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Too little to CIO (kinda long)

stdkrh21stdkrh21
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Dh tried to put ds to bed tonight for the 2nd time ever. Ds is not easy to get to go to sleep, i'm ok with it bc I know if I work with him (rocking, bouncing, nursing) he will eventually go to sleep. Dh is not as patient and wants to just put him in his bed after 5 min of rocking and just let him CIO. Our pedi said today that it would be ok to let him cry for 5-10 min but i'm not ok with it. Does anyone have a link for info on how 8 weeks is way to young for CIO and how it's important to quickly respond to his cries. Ds also had his DTaP vaccine today. :(
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Re: Too little to CIO (kinda long)

  • erinkate23erinkate23
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  • lisa5201lisa5201 member
    If your DH can't handle a nighttime routine that's longer than 5 mins then I think you need to take over that part of parenting. I don't know anything about CIO, but I do know that it's unrealistic to expect an 8 week old to fall asleep on cue. 
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  • Kestrel84Kestrel84

    imageerinkate23:
    Is it truth or dare night on another board tonight?

    I hope so. 

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  • HappyMommy28HappyMommy28 member

    CIO usually means for long periods of time.  There have been times when I have had to let DS cry for 5 - 10 minutes because he is screaming and nothing I am doing is working.  Which in turn makes me upset.  I will put him down, walk away and once I pick him up again he calms down.  I have only done this a few times.  I hate it but it's what works for us.

    As for a bedtime routine - its unrealistic.  He's 8 weeks old.  DS is 3 1/2 months old and is still nursed and rocked to sleep.  :o)  He has NEVER been left to sleep crying.  Way to young for that - and I disagree.

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  • AsquaredAsquared member

    I didn't personally read this whole thing, and did do some sleep training around 7-9 months, but I have heard/read in various places not to try any "training" before 6 months.

     

    https://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/07/05/no-cry-it-out/

     

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  • AnankeAnanke member
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    imageerinkate23:
    Is it truth or dare night on another board tonight?

    I hope so. 

    Not on 3-6 where it usually starts.

    Sadly, I think OPs situation is pretty common.  DH wanted me to let DS cry at only a few days old.  Many parents, especially dads, just don't get it.

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  • IfferMarieIfferMarie member
    What is this truth or date thing all about. OP yes, right weeks is too young. Even the books like the on by dr. ferber say sleep training shouldn't start until six months.
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  • OctGirl80OctGirl80 member
    imageAnanke:
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    imageerinkate23:
    Is it truth or dare night on another board tonight?

    I hope so. 

    Not on 3-6 where it usually starts.

    Sadly, I think OPs situation is pretty common.  DH wanted me to let DS cry at only a few days old.  Many parents, especially dads, just don't get it.

    IDH & I had a long conversation of why we couldn't let DD cry herself to sleep at 2 weeks. He had no clue since all he ever heard regarding LO's sleeping was his sister (whose kids are in high school now) saying "sometimes you just have to let them cry". Uh...no. Another reason he has her most of the evening and I take her from bedtime on.

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  • TheGregory's07TheGregory's07
    No not at a few weeks, you should start trying to sleep train till 6 months.  Now i will admit one time when ian was about 6 weeks old he was screaming for over 45 minutes and I hadn't eaten all day it was 6 pm at this point. I sat him in his swing to eat, and he passed out. I felt so bad but I needed to eat. 
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  • 00tedsgirl00tedsgirl

    https://www.google.com/#sclient=psy&hl=en&q=attachment+parenting+why+not+to+cry+it+out&aq=f&aqi=&aql=&oq=&pbx=1&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.&fp=3dc68c33d52cb0cc

    DS is about to be 3 and he has never cried himself to sleep.  Crying it out means leaving your baby alone to sob until they wear themselves out, sometimes vomiting in the process.  I cannot imagine why any adult with a heart doesn't see a problem with that, but I know many who do not.  Ask your DH if he would get good, restful sleep if that's how he'd like to fall asleep.  Or, better yet, like PP said, take over that part of parenting.

    There are several alternatives including: nursing down, wearing down, patting down, and rocking.

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