window, you had sex the most you could in the time frame, if it happens it happens, and don't forget sperm can last up to 5 days, some argue more. You aren't out this cycle yet, good luck.

buckeyebride22 · March 2011

You took the words out of my mouth. I'm jealous of people who don't know about charting and OPKS and all that. I honestly wish I never did. But here we are. I've been trying to find something else to focus on. For me its getting back into shape. Find a hobby. Have sex when you want to. Have a glass of wine. Do whatever you can to decrease your stress. I know it will happen for all of us. For me that means taking a break from temping and OPK's. But I obsess so that is what is best for me right now. Do what is best for you and DH! You'll get through this!

FyreFry5 · March 2011

Shayliz:
TTC is emotionally harder than most think it will be in the beginning.. it doesn't necessarily get easier as time goes on - you just become more accepting of everything and learn to go with the flow.
I hope you find a healthy balance soon.

I definitely agree with this. You do what you gotta do. We all understand.

Hang in there, and good luck.

rsrs807 · March 2011

Hang in there! I think it's definitely more stressful than anticipated but I ultimately think charting etc helps me to better understand the process. If I'm doing everything that I can, then I just have to trust that it will happen when it happens.

I disagree with the poster who said this will make you miserable most of the time. It certainly does not make me miserable most of the time. Is it stressful? yes, it can be. Is CD1 depressing? Sure. But it's not making me miserable. I may feel differently after 12 cycles or 14 cycles or longer, if it comes to that, but at 6 cycles in, I'm not miserable.

Melgor78 · March 2011

Thanks everyone, glad I'm not alone. I think I'm stressing more cause this is our last chance for this year and next month isn't looking to good either. (scheduling conflicts) I think I might have screwed up my chart so I'll just relx and see what happens.

Amomtomanyluvs · March 2011

Trying to conceive takes its toll on us....it sucks most of the time. All the waiting and wondering. I felt like you the first few cycles and now I just kind of put it on the back burner, and do other things. I am focusing on working out, spring cleaning etc. But at the same time, I temp and do take charge I drink green tea, POM juice etc. and it makes me feel like I am being proactive in my TTC.....

Good luck!

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