For Mommies of boys (daddies aren't the only happy ones)

melaniedel · March 2011

Everytime we tell someone we are having a boy, they say "Oh your H must be happy" or "haha a little H's name". Have you experienced this? Their comments make me feel like H will be more bonded and he has so much to look forward to. I always thought little boys were super connected to their Mommies. I guess all of these comments make it seem like he is the only one that is happy to have a boy (for the record sex never mattered at all as its my first and have no pref.) Maybe I am being to sensitive (I am pregnant!), but feel kinda sidelined when we are congratulated. Anyone else feel this way? Have any good (but nice) come backs? Haha. TIA!

Traycee1242 · March 2011

Those stereotypes are annoying, aren't they?? We were Team Green but the second my son was born, we've been incredibly bonded. I was (and still am) the only one who can always calm him down. He loves DH of course, and they have a blast together... But oh I can't even tell you how those eyes light up when he sees me and squeals "Maaa maaa"... Even if I only went to Target and was gone an hour : )
I would just respond to people "We are BOTH thrilled to have a son and leave it at that.

rosegut · March 2011

I get a lot of that too, but I brush it off. I think people just look for something to say and its the 1st thing that pops into their minds.

I know preg hormones can make us jump at anything and ask ourselves," What does THAT mean," but most ppl just like to hear themselves speak and maybe "oh how wonderful!" is not forefront in their minds when it should be. I let it go.

desmerelda317 · March 2011

There is definitely something special about the bond between a mom and her son. I expect I'm going to find there's something equally special about the bond between mother and daughter (our u/s showed us this baby is a girl); but I do dislike the stereotypes that make it out like having a son is such a great thing for Dad and nobody mentions how awesome it is to be the mother of a boy. Congrats on your boy! He's about to have you wrapped around his finger like you wouldn't believe

ShawMich · March 2011

People are full of stupid comments. Now everyone knows we are pregnant with baby #3 and they keep saying, "Oh, you're trying for a girl, huh?"

WTH people...can't we just want another baby even if we have 2 boys? I could care less if it's another boy. I LOVE having my little guys.

Eiskonigin · March 2011

Pfft, ignore people. Little boys are usually more attached to their mommy's (at least until they hit a certain age, lol). That's why my son is momma's little Angel, and this little girl is going to be DADDY'S little Princess.

My mother was usually right there with me throughout my entire first pregnancy, and when people said anything like that to me, she knew how annoyed I would get (mostly because hubby had been hoping for a girl, and I had ALWAYS wanted a little boy, starting with the baby brother I never got, lmao), and she would tell them "Well, Idk, they are called momma's boys for a reason."

clee2009 · March 2011

I am not sure why but it seems like people are programmed to think that everyone wants a boy. When I had DD I had a client tell me not to worry...I would get my boy someday. Argh!

We are having a boy this time around and I get the same comments on how happy DH must be. Umm....okay?!? I really don't think people mean anything by these comments so I just smile and say yes he is very excited

melaniedel · March 2011

Traycee1242:
Those stereotypes are annoying, aren't they?? We were Team Green but the second my son was born, we've been incredibly bonded. I was (and still am) the only one who can always calm him down. He loves DH of course, and they have a blast together... But oh I can't even tell you how those eyes light up when he sees me and squeals "Maaa maaa"... Even if I only went to Target and was gone an hour : )
I would just respond to people "We are BOTH thrilled to have a son and leave it at that.

Awe, that is so sweet. Makes me feel a lot better!

melaniedel · March 2011

ShawMich:

People are full of stupid comments. Now everyone knows we are pregnant with baby #3 and they keep saying, "Oh, you're trying for a girl, huh?"

WTH people...can't we just want another baby even if we have 2 boys? I could care less if it's another boy. I LOVE having my little guys.

exactly!

Thank you everyone for the awesome replies!

SugarQueen101 · March 2011

I don't have a son, but I have 5 brothers and they were definitely mama's little boys. So was my husband :-)

hoot179 · March 2011

Traycee1242:
Those stereotypes are annoying, aren't they?? We were Team Green but the second my son was born, we've been incredibly bonded. I was (and still am) the only one who can always calm him down. He loves DH of course, and they have a blast together... But oh I can't even tell you how those eyes light up when he sees me and squeals "Maaa maaa"... Even if I only went to Target and was gone an hour : )
I would just respond to people "We are BOTH thrilled to have a son and leave it at that.

AW! This really makes me want a little boy!

4LittleDucks · March 2011

Someone told me when I had 2 boys and was pining for a girl - "Girls are nice but boys LOVE their mamas." And it's true. There is a relationship between boys and their moms that is so unique. I adore my daughter but she is independent and it is more important for her to get the approval of my husband ("I beautiful, Daddy?"). For my boys, it is so important to them to know that I approve of their choices and they want so badly to make me happy. There is something so heartwarming when they take my hand at the store (they're 5 and 6) or when they buy me something from the Santa Shop at school and are so proud (usually something horribly gawdy!) but they're trying to treat me like a lady and help "beautify" me. And they both have this goofy bedtime kissing routine with me before bed that dad watches and just rolls his eyes. I love it.

melaniedel · March 2011

4LittleDucks:
Someone told me when I had 2 boys and was pining for a girl - "Girls are nice but boys LOVE their mamas." And it's true. There is a relationship between boys and their moms that is so unique. I adore my daughter but she is independent and it is more important for her to get the approval of my husband ("I beautiful, Daddy?"). For my boys, it is so important to them to know that I approve of their choices and they want so badly to make me happy. There is something so heartwarming when they take my hand at the store (they're 5 and 6) or when they buy me something from the Santa Shop at school and are so proud (usually something horribly gawdy!) but they're trying to treat me like a lady and help "beautify" me. And they both have this goofy bedtime kissing routine with me before bed that dad watches and just rolls his eyes. I love it.

Awe, that is so adorable! I am getting so excited for him to come

water-fairy · March 2011

Yes, everybody assumed DH wanted a boy, which is exactly the OPPOSITE of what was the truth. My DH wanted and still wants a GIRL. He loves DS to death and they have so much fun together but he was disappointed it wasn't a girl. And no, we don't name children with their father's name in Italy so no, DS is not called like DH. We did get that question in the US a few time but nobody back home ever asked it. As I said, we do not use father's name for the son. Everyone has their own name where we come from.

I simply told people DH actually wanted a girl. They were all bummed.

bellablue2 · March 2011

I have two sons and with my second everyone acted all dissapointed for me because I wasnt having a girl. I heard well you can always try again! I have a wonderful bond with my sons and although I hope my third and final is a girl, I will love my little boy just as much!

browniechic · March 2011

4LittleDucks:
Someone told me when I had 2 boys and was pining for a girl - "Girls are nice but boys LOVE their mamas." And it's true. There is a relationship between boys and their moms that is so unique. I adore my daughter but she is independent and it is more important for her to get the approval of my husband ("I beautiful, Daddy?"). For my boys, it is so important to them to know that I approve of their choices and they want so badly to make me happy. There is something so heartwarming when they take my hand at the store (they're 5 and 6) or when they buy me something from the Santa Shop at school and are so proud (usually something horribly gawdy!) but they're trying to treat me like a lady and help "beautify" me. And they both have this goofy bedtime kissing routine with me before bed that dad watches and just rolls his eyes. I love it.

I have a daughter and I am now pregnant with a son. I am already excited to meet my little dude but this just made me think that 4 months is still a long way to go I can't wait!!! Thanks for posting!

llcoolay · March 2011

My two year old boy and I are very close...he only wants me most of the time...hes going threw a "Mommy" stage. Dont let them bother you.

Stellar1 · March 2011

We get that comment also. We have a DD so when we tell people that we are having a boy this time, they say oh so your dh must be happy. I just reply we actually both really didn't care the gender as we already love having a daughter. I also tell them that my DH is happier more for me about having a boy this time because my DD is a daddy's girl and this one will be a mommy's boy. I'm sure if we were having another girl, people would say obnoxious things like, are you going to try for a boy? People no matter what the situation always have to make annoying comments. Ugh...

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