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LO's Grandfather visiting...vent

amy259amy259 member
in March 2011 Moms

Sorry my posts are always wordy. 

I have a small family and DH's family lives overseas. As of now it's only my father and sister that we plan on having visit, we live about 14 hrs away from them. I have some issues with my father that I was working on with a therapist but then had my LO so that is on the back burner. One issue is I think my father has ADD or ADHD, he cannot sit still and just be which is the issue with him visiting.

My sister and her friend will be in the area next month visiting which means I have to invite my dad down before they come. I am not looking forward to doing it. I'm EBFing and am waiting to take LO out until at least 6/8 weeks so I pretty much am at her disposal and can't go and do things like attractions, dinner or whatever. I cannot see my dad sitting here with me BFing, it will make him totally uncomfortable and I will be too. He will be miserable sitting around and I don't feel like dealing with it. I know he wants to see his grandaughter but having company is not high on my priority list especially when he will be uncomfortable here. I know I just have to bite the bullet and get over it.

Does anyone else have similar feelings about not wanting someone to visit? This may sound horrible to some of you but I just don't have that family connection that some of you have. 

BFP 7/17/12 DD#1 3/10/10 BFP 3/26/12 Natural MC 4/11/12 #2 Due 3/30/12
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Re: LO's Grandfather visiting...vent

  • Spin313Spin313 member
    Why do you "have" to invite your dad down now, before your sister comes?
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  • amy259amy259 member

    I think that I feel like it's the right thing to do, guilty conscience.

    BFP 7/17/12 DD#1 3/10/10 BFP 3/26/12 Natural MC 4/11/12 #2 Due 3/30/12
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  • BeetleLinz1125BeetleLinz1125 member
    I don't see a reason to invite him if you are not comfortable...if your sister and her friend made these plans for purposes other than to see your baby, I wouldn't worry about it.  Invite him when you are comfortable doing activities, it will make it much easier and tolerable for all of you.  You can't do things out of guilt, but you have to do what is best for you and LO.
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  • TwinkzTwinkz
    imageBeetleLinz1125:
     Invite him when you are comfortable doing activities, it will make it much easier and tolerable for all of you.  You can't do things out of guilt, but you have to do what is best for you and LO.
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