This is so stupid, but I need comfort of my fellow bumpies!

areschke7 · March 2011

So, I have a 5 y/o step-daughter and then my 18 mo DD. DH & I have been wanting to get bunk-beds for them when DH was old enough to not be in her crib.

We converted her crib to a toddler bed a few months ago and since then DH has been looking for bunk-beds. Well, we found a STEAL of a deal today on Craigslist and we couldn't pass it up. We bought the bunkbeds and came right home to put the girl's current beds (crib & twin bed) on Craigslist. Someone ALREADY wrote me wanting both and they're picking up tomorrow.

I LOVE the new bunkbeds, but after we got them put together, I broke down and started crying at the thought of getting rid of the crib. Please remind me that just because my crib will be gone, it doesn't mean my baby won't be my baby still. I hate the thought of baby-hood being over. It doesn't help that my DH doesn't want any more kids...so it seems so 'final' to me.

Anyway, just needed to cry to people that might understand...or then again, I might just be a crazy mama...

Thanks for your support ladies!

llc730 · March 2011

Your DD will ALWAYS be your baby, but transitions are definitely hard. Weaning has been the hardest for me. 12+ mo of EBF and DD weaned without a fuss. Most of me was happy and grateful that it went so well and part of me couldn't help but feel sad that my baby didn't need me (for that) anymore.

diana.filipi · March 2011

Oh gosh, I get it! We haven't dealt with it with DD yet but I KNOW it's going to be tough for me. Be glad, in a way, that the crib will go on and be gone. Cry, laugh, mourn, it's all natural. BUT, your baby will ALWAYS be your baby, even when she goes off to kindergarten, college, and marriage ;-)

areschke7 · March 2011

Thanks so much ladies. I seriously can't believe what a mess I am over this. I was a little sad when I stopped BF at a year as well...but I think it was also such a relief (worked full time & pumped as well while I was at work- spent most of my time pumping for a lousy ounce)... It was a little hard, but I think I'm taking this worse....I love her itty bitty crib sheets and her cute bedding set...and no use for those anymore. You're right...I know she'll still be my baby even when she's an adult! lol... I just have to keep reminding myself that it's just a piece of furniture...I really need to get over it... I'm sure DH thinks I've gone off the deep end!

jersangl · March 2011

aww. Just reading this makes me cry. I would be the same way. I cant get rid of the crib. I dont plan to until she is 3 years old so I cant imagine doing it now. I am having the same issue though but with the pacifier. I cant get rid of it because it reminds me she is still my baby. I cant afford to have another baby ( we adopted) so I get what you mean. I am sorry.

LoveEeyore · March 2011

Not crazy. I get teary in Target passing baby clothes. Since the twins were born I knew I needed to have one more baby (or pair of them). DH however, was certain he didn't want more. Since he got a vasectomy, the instant the twins outgrow or stop using something I put it on freecycle to get it out of my house, it makes me very sad to be "done" and it is far more healing for me to not see it as a reminder. I am looking forward to weaning, but it is bittersweet, the closer we get.