Why do people feel the need to...(tiny vent) :)

Jen10702 · March 2011

Why is it that when people around you find out that your pregnant, they feel the need to tell their own horror story(or any story at all) of when they were pregnant...lol.. I know unfortunate things could happen.. but I don't want to think about it now... and I'll add those mommies that have one child ( that is not well behaved at all) that thinks she knows everything.. and is going to tell you EVERYTHING you need to know about your pregnancy!!

Anyway.. hope everyones having a great start to your week!!

kim1989 · March 2011

thats one reason Im glad I dont live near my sister right now. She always think she knows about everything even if she hasnt experienced it and although she has two kids already, unless I asked her directly for advise I wouldnt want it :-p

ashleytyler7 · March 2011

OMG I know. My biggest peeve is when people ask you questions about your plans for birth and bfing and then try to talk you out of them! Like why did you ask me what I want to do, when you are just going to try to talk me into what you did!

Jen10702 · March 2011

Yes!! and as their child is walking by screaming and crying because he didn't get something he wanted.. she says " look what you have to look forward to".. I wanted to say "umm no, my child will be one of those well behaved ones" but instead I said "maybe" which might have been worse.. lol!

abrazz · March 2011

I actually hear the opposite a lot, like "I loved being pregnant and wasn't ever sick or have any pain and my labors were really short." I obviously am sick, have pain, and my last labor (although super long) was long enough.

kim1989 · March 2011

Jen10702:
Yes!! and as their child is walking by screaming and crying because he didn't get something he wanted.. she says " look what you have to look forward to".. I wanted to say "umm no, my child will be one of those well behaved ones" but instead I said "maybe" which might have been worse.. lol!

Yes

SailorGray · March 2011

Because it's fun and, I hate to say it, but you will probably find yourself sharing some crazy stories about your preg/birth to some newly pregnant friend. It's just the way it is.

CNAMamaof2 · March 2011

Jen10702:
Yes!! and as their child is walking by screaming and crying because he didn't get something he wanted.. she says " look what you have to look forward to".. I wanted to say "umm no, my child will be one of those well behaved ones" but instead I said "maybe" which might have been worse.. lol!

I now say the same thing even though those moms really used to irritate me. Sometimes the melt down is unavoidable and my DD is usually very well behaved and if I say no she accepts it.

My BF was a total know it all during my first pregnancy. The best part is she doesn't even have kids! It really pissed me off and I avoided her a lot during the pregnancy. She is out of state for this one thank goodness, but is still reminding me almost daily about things I should be doing.....and she still doesn't have any kids.

ashg8r · March 2011

YES!! I try so hard to be supportive of whatever it is someone is telling me they want for their birth. When I was pregnant with DD so many people went on and on about how I should get the epidural, and for me, going med free was the most amazing thing ever! BUT after having experienced labor myself I know why women get it, especially for a long labor (mine was only 8 hours).

I try to only give details if one of my pregnant friends ask - and that's what mom friends are for, comparing battle scars after labor!

SugarQueen101 · March 2011

The know-it-alls annoy me most, especially when they talk about how much I'm going to hate being a mom. LOL I think when people talk like that, they are just fishing for company that is just as miserable as they are. I just ignore them or change the conversation. You can always find somebody who's miserable no matter their lot in life. I like to be around positive people.

lmp76 · March 2011

LOL I get the same thing! all the time.... Im soo tired of hearing it.... lol

FutureMrsWittig · March 2011

Ugh. I hate this. This and the just-wait-it-only-gets-worse-mongers.

Really? Do you not remember being scared the first time around? Why do you feel the need to try and terrify me?

Nopenname · March 2011

It's largely camaraderie and not really getting much of a chance to be able to tell people about either 1. a really traumatic time in their lives (my first birth was traumatic though my baby was perfectly healthy and I was fine) or 2. a really great time in their lives filled with emotion and learning things about themselves (my next two deliveries) with much frequency.

I mean if you think about it, labor and delivery is just one of those things that no one wants to hear about. Half the people you know especially those that haven't had kids probably think it's gross and creepy and painful and squicks them out. There's also never really a great time socially or in public to talk about that one time you labored for 36 hours, pooed on the table, pushed out a baby, and then got 114 stitches in what your OB described as a "vaginal c-section" now is there? So the uncomfortable story tellers are just relieved that you might be an ear to tug since they so very rarely get to tell their stories.

llcoolay · March 2011

I think people are just trying to be nice and help......when giving advice. As far as horror stories they just want to share their experience with you. However I do see how it can be annoying.

llcoolay · March 2011

kim1989:

Jen10702:
Yes!! and as their child is walking by screaming and crying because he didn't get something he wanted.. she says " look what you have to look forward to".. I wanted to say "umm no, my child will be one of those well behaved ones" but instead I said "maybe" which might have been worse.. lol!

Soooo easy to say BEFORE you have kids. Halarious! Big Smile

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