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April 2011 Moms
biblionerd
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I anyone else NOT in a rush to get this over with?
biblionerd
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Don't get me wrong... I'm completely miserable and know I have 4 weeks left. I have a gigantic baby, I'm 4'11", still working, in grad school, have to do tons of manual labor at home, can't breathe, have to pee every 15 minutes, and would love to be done. I just get so discouraged I guess, maybe not a good word, to see SO many people excited to be induced at 38 weeks, or counting down the days to a 39 week induction, etc. I know full-term is 37 weeks, but I wouldn't be in tears, dismayed over not having an outside baby until I hit 40 weeks. I guess the way I figure is that he'll come when HE'S ready and done cooking and that's most important to me. Am I a freak of nature?! Because sometimes I feel like everyone else in the world longs for nothing other than a 37 week pregnancy except for me. I guess I'm just tired of all of the "oh, I was induced at 37 weeks because of a big baby so you should ask your dr." or "any day now!" etc. etc. then getting looks like I have two heads when I say "oh no... not for 4 weeks!" and not act like I'm upset by it. To each their own, and I'm not judging anyone else, just wondering if I'm alone in this! Anyone??
ETA: and I totally understand when health problems of baby/mom come into play and make early births necessary!
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Re: I anyone else NOT in a rush to get this over with?
I have my moments where I'm like FOUR MORE WEEKS? But overall, I'm happy to keep my little guy in as long as he needs. Full term is 37-42 weeks. Not 37.
I don't have anyone saying things to me, but reading some of the third trimester posts, and seeing the size of the babies posted (teeny tiny!!), I feel like telling my LO to stay in til 42 weeks! I have convinced myself He's not coming til May 3 (EDD April 23) and that way, when my due date comes and goes, I won't worry!
I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well, and you're LO stays in until you're comfortable, and no induction is necessary
I'm with you, hun. If LO decides he's ready to come early, I'm not going to complain now that we're full term, but I'm also fine if he decides to keep cooking.
Honestly the only reason I'm starting to get anxious for him to come on time or close to it is family reasons. My dad will be coming to vsit next week, and can stay for 10-15 days and probably won't be able to come back out for months. So if LO is too late, my dad won't get to meet his grandson until he's close to 6 months old. But even wanting my dad to meet him isn't enough of a reason for me to contemplate an induction just yet.
I'm eager to meet her, but happy to wait. Of course, I have a sch. c-section date, so I know, one way or another, she'll be here in a couple of weeks. That certainly makes it easier.
I'd love it if the stomach upset would stop, I will say. That part is a new and not so fun development. The rest of the discomfort isn't enjoyable, but I can handle it.
Well put. I want this kiddo to cook as long as she can. I'm just tired after having months of prodromal labor and the constant "is this it??" gets draining so I totally have days where it's hard to think I *want* three more weeks of feeling like this even though deep down I really do so I indulge in whining. I think it's fantastic that you can look past your discomforts and know you have the endurance to stick it out!!!
I want LO to stay in as long as he needs to (assuming that's not past 42 weeks, at which point they will want to induce me and I will be trying every reasonable natural induction method I can find).
If he is ready sooner rather than later, I'm that much happier because it means I'll get to be comfortable sooner. The heartburn and inability to sleep are killer.
However, he dictates his arrival in the end and I don't want him coming this week or next if he's not ready.
you are definitely not alone at all! I'm at home on bed-rest with boderline pre-e (it's gotten much better since being home), can barely use my hands, pee every 15 minutes and have been having tons of contractions and I'm still willing to wait it out a few more weeks.
I was terrified when they started talking induction when my pre-e looked like it was going to get get bad fast. I begged and begged to wait it out as long as possible. I'm also planning a natural birth and really want my LO to come when he/she is ready!
Someone's getting a little brother!
I'm 39 weeks today (I really should update that ticker) and showing no signs of progress. I have just been making plans and assuming I have until at least next Monday before this little guy is going to be born. I realize I may have to cancel some of those plans (but I really hope not my eyebrow wax on Wednesday), but otherwise, I'm just sort of living my life and not worrying too much about when he comes.
I can't wait to meet him and I can't wait to sleep on my stomach/have a glass of wine/have normal sex again, but I figure, he'll be here no later than 3 weeks from today (my OB will let me go to 42 weeks), so I have an end date in sight.
I'm with you. If LO decided to come on her own today, I would be thrilled, but my doc and I have agreed that we will not talk seriously about induction until my 40 week appointment.
I did have a scare last week when my BP went up and I was told if it stayed up and I had any other signs of toxemia (because I already have swelling and there was a small amount of protein in my urine) that we would have to get her out sooner than later. So, I know that sometimes early inductions/c-sections are necessary, but I wouldn't personally choose one.
Biblionerd, I've also had a lot of people tell me to just schedule an induction early and that most docs will agree to it after a certain point, but I just can't grasp that concept. Oh well, to each her own!!
i'm glad you posted this...actually i was wondering if i was alone in this too...i'm totally okay with waiting until 40 weeks. i never understood the concept that full term was 37 weeks - isn't it 40 weeks? i am totally miserable but i'm prepared to wait another 3.5 weeks when baby is actually due. i wouldn't want to induce (unless there was a medical problem) just because........
don't get me wrong i'm totally impatient and CAN'T wait but i'm okay waiting until baby is ready to come out on it's own.
You summed up my world exactly: still working, in grad school, have to do tons of manual labor at home, can't breathe, have to pee every 15 minutes
I'm just praying I can get all my work and school projects complete by EDD and that he stays put until then. Don't get me wrong, I'm beyond thrilled and excited to meet our little guy, but I'll be more relaxed if more time is involved.
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I'm getting tired of the comments, "You're due Saturday!?! Why are you out, you could pop any moment! Aren't you uncomfortable? Don't you want to just go have your baby??"
So yeah, I'm 39w & change - but everyday LO stays in there he's getting nourished and developing in a safe environment. I say now that I wouldn't mind him staying in there for another 2+ weeks, I just would prefer a natural birth and not to be induced...
Dear Public: asking a pregnant woman, "Aren't you just so uncomfortable??" does NOT encourage her, but thanks for caring. I sleep enough, I suffer enough, but _really_, it will be worse when baby is outside so I'm happy to just keep him in there!!
I thought this last week...now I'm just ready to meet her. I don't want to be induced (but this will be discussed at my April 7th appt - I'll almost be 41 weeks.) I'm fine with that because like I said, I'm not for being medically induced if at all possible.
I just want to see her face, have (most) of my body back, get to know her...I'm just being impatient, I guess.
Plus, I'm getting tired of the comments like "you're still pregnant???", "Please don't go into labor at work today", "you are so huge now", etc.
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I don't really get the "want to be done NOW" urge either. I knew when I signed up that I was in this for 40 weeks. I never used 37 weeks as my countdown/endpoint/cutoff, because while 37 may be "full term," studies have shown that even babies born between 37 and 39 weeks face increased health risks. I used 40 weeks, and even assumed I'd go late since most women in my family have.
That said, I'm getting induced four days before my due date for medical reasons (clotting disorder complications). I'm fine with it, so long as I don't end up with a C-section. I would much rather wait and go into labor on my own, and knowing that I have four days to get this baby out on my own has inspired me to do nipple stimulation, for example. I just want to avoid Pitocin if I can.
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I'm with you. Dh and I were against early induction, and pretty much against induction in general. I'm in no rush to get this baby out. We are totally prepared and I'm not nervous at all, but I waited so long to be pregnant, I'm soaking it all in.
That said, we aren't allowed to go past 41w3d so my induction is schedule for 40w4d if needed. I'm confident and hoping I don't need it.
I am glad I am not the only one who feels this way! I have been very fortunate and maybe that is why I am not in a hurry but I am not all that uncomfortable (nothing bad anyway). I am sleeping well too.
But another reason I am not so eager for baby to get here is that DH is stuck in Canada waiting for the US government to put his visa in his passport. We have NO idea when he will get his passport back and be allowed to come back home. The up side is that when I am 38 weeks he is going to request it get sent back without his visa so he can be here for the duedate and not worry about missing him being born. I just pray the baby doesn't come early because I would be heartbroken if DH missed our son being born.