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I read an article and now I'm worried

angelicalopez29angelicalopez29
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LO was born at 34 weeks, and my mom, who takes care of him insisted to give him solids at 3mo 1/2. Well... she did without my consent (while I was at work) and I got furious... then I noticed LO seemed to enjoy his solids. He doesn't really eat that much, but he IS eating solids, but today, I read an article about how bad it is to give solids to your LO this soon.. I am worried. I had asked the pedi when to start giving solids and he said I could at 4 months, but I feel worried he will choke. And mom doesnt understand my concern, she says "Oh, I have handled babies before I know it will not harm him!... " gosh and the worst thing is, I cannot do anything about it, she will do as she wants while I'm at work without me knowing... is this too bad? will LO have issues ?
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Re: I read an article and now I'm worried

  • Lilystar82Lilystar82 member

    Did your pedi say 4 months ACTUAL or 4 months ADJUSTED? Feeding him solids right now seems really really early IMHO. My pedi said we would talk about solids at their 6 month (actual) appointment because they would be around 4 months adjusted. He also said not to be upset if we decided to push it off a month or so. I would get clarification from your pedi.

    If you decide to stop feeding him solids, you need to stand up to your Mom and tell her pretty much that he is your child and that things need to be done your way. I also think its really awful that she would do it behind your back, that really sucks.

    Good Luck :)

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  • angelicalopez29angelicalopez29
    I called Pedi to make sure, he said wait until 5 months actual... told mom and she hang up the phone.. this is hard.
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  • Lilystar82Lilystar82 member
    Oh hunny, I am so sorry. Its so tough when Moms think they know best. Can you explain to her that his stomach is still so little because he's a preemie and still developing?
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  • angelicalopez29angelicalopez29

    I did, and she insists that doctors don't always know what is best, what frustrates me the most, is that she saw my baby boy in the NICU, I cant believe she is this irrational...

    I really wish nobody this situation, I cannot stop working I am the only income at home, daddy helps but we live in separate homes, and until we move in together again, and I get my at home businesses, my mother will have to watch over LO. Daycare put me on a waiting list (it is the government daycare, cannot afford to pay private) .

     

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  • ijackijack member
    I would be pissed as hell at my mom. She gave your kid baby food at 2 months adjusted?? YIKES! The fact that she's not listening to you at all would piss me off. Is there not any other choice for daycare?
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  • angelicalopez29angelicalopez29

    Nope, just wait until we get a spot... I'm not eager to put him in daycare either, because LO has a really hard time taking the bottle, and I am worried they wont have the patience or time to take with LO for his feedings... I wish I could win the lottery and quit my job...

    But this is life... 

    Thanks ladies for reading my post.

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  • MarriedBestFriendsMarriedBestFriends member

    I would say it's very early too. Here is some great science behind your LO's open gut- it has a scientific purpose to allow easy absorption of antibodies from breastmilk, but can play a negative role in health when solids are introduced too early. 

    https://www.kellymom.com/nutrition/solids/delay-solids.html 

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  • lemen99lemen99 member
    I would be really, really upset.  Is there any way you can find alternate child care for right now until your daycare is ready? 
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  • kamcfarlanekamcfarlane member

    apparently your mom doesn't care what the doctor says. but that IN NO WAY excuses her from not caring what YOU, his mom, says. if she's not respecting your decisions on something like this, i would hate to think what she will disrespect later on. i'd recommend sitting down with her and telling her that you don't want him eating solids and she should knock it off.

     good luck, i know things like this can be difficult. i think most people run into something similar with their parents thinking they know more, but it's amplified with preemies.

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    I would be pissed as hell at my mom. She gave your kid baby food at 2 months adjusted?? YIKES! The fact that she's not listening to you at all would piss me off. Is there not any other choice for daycare?

    Exactly this.

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  • angelicalopez29angelicalopez29

    I got home from work yesterday and she was ok, I mean not angry at me or anything. She has somehow accepted my decision, not that I need her acceptance, he is my son, but sometimes it feels like I have to share parenting with her, but oh... well, that is what I have to deal with while we live together, and later during the day we visited my grandmother, and she would say how exaggerated I am for not letting LO eat solids yet, I just sat quiet. But I felt like such a relief for making my decision be implemented, doctor said I could start giving him solids 5 months actual, he had no problems (or what I think) in what he ate these past days, but I am concerned, and I am considering delaying his solids until 6mo. My mother told me yesterday that she gave him solids because LO was not taking the bottle well, and she worried he was no eating much, LO has a really hard time taking the bottle, I don't know if he is teething, or its the reflux, or he is just playing around with the nipple.

     

    I really wish no one this situation, and I pray the Lord daddy and I marry soon so we could do the parenting, and not granny... 

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