I didn't get to respond to your post about parenting books and didn't know if you'd see a new response.
I picked up NCSS at the library and skimmed it along with the ferber book, the sleep lady book, and also Jay Gordon's sleep book. I didn't actually finish any of them because of lack of time and commitment I don't think we're ready to make any sleep changes.
I think that you might want to look at the Jay Gordon Book if you haven't already. I didn't read all of it but some of the things I did may fit you/your LO's sleep style. Good Luck!
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