Why do I have such horrible luck??.......

I had my 2 week follow up with the my OB today. First thing she tells me is that the chromosomal testing that I was waiting for will not be done as the hospital screwed up and sent all the samples out in formulin.....which makes the testing impossible to complete.  So....now I have no real answers as to why my daughter passed away.  This leaves me with no real information to help me make the decision if I should or should not TTC.  Though, I have to say, that I whole heartedly trust her and her instincts about what happened (I mean...despite being in preterm labor with my daughter for 12 weeks I never once had a doubt that my OB would make sure that I delivered that baby safe....I really should have been terrified but I never once doubted her!)  and she believes that there is no reason for me to not TTC again....but she wants me to wait 3 full cycles.  She believes that there should be a minimum of 3 cycles to allow for all stages of greiving before trying again. 

So...I guess it's not all horrible luck....I was really terrified that she was going to tell me that I am too old and would be foolish to try again.  What a huge relieve when she said if I wanted another one I should go for it and we would take all necessary precautions when the time arrives....because I know that as a doctor she would never hesitate to tell me the truth, no matter how painful.....once you find a doctor that will never hemmm and hawww about giving a straight answer you should stick to that doctor like glue....they can be few and far between!!

 Sorry..I kinda rambled there a bit....thank you all for you great compassion and support!

Shelly