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March 2011 Moms
DH vent
He just doesn't get it. The first two weeks with LO were great- easy even. My sister was here the first week and then DH stayed home the 2nd week. This week, DH went back to work AND has to finish his last Masters class, which means that this week and next he's gone from 6:30am-8pm. We have a nanny who comes M/W/F from 8am-3pm so I'm not totally alone all week... but LO is still so little and we only have one car so I'm basically just HERE all day.
Today is Saturday. I wanted to go for a walk with LO and the dogs. DH had rugby practice at 2:30pm... he got done at 5pm... and called to ask if he could go for a beer with the guys. Rory isn't sleeping unless it's on me so I'm tired and hungry and need to pee. But I'm the bad wife if I tell him he can't go. And I just don't understand how he doesn't WANT to be here- he's barely seen her all week! And maybe I wanted to get out of the house today too...
He's a good dad and a good husband. But he just doesn't get it and I'm not sure how to make him understand.
Thanks for reading. Vent done. Gotta pee.
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Re: DH vent
My dh and I had a chat today about me needing help... I'm very independant and hate to ask or deny him things like going out with the boys, but during our conversationn he told me that "you and the kids come frist and I'm here to help you first, so just ask, don't make me read between the lines, because I'm not good at that"
So just talk with your dh and aybe you'll be surprised at what he says.
I could have written the exact same thing. DH works 3 jobs, so he's never here. One of his jobs is coaching volleyball, which involves traveling to tournaments every weekend in March. Landon has been super fussy lately- he sleeps maybe 20 mins at a time. I haven't slept more than 4 hours in the past 4 days. I've been on baby duty 24/7 since DH is always working and needs to sleep.
Well, you know what? I'M ALWAYS WORKING TOO! I need some freakin' sleep too! I don't even have time to feed myself most days. I feel bad for not interacting with Landon more... as soon as I'm done feeding him, he'll stay awake for 1.5-2 hours. I can't stay up and interact with him because I just want to sleep. But since he's been so fussy, I'm lucky to get 20 mins at a time.
At night I'll get maybe 1.5 hours between feedings, which is sad because he only eats every 4 hours. But it takes about 45 mins to feed him, then he'll go right to sleep, but he's up right soon after that. He's not hungry at 3 hours because he'll fall right back asleep if you pick him up and hold him.
I texted DH today (who is on his way home from volleyball right now) and told him that I need to sleep tomorrow, so he's going to have to stay home with the baby. Guess what he did... CANCELLED VOLLEYBALL PRACTICE! yay! Why does it take me being at my wits end for him to pitch in?
I just don't get it. I love Landon, but the past 5 weeks have been hell for me. I can't wait for the newborn stage to be over.
Life of mrsjanks
This is so true! I'm sick of the "I've gone back to work so I have to get eight hours of sleep" excuse. Staying home with a newborn is WAY harder than working at a job if you ask me, and yet we are expected to do it while sleep deprived, hormonal, and in some cases recovering from surgery! Ridiculous!