Is anyone else annoyed by this...

akleine8 · March 2011

Maybe its just the hormones but it seems I get very upset about ppl always touching me (my bump). My friend said to me that I was being way over pretective and babies no even here yet, I replied well guess how its going to be when it gets here lol. Im really not trying to be mean but I dont want anyone in my personal space even if it is to feel baby it makes me feel violated to an extent.

DutchGirl2 · March 2011

A friend of mine actually bought a t-shirt that said "touch the belly, lose a hand"

https://www.cafepress.com/+lose_a_hand_ts,442410438

Personally what weirded me out was that my first "inappropriate tummy touchings" was at like 14 weeks. A Coworker I don't know very well just happened to be in the room when I was telling some other people and just randomly rubbed my belly. I wasn't that far and there wasn't even anything to rub yet!! I was expecting it once I popped but definitely not that early!! It caught me so off guard I was too stunned to say anything!

I would just tell the person - I know you're excited about the baby too but I'm really not comfortable with anyone touching my stomach.

caffinated_tulip · March 2011

It's mostly been DH and my mom, so that's okay, but I had a friend-of-a-friend like, grope my belly at a dinner party. But he was being nice about it and really drunk at the time so I let it slide.

In general though, I dont see myself reacting well to it.

memali26 · March 2011

The only person allowed to rub my belly is my DH. Anyone else gets stopped. It's not about being over protective of the baby - it's about it being MY body and everyone keeping their hands to themselves.

lmjt · March 2011

When people touch my belly I ask them if I can grab their ass.

Works every time.

COMomma81 · March 2011

Um, yes. I got completely fondled yesterday by DH's aunt. So much to the point she even said, "hey, you've still got an innie!" She couldn't keep her stinkin' hands off me. My own husband hasn't touched my stomach that much, lol! It was just weird. I don't understand people feeling the need or that it's okay to touch someone in such an intimate way at all, but it seems some people can't help themselves!

ashg8r · March 2011

Personally, it would only bother me if it was a complete stranger. When I was pregnant with DD a couple of DH's friends were curious and I let them feel the baby kick. My girlfriends probably gave me a belly rub at some point or other and I didn't think anything about it. To me it's sort of like hugging someone, so if I wouldn't be comfortable hugging them, I wouldn't be ok with them groping my belly. But I know everyone feels differently about this, so people really should respect your "personal space!"

avoidsreality · March 2011

I would say it annoys me...but it hasn't happened to me yet!

I don't like people in my personal space, so a stranger just grabbing me would bother me regardless of how protective I feel over my little baby.

I can say I've seen those shirts on www.cafepress.com and they are hilarious. I liked the one that says "yes i'm pregnant, it's a girl/boy, i'm due ____, i feel fine, no you can't touch my belly"

I saw some people saying men touched their bellies, I thought it was more of a woman thing. My husband actually had a co-worker (who has an admitted "thing" for pregnant ladies) of ours tell him that he really wants to touch my belly, but hasn't because DH is around. It took all DH had in him from knocking him to the floor...that's really sort of a creepy thing for a guy to say/do!

lizzyopal · March 2011

very few people are allowed to rub the belly (DH, my mom, MIL, best friend). one of the girls i work with tried to once and i gave her the stare of death when she did it...needless to say she hasn't tried since!

water-fairy · March 2011

I must look like an angry ***, because nobody tried to touch my bump when I was pregnant with DS. I'll make sure it doesn't happen this time either. Next time somebody touches try replying back by touching their tummy and see if it will bother them to have their body invaded by other people's hands. It would annoy the heck out of me.

MFAinNYC · March 2011

COMomma81:
Um, yes. I got completely fondled yesterday by DH's aunt. So much to the point she even said, "hey, you've still got an innie!" She couldn't keep her stinkin' hands off me. My own husband hasn't touched my stomach that much, lol! It was just weird. I don't understand people feeling the need or that it's okay to touch someone in such an intimate way at all, but it seems some people can't help themselves!

DH's grandmother totally molested me. I was so upset.

Kuraks10 · March 2011

Ugh; Lately I don't like ANYONE touching me...at all...let alone rub my bump. It's annoying and puts me in a bad mood.

I think it's just the hormones and maybe it'll get better.

dmogmo · March 2011

No one has ever done this to me, thank god. DH doesn't even do it. I would not be kind to some random person who tried if they dared.

sunandsurfmama · March 2011

No. You are not being overly hormonal. It is your body and no one should touch it without your permission, whether you are pregnant or not.

The only person I allow to touch my belly is DH and my MW. When people go to put their hand out, I step back. It is not okay with me.

I can also tell you that when the baby comes, especially early on, I do not want strangers to have their hands all over the baby without my permission. Overprotective or not, that is my call as a mother.

ermaderma · March 2011

omg, I wanted to kick my girlfriend in the face after she kept rubbing my belly and trying to talk to the baby!

DH has touched my stomach and that is fine, but I can't deal with anyone else touching it. I feel weird touching other people's bellies (my cousin and BFF constantly would make me feel the baby move when they were pregnant).

JrsGurl1823 · March 2011

LOL thats a good one!

bluerevolution9 · March 2011

I went to a wedding last week of DH's good friend who he grew up with. He grew up in a very small tight community where everyone is like family. I guess thats why they all though they could rub my belly. ALL of them! I spend the whole wedding being rubbed and patted it was weird. I know they all meant well, but it was like "enough! im still a person here" i told DH that it was getting to me but he didn't understand why it would upset me. now we have another wedding next week with the same crowd and im sure its going to happen again.

ajmasl · March 2011

the only people that have touched my bump are of course my hubby, my MIL once, my dad and my mom. However, my mom goes a bit overboard sometimes and leans down near my belly kisses it and talks to the baby. She does this almost everytime I see her. If not she'll at least rub it. Although it can get somewhat much for me, I let her since she's my mom and not a stranger. Haven't had random people do it yet though.

NativeFloridian · March 2011

lmjt:
When people touch my belly I ask them if I can grab their ass.
Works every time.

You always have the best solutions.

I got my first undesired belly rub last night. It was FI's mom, so I didn't want to tell her to get off, but I was highly uncomfortable the whole time she was touching me. I just don't like it - I didn't even really care for it when my mom would rub my belly with DD, and I especially hate it when random-a$$ people do it. Nobody would ever normally touch my belly, and I would never normally allow it. What makes them think they can just because a baby's in there? Especially without asking. Rude.

erika1677 · March 2011

bluerevolution9:
I went to a wedding last week of DH's good friend who he grew up with. He grew up in a very small tight community where everyone is like family. I guess thats why they all though they could rub my belly. ALL of them! I spend the whole wedding being rubbed and patted it was weird. I know they all meant well, but it was like "enough! im still a person here" i told DH that it was getting to me but he didn't understand why it would upset me. now we have another wedding next week with the same crowd and im sure its going to happen again.

This happened to me at my husbands birthday party! I was so annoyed and I told them all not to even try it come summertime!!

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