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Vent- my ridiculous KU friend!
Let me preface this by saying I am not bitterly jealous. ok here goes...
A couple I have been friends with for over a year now just recently found out she is pregnant, i was very excited for them. She is now 6 weeks along, and has only worked 3 days in the last 3 weeks due to "debilitating morning sickness". Im sure she is having morning sickness but it comes with the territory. She hasnt even been calling in herself, she is having her mother call in for her. I am having a hard time sympathizing for her. Her boss took her off of salary and made her hourly because she has missed so much work, which i understand and agree with, but she gets mad that I don't "take her side". I just feel that she is being really immature, and is really putting a strain on the others that she works with. (I used to work there, so I know how one person being gone really messes with everyone else in the company). Also, she sends me texts saying, dont worry amy, nothing is wrong with you, dont give up... bla blah... Ive never said anything about being worried to her, its only our 2nd cycle TTC. I JUST HATE THE DRAMA!!!!!! thanks for letting me vent.
Any idea how to handle her? What to say?
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Re: Vent- my ridiculous KU friend!
Ugh. I love when girls act like they're the first person to ever be pregnant. At least be an adult and call your boss and have a mature conversation to discuss a solution.
Maybe I'm a biitch, but I would tell her that I agree with her boss - she's not working and she's not being very responsible with her job, for that matter. Adults call themselves in to work and have conversations with their bosses when theyneed extended sick time to a. make sure their work gets done and b. retain their job.
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I had a friend who really did suffer from morning sickness that bad...it was so bad she had to take medicine and it still did not help. She ended up in the hospital a few times. BUT she still worked and never missed a day no matter what...
So it could be true that she is suffering from that but I am sure she should still be able to be productive. I have 4 kids to take care of and even if I had ms that bad, I would still have to get up and take care of them.
Thumbs up to all of this!
And about the txt messages...I'd tell her to kissmyas$.
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I had to take a rx for nausea and vomiting because it can get really bad.
The texting part is not cool. But the nausea can be really bad. My coworker (she's due in July) was out of work for almost 2 weeks and was hospitalized TWICE during that tiem for sever dehydration. She was literally throwing up 24/7. So some of the morning sickness is really all day sickness and can be very severe...
My best friend who was pregnant had dehbilitating morning sickness. She was vomitting constantly, and even the cancer strength meds (sorry forgot the name) didn't do much for her. She was hospitalized 4 times at minimum ( but I think more). She just had to wait it out. She lost a lot of weight in her first tri, and everyone was worried. Luckily she now has a healthy DD.
Nevertheles, your "friend" still should be calling herself into work. That part is what she's slacking on being an adult, also whining. Oh, and I'd tell her to shove the phone... well you get my point.
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My SIL gets Hyperemesis (gravidarum). With both of my nephews she had constant vomitting/nausea. With her first DS she quit her job because of it. She had in home nurses come in to administer Pic lines and was hospitalized a few times. It lasted until she was about 8 months. With her DS 2 it was worse and lasted until 9 months. She was also hospitalized several times with that pregnancy as well. She was told by our Dr (we had the same OB) that with each pregnancy it would get worse.
On the other point of her having her Mom call her boss. That is ridiculous.
Oh man I've had friends and acquaintances that get really carried away about being pregnant. Like EVERYONE around them has to experience it too.
I always say "I'm not going to be like that when I'm KU." And I hope I'm right. I'm sure you won't be either.
The work part wouldn't bother me that much bc its not really my business (except that she is making all pregnant women look bad), but the texting would INFURIATE me. So annoying.