AggieKristin:If you figure it out, let me know. Right now I resort to having a glass of wine after they go to bed.
I don't think there's any way to stop it completely. I have done the go to your room to cool down thing like Chrisbride says, and when DD was 2 it worked really well. It was not a punishment, I just carried her to her bed and said I want her to be comfortable while she's so upset and here's a stuffed animal and when you're calm you can come out. I didn't even shut the door, but she'd often get up and shut the door and get back in her bed!
But that doesn't work for us at 3.5, she just sees it as timeout. If I suggest it sometimes she takes a deep breath and calms down to avoid going to her room and other times it makes it even worse.
If they are both super cranky and getting into everything and driving me insane, the only way I know to stop it is for a complete change of scenery - take them outside, go to the park, even going to the grocery store or other errands.
It must be in the water. My girls have been doing that this week. My brain hurts.
We've been trying the go to your room thing. It works a bit. At least I don't have to listen to their screaming right next to me.
As much as I don't like to feel like I'm rewarding them for bad behavior, we tend to go with whatever is going to bring sanity and rest. Park, sprinkler, etc. Even if it's only for a couple minutes, it can help.
Hugs! Hope it gets better. And when it doesn't, remind yourself that Mark and I are having to clean out our attic today while the kids are running around and whining. Fun times!