Slight anxiety about having 2 kids...

Aprilynn0206 · March 2011

I was with a friend most of the day yesterday and at one point we started talking about all the fun places we would like to take our girls this summer. Then it hit me.. I will have TWO kids.

I got slightly anxious about going ANYWHERE on my own with them that DD will want to run. I know I can do it (I have no choice- haha!) but I just saw visions of DD running off (her new thing) and thinking its funny.. while I'm chasing her w/ a baby carrier or pushing the stroller after her.

Anybody have any tips, plans for when you take your LO's out ALONE (meaning without your DH/SO)

pinkpajamapants · March 2011

No advise but I hear you. I am scared out of my pants... esp. at night with breastfeeding and DD is not sleeping well and I dont have my strength back. Tongue Tied

luvdv8 · March 2011

We've been working on this with DD- if she wants to walk she HAS to hold on to the stroller. The *second* her hand comes of the stroller she gets put in it for the rest of the outing. We've been doing this 3 times a week for the last two months or so. She had gotten much better, but there have been occasions where I've had to put the brakes on the stroller and chase after her- but I know what sparks that (Build-a-Bear, the produce section, etc) so I can almost anticipate her running off. The only place she is absolutely not allowed to walk is in parking lots- just not a place I want to have to worry about two babies!

You won't be the first mother to chase a toddler through a busy store with a baby in tow- and I'm sure once you do it the first time it'll just become an old habit!

mommy411 · March 2011

I know!!! I bought a Leash for DD just in case moments. She is a runner also.

I could just see her taking off when I'm Bfing the LO

iris427 · March 2011

I'm pretty nervous about having 2, especially since my toddler is such a handful lately. I just keep telling myself millions of women have managed this before, so I can do it too.

musicamh · March 2011

I definitely have anxiety. I tell her to do "hands" and she knows to hold my hand. Sometimes we do the Mommy needs her Big girl to help her push the stroller and she immediately holds on to the stroller and helps push. She gets two chances to do one or the other the moment she breaks it's into the stroller she goes. I'm hoping having a city select will save me so I can have her facing her brother and that will keep her busy.

Ambeerose · March 2011

I'm definitely having anxiety about having 2 as well...and our older lo's are almost the exact same age so I know what you mean. Luckily, ds likes to ride in a cart or stroller without much complaint so hopefully he will keep that up when baby comes!! I keep thinking I still have lots of time til this lo will be here but umm..nope not so much time left!!

pbj266 · March 2011

i think about this a lot... I am planning on buying a double stroller, to keep DS and LO in while we are out. Lets hope I wont have to go anywhere alone until im a little healed, or i wont be able to push the dang thing!

kcnurse77 · March 2011

Its definitely different than 1, but also definitely do-able. My first 2 are 17 months apart. Taking care of a toddler while breastfeeding,etc was challenging. DS #1 got used to having little sibling around and began to recognize that mommy needed his help and needed him to listen to me. Outings out are also more involved obviously.

Now they are 1 and 2 and we have the hang of it. Expecting #3 which will be 3 children ages 3 and under. Now, I am nervous about that!

Good luck. Nothing better than watching the love and companionship of siblings.

ccmmkk · March 2011

iris427:
I'm pretty nervous about having 2, especially since my toddler is such a handful lately. I just keep telling myself millions of women have managed this before, so I can do it too.

This. Totally this.

m0132 · March 2011

luvdv8:
We've been working on this with DD- if she wants to walk she HAS to hold on to the stroller. The *second* her hand comes of the stroller she gets put in it for the rest of the outing. We've been doing this 3 times a week for the last two months or so. She had gotten much better, but there have been occasions where I've had to put the brakes on the stroller and chase after her- but I know what sparks that (Build-a-Bear, the produce section, etc) so I can almost anticipate her running off. The only place she is absolutely not allowed to walk is in parking lots- just not a place I want to have to worry about two babies!
You won't be the first mother to chase a toddler through a busy store with a baby in tow- and I'm sure once you do it the first time it'll just become an old habit!

This. It freaks me out but DD has to either hold my hand or I let her help push the stroller and she will walk behind it. I get nervous because the second she is out of a stroller it is a total meltdown to get her back in there if I need to, but I have gotten over that and if she throws a fit then oh well..I'd rather have her in the stroller and safe if I need to do something rather than trying to chase after her or multitask too much and have something happen. She isn't allowed to walk in the parking lot either..so I get nervous about her cooperating to hold my hand while I carry the baby into the store or something, but people do it all the time so it will work out.

mrsbookworm · March 2011

I am a bit anxious as well. My son is older - he will be 4 in May - but he still has his moments. Plus, it already takes what seems like FOREVER to get out of the house in the morning for work or on weekends to run errands or go to church. I can't imagine how hard it will be when the new LO arrives!

I am definitely going to play up the 'Mommy needs Big Brother's help' for as long as possible. Also, I am buying an Ergo so I can be hands-free to work with DS (all the moms at my DS' preschool who have 2+ kids wear the Ergo carrier) - I'm just hoping that it proves the weight in gold that current users claim it does.

As a PP said, millions of women have done this before us, so we will survive. The chaos that young children bring will only be temporary.

soontobe05 · March 2011

I'm having major anxiety over it. My friend and I too were talking about summer plans with our girls (currently 20mths and 17mths) and I suddenly realized that it wouldn't just be us and the girls but my SON would be here too! So crazy to think and incredibly scary. I know I can do it. My mom had four kids. Granted we weren't as close in age, but still...women do it all the time. It'll probably take awhile to get adjusted but we can do it!

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