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So Helpless...Sad Story :'(

Mrs.Florea-2-BMrs.Florea-2-B
in July 2011 Moms

I normally don?t like to vent but this really got me so upset and so helpless yesterday.... :(

So, yesterday I am at the office about to leave when in comes a woman (mother, I guess if you want to call her that) pushing a dirty stroller, with a beautiful Lil Boy, both drenched in water asking for help... At first, I thought someone was chasing her, or beating her or something really bad was happening... I was so taken back by her I called the my boss immediately to help her, he came out and we heard her story and she proceeds to tell us that, all she needed was money, if we could help her son not her, if we could do it for her kid sake.  She said she was living in a motel and that her landlady was threatening to kick her out and change her locks by 7:00pm (mind you it was pouring cats and dogs here is S. Fla. yesterday)...she needed our legal advice oh and money, she surely emphasized that... I felt so bad I wanted to immediately cry, I saw that Lil Boy, I mean he couldn?t have been more than 1 1/2 or 2 completely soaked in water, all I could think of is him being so cold, or hungry or something....for sure he would eventually catch a cold or something....you can tell she was on something you know, her teeth were rotten, she kept on twitching, talking really fast... I mean she was a complete mess... We asked her what motel and that we would call and she did not want to say, all she wanted was money, so my boss told her unfortunately we could not help...she eventually left back in the rain... I felt sooooo HELPLESS!!! I would have called the cops and or Dept. of Children?s & Families to have the kid taken from her but here in S. Fla lately that Department is coming down in such scrutiny for failure to actually help kids in need, just this past month I think 2-3 kids have been found dead at the hands of adoptive parents, the department was informed of said child abuse and they did nothing for those kids, really sad, Its a mess I tell you.....

That poor Lil Angel...How can mothers/fathers bring themselves to such a point in their life that they expose their kids to such a bad life, exposing them to danger, to sickness...I was left with such disbelief, such sadness... needless to say I left work and looked for her and couldn?t find her, I wanted to at least make sure the Lil Boy had food or a blanket? all evening and night I had that Lil boy on my mind...praying that God had mercy on him...and to help his mother...I hugged my Lil Nicky so tight last night...and still today driving to work I search for them but I could see them... So Sad, I felt so Helpless?.

 

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  • CocoBrynneCocoBrynne
    Stuff like that makes me so mad.  There are so many deserving people who struggle to have children and then losers like that are able to just pop one out after another, life is just so unfair!  Hopefully someone else will intervene or she will sober up just long enough to realize she needs to give him to someone who can properly care for him.
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  • kgunz11kgunz11 member
    People who use their kids to support their addictive habits are disgusting.  My heart aches for that poor child- mainly because of his crappy mother.  Ugh!  (((hugs)))
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  • HelloAnnie!HelloAnnie! member

    When something like that happens, I go to my local foodbank and drop off a big bag of food, or make a donation to some relief organization.  You might not be able to actually help that specific child, but I guarantee that there are children you haven't met that you will help.  I like to believe that by doing my part in that small way, it frees someone else up to help the situation I couldn't fix. 

    T&P going out to the little boy and his family. 

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  • clee2009clee2009 member
    That is so sad. I have volunteered in the past at a local homeless shelter and they always tell us never to give money but to refer/take them to the shelter or give them food, etc. Studies they have done show that some of those people actually make a living off of you feeling bad for them. Or use the money in ways that do more harm than good. Honestly, if you would have given her money it doesn't sound like it would have benefited the child at all. I feel so sorry for that baby....
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  • gabbeyhgabbeyh

    It kills me everytime I hear stories like that.  We have spent years and tens of thousands of $ to have our children and would love to have more than 2 but it is all we can afford.  I will never understand why some parents use their children and take advantage of their innocence for their own personal gain. 

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  • damabo80damabo80 member

    How sad. I really wish there was an application/interview that had to be passed before you could take a baby home from a hospital.

    Effective or not, I still would have called Child protective services...at least to log it.


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  • cburitzcburitz member
    imagedamabo80:

    How sad. I really wish there was an application/interview that had to be passed before you could take a baby home from a hospital.

    Effective or not, I still would have called Child protective services...at least to log it.

    This.

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  • Mrs.Leah.MariaMrs.Leah.Maria member
    I'm tearing up reading this. I know how hard it must have been for you, unsure of what to do. The worst part is the sheer numbers of kids in those situations. :(
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  • WorkingMomofTwoWorkingMomofTwo

    imagekgunz11:
    People who use their kids to support their addictive habits are disgusting.  My heart aches for that poor child- mainly because of his crappy mother.  Ugh!  (((hugs)))

    This! ITA! Poor baby boy! It's not his fault that he was born by a addicted mother! Why do those kind of people keep their kids knowing there is no way to care for them?

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  • Mrs.Florea-2-BMrs.Florea-2-B

    You ladies are so right and it kills me that I didnt call the dept. to come get the kid but I tell you there are horrible stories coming out in the news lately I didnt know what was worse, believe me....  However, I did like the suggestion to help out at a homeless place or shelters, I will def. be looking into that...that lil boy touched my heart. Still in my T & P....

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  • lovesliliesloveslilies
    That story is so heartbreaking.  I teach in a very rural, poor part of my county and my kids do not come from much.  There are so many of my kids that do not have the things that I took for granted growing up (my own bed, a bike to ride, a home cooked dinner each night).  It just makes me so sad to think about.  I try to make the best of their school day and make those 8 hours the best and happiest that I can.  I love the idea of dropping off a bag of food at a local shelter.  I know they won't go to that baby, but they will go to someone in need.
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