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September 2011 Moms
A lil irratated by peoples responses..
Well all of my life I've wanted a girl. All my friends and family knows this as well. There are only boy grandchildren in my family so far. Since I've been pregnant, my mom and my two sisters in particular have carried on that I'm gonna have a girl. I'm well educated with the science behind gender determination. But I have just known my husband will be a boy producer! Therefore, I've felt like I'm having a boy the whole time. A healthy baby is of course first and foremost so please spare me those comments.
I've known the sex of the baby for a couple weeks now thanks to working in radiology. I had it confirmed by a coworker last week. As I knew, it's a boy! I would be lying if I said I didn't have a small feeling of dissapointment. But honestly I think my aspirations of having a girl has more to do with the shopping than anything else.
So, everyone's reactions to the news was less than favorable. My lil sis says to me when I tell her, "awww man!" My husband was even a little bummed. And the whole 8years we've been together he always told me he prefered boys!! My mom and other sisters' was more along the lines of that's okay. Well of course it's ok!! I don't know. I think maybe they think I'm more bummed then what I really am or something. I guess I just expected a little more excitement for the news in general. Ah well, I'll quit crying now, just needed to get it out.
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Re: A lil irratated by peoples responses..
To be honest, I wanted a little baby girl first and would have been [slightly] disappointed if I found out it was a boy instead. (Not ungrateful, but definitely not as expected) because I am excited about the clothes and bows and pink stuff. If you want, you can clothes shop online and send me the links, I just may buy it... BUT
On the plus side, if you have a daughter next, she'll have a wonderful older brother to watch out for her! My brother has been my best friend and even though we fought when we were younger, we get along great now.. so either way, there's a winning side.
I understand you wanting to vent though and I don't blame you. I know you're just as excited and things will be perfect... (I've also heard that boys are easier, if that helps)
Okay, in lieu of your family's underwhelming responses: CONGRATULATIONS!!! You're having a boy--yippee! That's sooo awesome. Tee-ball practice, hockey skates, greasy food at pro sports games. In kindergarten, he'll prob have a little girlfriend until he finds out that girls are ICKY and won't have anything to do with them until 5th or 6th grade. And Marvel Comics superheroes galore! Just think of miniature batmobiles and Spiderman action figures. Canon balls in the pool and melting ice cream in the summer.
And like the PP said, if you have another LO and should that LO be a girl, she's going to have the coolest big brother ever. Again, congratulations, and go get your blue shoppin' on.
Congratulations on your little boy! Maybe everyone's response was mostly because they knew you really wanted a girl? I fear the same reaction with us. I have been vocal that I want a girl and feel like people will think I am disappointed if it is a boy. Which would SO not be the case, but that is the problem with preferences.
Congrats again on your little man.
I too have been really vocal about wanting a girl, and DH wants one too, because I do. But, I'm already psyching myself up for a boy. Honestly, this is such a blessing that we never expected- we will be happy with either, of course! But, I want a girl so that my DH can be a dad to one. I know he'll be a great dad. I didn't have the best dad, and I guess, I just would want a little girl to have the opportunity to have my DH for a dad... I would have loved a dad like him. I don't know if that makes sense.
Having said that, we're going to be the best parents we can be to a girl or a boy.
Just know that whatever your feelings are, whether they change day to day or week to week, they are valid. Feel them, and embrace them. Your little man will be the light of your life in a few months and nobody will have a thing to say besides "He is so cute and you are such a great mom!"
I was team green last time, and for 30+ weeks I had a slight preference for a girl, so it was a bit of a shock and took a little adjusting when I found out he was a boy. BUT - I absolutely love being a boy mom now, and I am hoping that this next one is a boy so they can have little buddies. The clothes are totally cute for boys too, don't worry that you won't have fun shopping.
DS is such a little monkey, and there's definitely a difference in how boys/girls play in general (of course there are always exceptions) and I love his rough & tumble attitude. Also, seeing my husband with my son just melts me heart, he calls him his 'little captain' and they're just the sweetest two boys I could ever imagine.
First of all Congratulations!! Second, I can understand where you are coming from. When I was preggo with DD I wanted a girl so badly and I would have cried my eyes out if she had been a boy.
I agree with this. People probably thought you were really upset and they didn't want to show enthusiasm for fear of upsetting you further. But honestly they might be quite excited for your baby boy.
I'm a little afraid of this reaction myself. Most people around me know that I have always wanted a boy. That was before I got pregnant. Now I really don't care. But I think a lot of people still believe that, so if we have a girl I think they might wonder if I'm disappointed.
Congrats on your baby boy!
This. They're not disappointed it's a boy, they are empathizing as they know you had hoped for a girl.
Congratulations on your little boy!