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AlphaKat · March 2011

Hi, my husband and I are contemplating 2u2 and I would like some feedback from you all if you would be so kind!!

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AlphaKat · March 2011

No one elaborated!! Crying

Jilybean17 · March 2011

I thought it was harder going from 1-2. It's twice the work, the stress of DS not doing well with his younger sister, trying to divide my attention between the 2 of them, etc was harder for me!

lkf041 · March 2011

KatN1411:
No one elaborated!!

Just a heads up, but this board is slooooow! We all have our hands full with 2 babies Smile . I thought it was harder to go from 0-1, simply because the loss of free time and how easy it was to just g out before I had a baby. Now that I've given up on free time and going out "on time" I think the transtion from 1-2 was pretty easy. Hopefully it will be the same going from 2-3)

AlphaKat · March 2011

lkf041:
KatN1411:
No one elaborated!!

Just a heads up, but this board is slooooow! We all have our hands full with 2 babies. I thought it was harder to go from 0-1, simply because the loss of free time and how easy it was to just g out before I had a baby. Now that I've given up on free time and going out "on time" I think the transtion from 1-2 was pretty easy. Hopefully it will be the same going from 2-3)

Thanks! If you can do it with 2, you can do it with 3, right!?

monona9 · March 2011

I think two is more difficult.

I went from 0-2 and it was very challenging. At the same time that I had my daughter my husband got full custody of his son - who would be with me since I'm home and DH works looong hours. So I was a first time mom with a newborn and a four year old lol and no time to adjust.

kcisthebombdotcom · March 2011

I thought the switch from 0-1 was harder than 1-2. Here's a little more elaboration.

WIth my first, my DS wasn't difficult, but was needier. He needed to be held a lot, and on top of that he had reflux so feedings were tough. He wasnt a hard child-he was mostly happy, slept well at a young age, etc. but he was definitely more high maintenance. We had to bedshare because he wouldnt sleep alone. I rocked him in my rocker to get him to nap. I tried to nurse, but my milk never came in and I spent 5+ weeks fighting to nurse a baby and my body just wouldnt produce enough milk for. I had a tough adjustment.

When my DD came along, I had no learning curve. I knew how to take care of a baby already. I was also better at managing time, so I quickly adapted to feeding DD a bottle while I fed DS his lunch. Also, DD has been a dream baby. Slept 5 hour stretches the day we brought her home from the hospital, when she gets sleepy you put her in her bassinet and she puts herself to sleep, no rocking involved. She fusses to let you know she's hungry, and spends teh rest of her day cooing and smiling. I can seriously put her down in the middle of a feeding to get DS something, and she doesnt even fuss that her feeding was interrupted.

I think how easy/hard it is depends on how easy/hard your 2nd child is. If my 2nd child was high needs, I would probably think going from 1-2 was much harder but it's been a really easy adjustment for me personally.

AlphaKat · March 2011

KC_13:
I thought the switch from 0-1 was harder than 1-2. Here's a little more elaboration.

WIth my first, my DS wasn't difficult, but was needier. He needed to be held a lot, and on top of that he had reflux so feedings were tough. He wasnt a hard child-he was mostly happy, slept well at a young age, etc. but he was definitely more high maintenance. We had to bedshare because he wouldnt sleep alone. I rocked him in my rocker to get him to nap. I tried to nurse, but my milk never came in and I spent 5+ weeks fighting to nurse a baby and my body just wouldnt produce enough milk for. I had a tough adjustment.

When my DD came along, I had no learning curve. I knew how to take care of a baby already. I was also better at managing time, so I quickly adapted to feeding DD a bottle while I fed DS his lunch. Also, DD has been a dream baby. Slept 5 hour stretches the day we brought her home from the hospital, when she gets sleepy you put her in her bassinet and she puts herself to sleep, no rocking involved. She fusses to let you know she's hungry, and spends teh rest of her day cooing and smiling. I can seriously put her down in the middle of a feeding to get DS something, and she doesnt even fuss that her feeding was interrupted.

I think how easy/hard it is depends on how easy/hard your 2nd child is. If my 2nd child was high needs, I would probably think going from 1-2 was much harder but it's been a really easy adjustment for me personally.

Thank you!! This describes my DS exactly!! We really want to TTC again soon but I am scared of another high-maintenance baby!

PhilsWife07 · March 2011

One to two just about killed me. At least with zero to one I had the option of sleeping when the baby sleeps, even if I didn't do it.

ayram · March 2011

3 to 4....our youngest little one is by far the most challenging... I thought that I had been through it all, having had 3 kids already, and I could handle anything....but he is determined to make things memorable...what a kid! All I can say, is it's a good thing he's cute!!

laura1 · March 2011

KC_13:

I thought the switch from 0-1 was harder than 1-2. Here's a little more elaboration.

WIth my first, my DS wasn't difficult, but was needier. He needed to be held a lot, and on top of that he had reflux so feedings were tough. He wasnt a hard child-he was mostly happy, slept well at a young age, etc. but he was definitely more high maintenance. We had to bedshare because he wouldnt sleep alone. I rocked him in my rocker to get him to nap. I tried to nurse, but my milk never came in and I spent 5+ weeks fighting to nurse a baby and my body just wouldnt produce enough milk for. I had a tough adjustment.

When my DD came along, I had no learning curve. I knew how to take care of a baby already. I was also better at managing time, so I quickly adapted to feeding DD a bottle while I fed DS his lunch. Also, DD has been a dream baby. Slept 5 hour stretches the day we brought her home from the hospital, when she gets sleepy you put her in her bassinet and she puts herself to sleep, no rocking involved. She fusses to let you know she's hungry, and spends teh rest of her day cooing and smiling. I can seriously put her down in the middle of a feeding to get DS something, and she doesnt even fuss that her feeding was interrupted.

I think how easy/hard it is depends on how easy/hard your 2nd child is. If my 2nd child was high needs, I would probably think going from 1-2 was much harder but it's been a really easy adjustment for me personally.

This is my situation almost exactly - down to the DS with reflux, difficulty feeding, and the DD being happy and super chill. We didn't have the issues with BFing until both of them turned 5ish months and my supply tanked both times, so I weaned at 6 months. But I definitely agree with all of what she said!!!

bim38106 · March 2011

For me, 0-1 was HARD. DD1 was colicky, didn't STTN until 15 months (and not consistently until around 2.5). She's just a very high maintenance child and I was a bit...errr...high strung with her as well.

I was a lot more laid back, less stressed when DD2 came around. Honestly, for me going from 1-2 was a total breeze. Sure, things are busier and can be crazy, but it was such an easy transition for me. FWIW, the girls are 20 months apart and DD2 is a very easy going baby/toddler.

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