Did having 2u2 change the # of kids you want?

LemonBlush · March 2011

DH and I want 2u2 (we'll start trying when DD is about 11 months). I also want 3 kids eventually. Did having 2u2 make you not want anymore, want more, or maybe you always wanted just 2. Just wanting to hear some perspective Thanks.

Rolamarie · March 2011

Haven't had mine yet- but my two cents anyway:

We wanted 4, spaced about 3-4yrs apart. With this surprise 2u2, I'm starting to think that if we decide to have more (less likely now), it will not be for at least another 6-8yrs. So, yes, it has changed my plans. Granted, they could change back after I bring LO home. We'll see.

LDQAM516 · March 2011

Nope! We wanted 2u2 and still want a third...and are in the process of TTC. For us, 2u2 was never hard...just a big adjustment...and it is a ton of fun now...and as I write this...they are laughing and chasing after each other...I love it! And depending on how the third goes...we might try for a fourth.

HarrietNJMommy · March 2011

Not exactly. Doing 2u2 TWICE made us change our mind. We did want 4 kids, but we're now done at 3.

CHI-06 · March 2011

Didn't change our minds. DH has always wanted 4 and still does... I have always said 3 maybe 4 and feel the same way now. Our 1st and 2nd are 20 months apart. Our 2nd and 3rd will be 17 months apart...and this is on purpose.

lkf041 · March 2011

Ummm... points to tickers. No having 2u2 did not change our mind, ours are 18 months apart and then will be 18 months apart again. We'd like 4, who knows if that will change after our 2nd round of 2u2:)

kcisthebombdotcom · March 2011

It's made me lean towards only 2 kids, but I havent made up my mind 100% yet. The way I look at it is that I'm getting the benefit of getting out of the newborn phase/sleepless nights/teething phases quicker. The idea of having 2 more independent toddlers and then starting all over again with an infant kind of freaks me out, but I think 3u3 would be unmanagable (for me personally). I find it easy to pay attention and care for both of the kids needs at the same time, but I think throwing a 3rd into the mix would involve someone being left to cry and I dont like the idea of that.

t.bird · March 2011

it made me breifly consider stopping at 2- but i still really want at least 3. the husband wants 4 or 5 so yeah- no changes

trinny · March 2011

I never had the chance for "baby fever" with DS2 (surprise), so I could see maybe feeling it after DS2 is 5 yrs old or something? But we are DONE-- I could not do the newborn thing when I'm pushing 40-- hard enough in my early 30's!

Staceyew · March 2011

We always said that we wanted 2 kids, but having 2u2 has me thinking of maybe having a third.

DD #2 was a welcomed surprise. We never got to "try", I also didn't find out I was pg with # 2 until I was 18 weeks. So I missed all of the excitment of trying to get pg and actually having it happen.

We will decide in the next 2 years if we will have a third, to be honest we are leaning towards no, but sometimes I get a wild hair up my butt.

AutumnBride929 · March 2011

I always knew I wanted my first two close in age (especially after we had DS, baby fever struck relatively quickly) but I think the reality of the financial situation with just two kids in general (not necessarily 2U2) is making us re-think our plans a little. Well, DH never wanted more than three but I used to want like five. Big Smile

Not so much anymore. Maybe three... maybe. But I seem to realize more and more every day how perfect just two kids will be. An even ratio... affordable... they've got their sibling... and if this one is a girl, then I'll be more inclined to stop at two. So, essentially, 2U2 didn't change the number of kids I wanted but thinking about just two in general has (because I have no actual experience with 2U2 yet)!

rosesandpeonies · March 2011

we want four...all it told us is that we definitely want to wait at least three or four years for #3 and we will see then if we will try for #4. 2 under 2 is tough, and exhausting. Of course I would welcome any new addition if it happens before our planned time...but that is what we are thinking.

Court0026 · March 2011

Not sure. Having my 2nd child changed my mind for sure, but I don't know if I would feel differently if there was a bigger age gap. DD has been such a difficult baby that I cannot imagine having more kids! ALTHOUGH, she is getting cuter now...

bim38106 · March 2011

I used to want 4. Then I had 1 colicky baby, extremely high maintenance child. I knew I definitely wanted 2, maybe 3.

DDs are 20 months apart. Having 2 made me think that we're probably done. I don't think it's the age difference, more the fact that it is HARD giving them the attention that they want and need and deserve, both equally and some individual attention. I know plenty of people do it well, but I guess I'm selfish in a sense that I don't know if I'd want to add a 3rd to the mix. I don't know that I could still get my "me" time + good me and DH time + give each child the attention in the way that I want.

That said, IF (big if) we do have a 3rd, it will be when both girls are in school (DD2 in K). I KNOW that my patience could not handle a 3rd this close in age again. I could do 2u2 again when the girls are older (that's not the problem), it's just adding a 3rd when the 1st 2 are still this young would really be too much for me.

CaitlinJ22 · March 2011

Before DS I wanted 3 or more. Then I had him and said I would have maybe 2 and wanted to wait to have a second 4 or 5 years later. Then baby fever hit and I realized I wanted them less than 2 yrs apart. We got pregnant right away and they are 18 months apart. I LOVE it.

DD is an easy kid, and the second time around I am more laid back. DH is gone offshore for 3 wks at a time and its rough. I have my sister 45 mins away, but thats it. I still love it. Is it hard at times? yes. Are my hands always full? yes, but I love them full. I do want more. So does DH. He is an only child and wants more. I want maybe 4, but we'll see what happens after 3. So no, having two under 2 has not changed my view. We will have a bigger gap (2.5 + years) btwn 2 and 3, and if we go for 4 I would like 2 u 2 again.

For a brief moment when I found out DD was a girl I thought, how perfect, I could stop now and feel complete and things would be easy and we could be done....that lasted all of a few days. I am blessed to have the kids I do, and if we couldnt get pg again I would feel happy with my two....but if I can, I would love more.

jkelly41 · March 2011

DH wanted four and I wanted three. Now, DH is done and I'm on the fence. DD is not a great sleeper and we barely recovered from DS before she came along. Not to say 2u2 did this, but DH has a sleep condition and requires a lot of sleep. You can't get it when you have two young kids.

Unfortunately, I think we may be done but part of me wouldn't mind another one when DD is just about two or so.

PhilsWife07 · March 2011

I've always wanted at least three, but I think having two who are almost exactly two years apart only made me want another one even more. I don't like the idea of having my only two children out of the house one after the other.

If we had spaced them out further I might have considered only having two.

Nani0710 · March 2011

Wow I guess I am alone but I am the only Yes. I considered three children but after having 2under2 this summer we decided we are done. Hubby got operated this month. We are still in college soon to graduate and we both want to go for our Masters degree and having more kids would make it more difficult. If we change our minds in the future we agreed to adopt.

mechanicsgirl · March 2011

I wanted 4 before I had DS. Now we're done.

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