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February 2011 Moms
Can I slap her?
Seriously, can I slap my MIL?
We went to her house on Sunday with all three of the kids. She didn't come to the hospital at all (Xander was there 9 days) so we really had not gotten any pictures of the inlaws with the kids. So I start taking pictures and she gets her camera out and I take a few with her camera. She then takes Xander and puts him on the couch and starts taking pictures of him by himself. I didn't have a problem with it... until she told me what it was for.
She informed me that my BIL (who lives about 3 hours from all of us) has not seen any good pictures of the baby. I told her that I have them on my Facebook and I have tons of pictures on there of all three of the kids and I am sure that they have seen them because they commented on them.
Then she tells me that she wanted to take pictures with her camera to show him that the baby isn't "darker" than my other kids. I was pissed... his family was kicking around at the idea that Xander isn't my husbands kid! She was taking pictures to send him to prove that he isn't different that my older two. She then runs out right when we left, to develop the pictures and she showed up at my house about an hour later.
She took a lot of other pictures too and I was excited to see all of the pictures. I just let it go (what she mentioned before about the baby) and then when I got to the pictures of the baby, she started in again. She said things like, "I think he looks like Austin when he was a baby." "I don't know what they are talking about, he looks like you." She said that to dh!
I am not insecure and really have no reason to be so defensive. I have only ever been with my husband and there is no question or doubt in either one of our minds about any of the kids. But who says sh!t like that? Why do people just speak without thinking? I get along with her for the most part... all my inlaws really. I am trying to let this go but it is really irritating me!
Anyone have anything super whitty that I can say if she says anything like that again? I don't want to be mean but I want her to know that she can't talk to me/about me like that...
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Re: Can I slap her?
Yes, you can slap her...
and.... you should say something along the lines of....
"i onlt sleep around with guys who resemble dh so i wont get caught. guess i wasnt so slick this time"
and then slap her again
1ht
Thank You!!!
The sad part is that we have been married 10 years this year. We are pretty solid. This is our third kid... where does she get off coming up with this crap now?
My oldest does look just like dh. My dd looks just like me. She is my MiniMe and looks exactly like what I did at that age. The baby doesn't look like either one of us specifically. He is a mixture of both of us. The only thing I can think of is that she was trying to get me going..... she has done this a time or two before.
I don't have anything up my sleeves for that one, but I'd totally put some pee in a vial and fix MIL an extra tangy cup of lemonade the next time I was over.
Yeah, I do have a problem with vengeance.
all the more reason to slap her for a 3rd time.
i have a super sh!tty MIL, so i understand.
or... like tiff said.... 1 cup of urine lemonaide coming right up!!! lol
Wow. Not only would have be peeved that the someone would say that to me but I was be livid that they are throwing around the thought and talking about it with other people. Gossiping and making b.s. up about someone being unfaithful in a marriage is not cool, especially when family is the one doing it.
Joking around talking about the milk man is one thing but your MIL having to take photographic evidence that your son isn't "darker" is totally not cool in my book.
This was dh's thought on their comments. He has red hair and none of his siblings or parents do either. They used to tease him when he was a kid that he was the milk man's son. That was what he compared it to when I mentioned it after she left. He said he thought she was just trying to be funny, like it was mentioned as a joke and she was taking it a little too far. He doesn't seem to be too bothered by it and I have not said too much about it to him.
I don't know if I can keep my mouth shut if I ever hear anything like that again. We shall see how Easter goes.... should be interesting. That is when the rest of the inlaws will see him in person and we will see what comments come from the peanut gallery then.