How do you feel about people wearing your baby?

jmayamama · March 2011

Do you allow it or no?

I was talking with one of my friends and an upcoming hike we're planning. She said we could take turns wearing LO. At first I was like oh, cool. Then I started thinking...I don't know if I want anyone to wear him. I don't know, I feel like wearing your baby is kind of...an intimate thing? I don't know if that's the right word or not.

I guess it might be good so that he's exposed to different things but ahh I just don't know how I feel about it.

WDYT?

erinkate23 · March 2011

Heck yes. I'm a big believer in the village-raising-a-child thing. I believe in AP where the kid is attached to more than just Mama.

The current list of David-wearers includes me, DH, Grammy, Papa, Grandma, Grandpa, Great-Grandpa, 2 aunties, 2 uncles, 3 friends and a 10-year-old cousin.

jen5-03 · March 2011

I have no problem with it.

renee143 · March 2011

i felt this way very strongly with #1 and never let anyone wear her other than dh. #2 was so dependent on it that i had to add grandparents to that list.

leslie13510 · March 2011

As long as I was able to show them how to use the carriers properly the first time, I didn't care if someone else wore either baby/toddler.

cstyles · March 2011

I kind of feel the same way, but our sitter does wrap Coop. It is the ONLY way she can get him to sleep. I admit some times it feels a little odd having someone else wear him, but it makes him so happy. I also think it is important for him to bond to her, so I like that she wraps him for that.

I have also wrapped my mom to wear Coop.

If the friend is someone you're close with, then I think take turns. If it was a fair weather friend, I probally wouldn't. That's just me though.

Mrs. TLC · March 2011

i would much rather someone wear him than carry him and be uncomfortable, or just plopping him down in a swing/bouncy all day.

we went camping last weekend with our AP moms group, and DH wasnt able to come until the 2nd night, so it was just me and DS with nowhere to put him down the whole time (hard to cook, go to the bathroom, etc...although i did wear him when i went to the bathroom at 1am! poor baby i had to wake him but i was worried he would wake up crying while i was in the bathroom and a- be scared and b- wake everyone else up in neighboring tents). Anyway one of the other moms offered to watch DS for me so i could go take a quick shower and rinse off the sand from the beach - it was great to have 5 minutes to myself! she wore him in one of my wraps while i was showering and the only downside was when i came back he was really upset - being so close to her he could smell her milk and kept wanting to nurse!

MrsJeffers2006 · March 2011

I understand how you think. I encourage my immediate family to wear DS, although they haven't yet. I would only be comfortable with my mom, nana, and best friend wearing him. I am not as close with DH's mom, so I may feel odd about that.

someflower6 · March 2011

i respect your opinion but i honestly don't see how someone could be hung up on this. if a good friend or family member wanted to wear my LO (safely) not only would i be ok with it, i would love it.

i just don't get how people who are all for baby wearing and like to preach about how good it is for babies and all the benefits of it can suddenly turn around and be like "oh, but YOU can't wear MY child."

kwinters87 · March 2011

Lol, Grace is the guinea pig for anyone I teach to wrap/babywear. (I do this because she knows what's going on and isn't afraid, unlike a new to being worn babe) She's been worn by alot of people. Practically everyone in the API group, city wide babywearing group, and the wrapping group.

Needless to say I have no issue with it.

mamaholic · March 2011

It depends. If I'm there, I am going to wear LO. But I love that our nanny wears LO just as much as I would if I were home instead of working -- but that's when I'm not there to do it myself.

pixieprincss · March 2011

I would LOVE if family or friends would wear LO. The grandparents are not into it, which is a bummer since my dad watches LO a few hours each week and LO just adores being worn.

flowerchild77 · March 2011

Ive let people wear my dd before- ds is still young. I will once he gets head control though. Wink

Ive let my friends wear her before. Ive also worn others kids, comes in handy when Im babysitting them. Wink

Army_Wife_04 · March 2011

I have no problem with it, but really DH and I are the only ones to wear DS, simply because we don't live near any family or close friends. However, if one of my new friends here offered, I would let them. Both of my sisters are the only other people to have worn DS, and I loved it! I feel like not only were they able to bond with him, but it was a way to introduce them to BW, which we didn't grow up with. My sister is currently pregnant, and her experience wearing DS has encouraged her toward wanting some sort of carrier for her own baby.

goodheartedmommy · March 2011

I've worn other babies, other people have worn mine. Hell, my best friend nursed my youngest.

MellsHells · March 2011

goodheartedmommy:
I've worn other babies, other people have worn mine. Hell, my best friend nursed my youngest.

Now, there's something I'd have to think about!

goodheartedmommy · March 2011

MellsHells:
goodheartedmommy:
I've worn other babies, other people have worn mine. Hell, my best friend nursed my youngest.
Now, there's something I'd have to think about!

After 10 months of struggling, my milk dried up suddenly when we got H1N1. She was starving, refusing bottles, and I was desperate to get her to eat She had been supplemented with donor breastmilk a lot in the months leading up to this, so it wasn't a big deal.

She has a mega strong bond with my best friend since then, though...and she only nursed her twice (same day). I'm okay with it. The bond is really neat.

MellsHells · March 2011

goodheartedmommy:
MellsHells:
goodheartedmommy:
I've worn other babies, other people have worn mine. Hell, my best friend nursed my youngest.
Now, there's something I'd have to think about!
After 10 months of struggling, my milk dried up suddenly when we got H1N1. She was starving, refusing bottles, and I was desperate to get her to eat She had been supplemented with donor breastmilk a lot in the months leading up to this, so it wasn't a big deal.
She has a mega strong bond with my best friend since then, though...and she only nursed her twice (same day). I'm okay with it. The bond is really neat.

With the qualifier that I am unable to nurse, then I would definitely be okay with a good friend nursing and donor milk! When you first said it, I was picturing hanging out watching a movie or something, baby cries, I say, "I have to pee ... will you get that?" and she nurses her. Hm. No, I don't much like that.

Lurker216 · March 2011

I get it. Being a working mom I'm pretty protective of my time with DS. And some people tned to bring out the mama bear in me anyways (i.e. MIL). So if MIL asked to wear DS I'd probably say no. Someone I'm more comfortable with - like my sister- not a problem. I think for me it stems from wanting to set boundaries with MIL- I'm mom, you're grandma- type stuff. But we don't have the best relationship anyway.

lgmom2010 · March 2011

fredalina:
i think i felt that way in the beginning but that faded after maybe 6 months.

This.

HannaB · March 2011

I was fine with the sitter wearing him, but that's because she got the hang of the RS immediately. I am more cautious about any of his grandparents wearing him, because I worry about them (really just my MIL) mastering the logistics of any of our carriers.

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