Ok, be honest. Who's had a breakdown?

anglndsguse44 · March 2011

I'll admit it. I had my first early this morning, around 4:00 am. Connor had been up since about midnight and in between feedings was very fussy. DH is sick and I kicked him out of the room because he was coughing so much. On top of being sleep deprived, my neck and back are in shambles. I just burst into tears. It actually felt good to get it out and cry.

Who else?

LynsiBHM · March 2011

I had a breakdown last night because this kid is still in my belly! I was overtired and frustrated trying to do the simplest things around the house, then one too many people called to see if the baby is here yet and I lost it! Sleep deprivation and hormones are fun, huh?

eturp · March 2011

**raiseshand**

I had one the first week, DH left to go run a few errands and was gone for 4 HOURS!! He didn't do it intentionally but I was still frazzled by the time he got back. I was having a ton of back pain that day (from my epi??) to the point where my teeth hurt Tongue Tied and expecting him to be home by a certain time and that not be the case totally threw me and I started the whole "how am I going to handle this when DH goes back to work" "I'm doing a horrible job if I'm already stressed" bit in my head. It ended w/ me in tears and DH feeling awful but we survived and I'm happy to report that I haven't had a breakdown since Smile

Tarah716 · March 2011

Um me for the first two and a half weeks. This past weekend DH was home with me and really helped me get a handle on this whole parenthood thing. I had a case of the baby blues and I am pretty sure I'm over the worst of it. I cried daily.

MarchABC · March 2011

Ummm.. yeah... that would be me. I'm glad I'm not alone!

I like to think of myself as a patient person but this motherhood thing is HARD! I've never in my life felt this impatient and I think of the 11:00 feeding time as my witching hour. I am easily frustrated and cry or snap at DH which is an unfamiliar feeling. I've never felt this way or acted this way with my husband or my students. I am blessed to have an amazingly understanding and caring DH. I blame hormones and lack of sleep and I tell myself "this too shall pass." I'm ready for the "bitching hour" to stop!

jess1984 · March 2011

In the first week before we found a soother she liked I broke down becuase I could not settle her down at all and my nips hurt so bad that I didn't want her on the boob anymore so I rolled over and told dh he had to take her for a drive or something becuase I needed sleep and to let my nips recover. That did the trick and she calmed down and I got some rest and all was better. The next day we found that she would take Soothies and that has made my life so much easier becuase shes the kind of bab that likes to suck all the tie, so she would be on my boob 24/7 if we didn't have that.

rrobert267 · March 2011

I totally had several break downs when we brought the LO home. She won't sleep unless I held her thus I was not sleeping at all. Finally my mom came for week to help and I was able to get sleep and to get her to sleep without being held.

ermimac · March 2011

I totally had a breakdown too. It was about a week after we brought Liam home and we thought he had colic. Just nonstop crying and we didn't have a pacifier that worked and he had just ate for like 2 hours and I just didn't know what else to do. My stomach was upset so I didn't want to feed him anymore in case it was making him sick, so I made a bottle of formula to supplement with and DH accused me of making it wrong (which I didn't.) I just had a complete melt-down. Ugly, uncontrollable, sobbing tears and everything. I closed myself in the bedroom and told DH to leave me alone. Well, his idea of leave me alone was to let me sleep the WHOLE night. He didn't even wake me up to feed the baby...just supplemented with more formula. I was SO mad! I woke up completely engorged, worried the DS wouldn't latch anymore (it was the first time we had fed with formula), and worried that it would cause my milk supply to completely plummet. Things have gotten a lot better now and DH always wants a "game plan" about who is feeding him (me or pumped BM) so that he won't repeat his mistake.

linn1376 · March 2011

Our LO is almost 3 weeks old and I would have to say I have had several breakdowns. He won't sleep unless we are holding him which has been very tiring and stressful. Breastfeeding wasn't going so great in the beginning because my milk took a long time to come in and that plus bleeding nipples created a lot of stress. LO is still only sleeping in our arms or temporarily in the RnP but at least most of the other issues have resolved themselves. People keep saying it will get better but it's hard to accept that when you are in the moment.

LovingStepMom · March 2011

After the first 2 weeks, I had 3 - 4 breakdowns in week 3. Then...I started to get used to being sleep deprived and finally made it past the wall of pain. Now...we have been struggling again with breastfeeding...and then I hit another wall...and we've begun to move past it again.

I just remember it's all temporary and somehow we keep moving forward

jkyle · March 2011

Totally been there. I have been tearier than usual every day, but with both kids I had one really bad day around the 1.5 week mark where I was often crying and had no idea why! No sleep, a little human and a major life change are a recipe for a weepy mama. It's ok to cry and it's normal! Like a pp said, you often feel a bit better if you just let it out! It gets easier though and soon you will be laughing at your hormonal, new-mom melt downs!

rac20585 · March 2011

The weekend before last, I completely lost it. DH had been back at work the entire week so I had no help with the night feedings, which were every 2-3 hours. DS was gassy and fussy, and I was totally sleep-deprived and hormonal. I was still coming to terms with my emergency C-section and having to FF instead of BF. The last straw was when DH was supposed to take over the night feedings that weekend, but he slept so soundly that neither DS's crying, his alarm, or my kicking him would wake him up! I was too wired and upset to sleep anyway so I ended up doing it all myself. When I wasn't tending to DS, I was lying in bed sobbing and wishing I could sleep like DH. The next morning I called my mom and told her I felt like I was going crazy and was worried I might have PPD. She suggested that DH and I have a date night and then let her stay overnight and take care of DS so we could both get a good night's sleep together. This turned out to be the perfect cure for my baby blues! DH and I had a romantic dinner at a fine Italian restaurant and then came home to a peacefully sleeping baby. I finally got a good solid 8 hours sleep, knowing DS was in good hands. The next day I finally felt like myself again. The whole week went better because I started it well-rested. When I saw how much it made me a better wife and mother, I agreed to let my mom stay on Saturday nights until DS is STTN. Some of my mommy friends were shocked that I was willing to leave DS so soon, but it definitely works for me.

hispenguin · March 2011

Oh goodness i can't remember how many breakdowns I've had. We had such a hard time with BFing that I would cry daily in the beginning, then it continued when we switched to the bottle. Combine that with a few nights of an incredibly fussy baby, and it was not pretty.

adoubleu12 · March 2011

I got most of my breakdowns out of the way when the babies were in the NICU. I would cry myself to sleep every night. The first week or so after they came home, I was so happy that they were home I didn't mind getting up in the middle of the night, and the sound of them crying didn't bother me at all. After the sleep deprivation kicked in, I can feel tears coming on sometimes when I am frustrated, but I have learned to deal with it. I think dealing with anxiety for years and years has helped me learn how to control myself!

mrsfrates · March 2011

I have had a couple since we have been home, but its getting better. I think I was just so nervous of having a precious little life that I'm completely responsible for. It's kind of overwhelming!! But she is such a good girl and just looking at her makes me breakdown because she is just so darn cute!!!

elle980 · March 2011

Here! I had several breakdowns over the past week. Most could have been prevented had I not been exhausted!

Magical95 · March 2011

I had a breakdown this weekend about DH going back to work. Not because I can't handle it, but because I will miss spending that much time together as a family.

CutieBean79 · March 2011

Mine was in the hospital, on night two, when I couldn't handle worrying about how she was going to get her next meal. Latching was NOT happening despite two LCs (inverted nipples) and I was pumping out zero colostrum. I bawled as I fed her a bottle of formula then put on my big girl panties and decided I just wasn't going to beat myself up over it. We worked things out and I've been good since.

bre87 · March 2011

i had one when addison was about a week old. i had eaten spicy mexican food and it was irritating her so she was up crying. then she was hungry and would cry some more but when i went to breastfeed again the milk made her sick again. it was awful and we were both up crying. i'm so glad that we're supplementing with formula now so i can have some backup.

MicahAnn2009 · March 2011

I had one our first day home, he wanted to suck every 45 minutes and it was exhausting so I just sat there crying while he sucked. Eventually, we pulled out a pacifier and it turns out he is a comfort sucker. And we were in the middle of moving while the baby was born so on our first full day in the new place, that night I had a breakdown. DH was trying go make me nurse, I was trying to wait just a bit so he got mad at me plus I wasn't feeling at home yet so I was a big bawl bag. But all is getting better day by day.

mrs.ptb · March 2011

elle980:
Here! I had several breakdowns over the past week. Most could have been prevented had I not been exhausted!

This. I have learned showering in the beginning of the day is the key to my success. Friday when I talked to my husband at one point I didn't think there had been a minute in that day yet when either me or the baby wasn't crying.

beeunit · March 2011

MarchABC:
Ummm.. yeah... that would be me. I'm glad I'm not alone!
I like to think of myself as a patient person but this motherhood thing is HARD! I've never in my life felt this impatient and I think of the 11:00 feeding time as my witching hour. I am easily frustrated and cry or snap at DH which is an unfamiliar feeling. I've never felt this way or acted this way with my husband or my students. I am blessed to have an amazingly understanding and caring DH. I blame hormones and lack of sleep and I tell myself "this too shall pass." I'm ready for the "bitching hour" to stop!

If I didn't know any better I'd thing that your siggy is my LO! I had him in his lamby seat in the sun like that just an hour ago! Too cute!

MissYouDietCoke · March 2011

Um, for the first week it was almost daily?

mrsjanks · March 2011

I had a breakdown every day until I realized that my life will never be the same, I wanted this kid, I will never sleep for a long time, I have to suck up the selfishness I had and just do it. It's not about me anymore.

I'm doing better now, and just now starting to enjoy being a mom. Lack of sleep is making me dilusional (sp?), though.

green bean · March 2011

I probably have had 3 or 4 break downs, between being overly tired , hormones and DH going back to work, I was perfectly fine being home alone before lo got here and its not that I am scared to be alone with lo I just seem to miss DH more now when he is working then I did before.

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