Friend just announced her pregnancy - same EDD

mrs_kelly1014 · March 2011

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A friend just posted on her blog and FB to announce her pregnancy and I feel like I have been punched. Hard. She has a 'big brother' shirt for her toddler son (which is the same way we told our families and were eventually going to post on FB). She is due the same day I would have been. I was doing so well dealing with this, but I cannot handle this right now. And, cue the tears. Crying

fondybride · March 2011

I am so sorry. I just wrote today that I feel like it's the "Everybody post something about your pregnancy day on FB." I hate that. I'm so sorry that it had to mirror your pregnancy in so many ways. (hugs)

williams4me · March 2011

Every time I want to go on FB I know it will be a mistake. This morning I went on and got to see the 17 week bump pics from my friend who is due 5 days before I was

I am going to be hiding some people from my newsfeed this week. I have way too many PG friends right now. (((hugs)))

mrs_kelly1014 · March 2011

I'm okay with seeing people who are at least a few weeks ahead of where I would have been. One friend has an EDD that is 5 days ahead of mine, and I hid her from my feed last week because I couldn't handle the constant updates.

I already hid this friend and her DH, which sucks, because we've been close friends with them for 12 years. I cannot handle it. She is obsessed with being pregnant and I know there will be multiple updates every day about it. I know I'll be distancing myself from some of my friends because of this, and I hate that so much.

williams4me · March 2011

Yea the constant updates are really hard...especially when it's complaining about pregnancy symptoms. Seriously?! I wish I could just be pregnant.

BeautyfromAshes · March 2011

I'm so so sorry. I have a friend who was due a month before me and it was horrible watching her belly grow. I didn't attend the shower and felt terrible. I imagine I will always watch her baby grow up and know mine would have been the same age. I think it gets easier over time. Just remember your pregnant friends aren't trying to hurt you by being pregnant with healthy babies, and they deserve to enjoy their pregnancies to the fullest just as you would have. You might not be able to watch it, but don't resent them for it and I hope you don't lose friendships over it.

I truly understand how you feel. I'm really sorry you're going through this.

kristie2422 · March 2011

I know what you mean. I just came across the big brother shirt I had made and started crying. I've also been trying to stay away from our local board because it seems everyone over there is pregnant. PM if you want to talk/vent/yell/scream whatever. I may be bugging you sometime. Big hugs to you.

mrs_kelly1014 · March 2011

kristie2422:
I know what you mean. I just came across the big brother shirt I had made and started crying. I've also been trying to stay away from our local board because it seems everyone over there is pregnant. PM if you want to talk/vent/yell/scream whatever. I may be bugging you sometime. Big hugs to you.

I know that Colin's big bro shirt is sitting in his hamper waiting to be folded/hung up. I just keep ignoring it. I think I would have been okay to take care of it, until I saw this tonight. I'm happy for her, but, I don't know - maybe it's jealousy that I want what she has? I think it hurts just knowing that for the rest of her pregnancy (and even after), I will be thinking, "that's how far along I should be" every time I see her, talk to her, etc. Ugh, I just hate this so much for all of us.

I'm going to PM you my email address. Please feel free to email anytime! I (fortunately) don't have any friends who have m/c so there's no one to talk to that really gets it. If you ever want to meet up, I'd be up for that too!

amandachs · March 2011

Sorry, that pretty much sucks. One of the first things I did after I got out of my D&C medicated haze was to block the news feeds of every pregnant person I know on FB. Not that I can't handle any of them, just didn't know when reading something would trigger me and catch me off gaurd. I wanted seeing updates on their pregnancy to be on my terms, ya know? Cry away honey, it seems like one of the things that has helped me the most in the past couple of days. I know it bothers my hubby but his Mom finally told him he had to stop telling me to stop crying... gotta love when the MIL takes the wifes side!

poohbear033 · March 2011

I'm sorry. I just made a post on TTCAL about facebook. It makes me crazy.

xokell2 · March 2011

I have about a million pregnant friends right now (and I'm happy for all of them) but the worst ones to be around or hear about are then one who are due right around when I would be or after. damn facebook

SoonToBeMrsDTS · March 2011

Facebook is the worst right now. I haven't even been going on lately because I have three friends that are the due the same week I was and one of them does pregnancy updates constantly. I made the mistake of going on this morning and seeing my 20 year old neighbor's 8 week u/s pics. I know it's irrational but it really upsets me that she gets to be pregnant from a one night stand and DH and I were doing everything "right" and I couldn't stay pregnant this time

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