Shower question- # of invitees

kgunz11 · March 2011

Okay, I'm seeing all these posts with people saying they are inviting TONS of people to their shower (like 70+!).

WTH?!? I'm struggling to come up with 25-30 people.

I'm definitely NOT criticizing. If the hosts are okay with that large of a #, that's fine. I'm just wondering- do you ladies have huge families or just tons more friends than I do?

CocoBrynne · March 2011

I'm thinking some of those huge numbers must be bc of blended family issues (ie stepparents, step aunts, cousins, etc). Numbers add up real quick in situations like that. We are only inviting about 40ish to mine.

steenvolleys · March 2011

There's like 60ish being invited to mine- most of them I don't even know My MIL invited a ton of people (distant family and friends of hers)... I feel awkward about it, but most of them won't come anyway. It's her way of being excited and sharing with people

pennysuedog · March 2011

For my sister's shower I sent out 60 invitee, some for Mom/daughter combo if all show we will have 75 people. She has friends, co-workers, Neighbors, church group, and our side of the family coming.

Skibunny07 · March 2011

I don't know about mine yet but my SIL's shower had 65 people invited to it and I'm thinking mine might be close to the same. DH's family is HUGE, a big Italian/Irish family. Plus MIL doesn't know how to not invite every person she knows including like her second cousins that we see once a year and her friends. My family is a lot smaller and loves all over the country (DH's family all lives in the are, most in the same town). SO I think we will have less then 65 but it will still be pretty big unfortunately. I'm thinking about seeing if my mom can host a small one just for my side of the family to make it a little easier.

alubins · March 2011

It all depends on the size of your family and whether or not you have 1 or 2 showers. From my side, my mom is inviting about 30 women. This includes about 5 of her best friends (whom I know as well) and 25 aunts & cousins I see regularly. MH comes from a larger family as well, and my MIL will probably have ~20-25 aunts/friends/cousins to add to the list. On top of that, I have list of gf's, so we're looking at about 65-70 guests.

Elsa1984 · March 2011

The one I am hosting, 54 people (and their spouses) have been invited.....so pretty much 108 people have been invited. This is a friends shower (family one is another day)....50% of the friends invited.....they rarely talk to or havent seen in a long time (and IMO they shouldn't have been invited).

riverbed · March 2011

I have 75 people, and we are just inviting the girls. My mom wanted me to invite about 10 of her friends, then there were 15 for DH's family, my sisters, 7 hostesses, and then yes I guess we just have a lot of friends! We seem to be at a very social point in our lives. We have a close group of friends that we do things with that is about 15 couples, and then there are my still single girl friends. Plus the wives of DH's friends, who are a whole other group we hang out with (H and I are about 5 years a part).

I was thinking about this yesterday, and it is a lot, but we love all our friends, and we all try to do our best to keep up with each other, especially for big events.

kellydw · March 2011

There are probably about 70 - 75 people invited to the baby shower. My family does female only showers and no kids, it is my family, inlaws, and friends.

emilydholmes1 · March 2011

I had 3 separate showers and each one had between 20-30 people so I guess if we combined (which wouldn't have been possible due to distance), it would be been 60 or so easily.

Lithigin · March 2011

I have wondered the same thing. Many times! I have hosted 2 showers, both for military wives at our duty station, so no family was there and there were 6 and maybe 10 people at the two of them. My college girlfriends hosted my shower at our duty station at the time, and there were maybe a dozen people? Mom, 2 cousins, and grandma for family, a coworker, two hostesses, and a few friends from rugby and college.

I can't imagine enjoying a shower with more than 25 people. 60+ people to me sounds like a big huge impersonal gift-grabbing bash. My point is NOT that those mamas are gift-grabbing, but that having that volume of family that has to be invited would not be very appealing to me.

TiffaniMay · March 2011

I guess if you are inviting everyone from both sides of the family, and probably large families, plus friends and stuff, I can see how it could get up to that number. DH's family is very small, so it's just his mom and SIL coming to mine. My family isn't that big either. Total I think about 25 people are invited, although I know my cousin won't be able to come already and possibly one of my friends.

pammeelala · March 2011

I am only having one shower and I come from a large family. I have 23 female cousins on one side of the family, and being close to the youngest, most of them have daughters aged 15+ which is the age cut off for how young a guest can be. Include my friends, the other side of my family and FI's family and you have have about 50-60 invites. Then include that the guys are getting together for a poker game, the number increases by 25-30. That doesn't include friends of parents or old friends we don't keep constant contact with because I don't see the point of inviting them, though parents keep trying to change my mind on that

mamajanna28 · March 2011

We sent out around 85 invites but I have a VERY large and very close knit family so they make up most of the guest list. I also recently transferred offices and both my former office and new office are filled with women that I have known for years so all of them recieved an invite as well. I amreally only expecting alittle over half of the total invited to make it though

vjaibrown · March 2011

We have a large family (DH and I combined) and my mom has lots of friends lol. We sent out 60 invites and 58 people showed up.

Temp38995750004016 · March 2011

I'm having four showers, two with 30 guests and two with 15-20 (so over 100 invites sent out in total). I have a lot of friends. I only invited 8 family members, total, including in-laws.

sarahseita · March 2011

I have two showers a smaller one of 20 people (family and work friends) and a church one which is over 100 people invited. DH and I are very involved with our church and both my parents and inlaws attend the same church so my mil didn't want to leave ANYONE out.

esperanza123 · March 2011

I'm having two local showers and there will be around 10 guests at each. As for family, on my side, it's basically my immediate family and they are three hours away. DH has family spread out around the country. I could have invited more friends to each shower but I didn't want to be gift grabby and I wanted to be able to spend time talking with each guest. I've been to a few very large showers back in my home state, but where I live now huge showers don't seem to be the norm.

xoashleigh4ox · March 2011

i had 90 women at my shower and only 5 were friends.. we both have big families

JUSTBEYOURSELF · March 2011

we both have a huge family and I have alot of friends too coming to mine. It just depends on your family size. I put on my list my friends, the family I could think of and my mil's (I have two mil's) and they invited some of the family members that I did not have the addresses and some of their friends that are family friends... I feel it is just out of my hands and I let my inlaws deal with it... who comes is who comes. it will be fun no matter how many arrive.

cozylittlecave · March 2011

Possibly church/group showers? Although we have church showers and they're nowhere near that big. Someone once said they were in a super-small town, but showers were like a whole-town affair and everyone came & had a big party?

Also, I'm going home for a shower, and I can see how it could get large. All of my friends + all of the ladies from church/mom's friends/friends' parents who I'm close to. While they're different groups & generations, there are a lot of people I could see including (although I still don't expect to come anywhere near 70+).

Plus, some people are just big 'networkers.' I have a friend like this (her mom is too). She buddies up to EVERYONE. Imho, it seems more about quantity than quality to them, and I can't imagine they have time for any really close relationships. I can imagine they could rack up a pretty big list for an event like this though.

joeymylove · March 2011

I'm having 2 separate showers, one with a guest list of about 60 and the other about 75. And truthfully, no more than a handful of those are personal friends. Both DH and I have very large, close families with lots of close family friends as well. Another aspect is that I'm from another state, so hence 2 completely separate groups of invitees. It seems like a huge number of people to have at a shower, but both are going to be right around the 4th of July and we're expecting quite a few regrets simply from people being on summer vacations. Trust me, I'm thinking that at 7 1/2 months pregnant and after an 11 hour drive to get back to my home state... I'm going to be wishing there were only 25 people at my shower!

BGrahl90 · April 2011

We are sending out about 65 invites, including 10 that go to family out of state that most likely will not show but we didn't want to make them feel left out either. If everyone showed it would be aroung 80 guests because we are having a co-ed shower. I wanted my SO to be able to celebrate with his family (brothers, uncles, and dad) as well as his friends. He has probably 20 of those invites.

chocoholicchick · April 2011

I'm having a large shower back home where most of our family and friends still live. DH and I have large extended families and I know both of our moms added more names to the list I gave them. I think there were 60 invitations mailed for that one.

My friends are hosting one here in FL where we live, and I have 30 names on that one.

DH's co-workers are sweet enough to also host a shower for us and I think that's another 20+ there.

Angel0423 · April 2011

My mother's side, my father's side, his' mothers side, his father's side, long time friends, college friends, my sibs, his sibs, + children. It added up!

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