"you are gaining too much"

JessandIgli · March 2011

Yesterday the doctor told me I was gaining too much. (19 pounds up total and 9 in the past month) Blah. I am always the first person to say "It's fine. Everyone gains differently. Just eat healthy and be active," on anyone's post that is worried about weight gain. But, just hearing it from the doctor really sucked. I don't care how much I have to take off after she's born, but I don't want to put myself at risk for GD or make her too big of a baby..so I feel like I'm being a crappy mom. I've really been trying to be active and healthier for the past few weeks but I guess I'll have to try harder. It's just so weird...weight was never an issue and then I got pregnant and the pounds just started rolling in! Not looking for sympathy, I know I have to try harder...just want to tell the ladies who have heard the famous, "You are gaining too much," from their docs, that now I know how much it sucks to hear that!

WorkingMomofTwo · March 2011

I hate that phrase! It's so discouraging! Sorry hun!

Mrs.Leah.Maria · March 2011

I'm so sorry dear, I don't think that you're off the wagon. Your OB must be pretty conservative with weight gain. Also, you don't increase your chances of GD by weight gain during pregnancy, so you can nix that thought in addition to the one that you're a crappy mom!

Mrs.Leah.Maria · March 2011

Causes, incidence, and risk factors

Pregnancy hormones can block insulin from doing its job. When this happens, glucose levels may increase in a pregnant woman's blood.

You are at greater risk for gestational diabetes if you:

Are older than 25 when you are pregnant
Have a family history of diabetes
Gave birth to a baby that weighed more than 9 pounds or had a birth defect
Have sugar (glucose) in your urine when you see your doctor for a regular prenatal visit
Have high blood pressure
Have too much amniotic fluid
Have had an unexplained miscarriage or stillbirth
Were overweight before your pregnancy

Jay_Cee · March 2011

I'm so sorry that you heard that. I know exactly how you feel. You definitely are not being a crappy mom, so try not to let yourself feel that way (I know that's hard). It's hard to gain so much weight so quickly, especially when you are eating well.

Like you said, everyone gains differently in pregnancy. If you are eating right, then your body is gaining what it needs. What's most important is that you and baby are healthy. (I have to tell myself this every day.)

txaggie2002 · March 2011

Ugh...that sucks to hear that. If it makes you feel any better, I have gained more than that and my doctor has not said anything about it...so I agree that you must have a pretty conservative doctor. I wouldn't beat yourself up about it.

sarahanderic2009 · March 2011

Um, misconception, the amount of weight you gain during pregnancy does not correlate to baby's weight. I am considered obese and the chances of me having a larger baby are slim, per the OB and the genetic specialist. My best friend gained 60 lbs during her 1st pregnancy and he baby was 7lbs, pretty average. I had a friend that gained 20 lbs and her baby was almost 10 lbs.Its all relative.

Could it be mostly water weight? Don't stress out about it. I'm sure that you are making healthy choices for you and LO and that's really all you can do...

I'm sure you are a beautiful woman and your baby will be beautiful as well!!

flowers2424 · March 2011

I am sorry you had to hear this, I did too and I know how you feel. You and your baby are healthy, just keep eating right and get some exercise when you can. You are certainly not a bad mom!

JessandIgli · March 2011

Thanks everyone. And thanks Mrs.Leah.Maria and Sara for clearing up those misconceptions for me. I guess I shouldn't be worried over GD or high birth weight! All I can do is be healthy this month and hope there is not too much of an increase at the next appt!

JessandIgli · March 2011

Jay_Cee:

I'm so sorry that you heard that. I know exactly how you feel. You definitely are not being a crappy mom, so try not to let yourself feel that way (I know that's hard). It's hard to gain so much weight so quickly, especially when you are eating well.

Like you said, everyone gains differently in pregnancy. If you are eating right, then your body is gaining what it needs. What's most important is that you and baby are healthy. (I have to tell myself this every day.)

I know this is true...and I rememeber your post a few days ago so I know you know how I feel! Hearing it from the doc is definitely not a good feeling! Thanks for the encouragment.

jillybean222 · March 2011

I heard it the first time around when I gained 50 pounds

If it helps, I did not develop gestational diabetes and my baby girl was only 6 lbs, 4 oz at birth. I lost 30 pounds instantaneously, so I think a lot of it was fluid retention. Not gonna lie, the last 20 was HARD, but it did come off. I did a little better the 2nd time (only 40 pounds) but I am doing much, much better this time...I think I've gained 10 or 11 pounds...not really sure. I definitely don't pay as much attention to weight anymore b/c it really doesn't matter (as much as we all think it does). I guess it matters if you're living on Cheetos and soda, but chances are, you're probably not. Chin up! GL!

mnmgirl078 · March 2011

I've gained 14 pounds so far (7 since last appt), and Tuesday my doc said to me, "We were doing so well with the weight. What happened? Let's try to keep it low." I wanted to tell her to kiss my A**! I think my weight is fine (especially given how much I eat. LOL).

JessandIgli · March 2011

jillybean222:
I heard it the first time around when I gained 50 pounds If it helps, I did not develop gestational diabetes and my baby girl was only 6 lbs, 4 oz at birth. I lost 30 pounds instantaneously, so I think a lot of it was fluid retention. Not gonna lie, the last 20 was HARD, but it did come off. I did a little better the 2nd time (only 40 pounds) but I am doing much, much better this time...I think I've gained 10 or 11 pounds...not really sure. I definitely don't pay as much attention to weight anymore b/c it really doesn't matter (as much as we all think it does). I guess it matters if you're living on Cheetos and soda, but chances are, you're probably not. Chin up! GL!

This is good to hear! Thank you so much! Yes, I'm more worried about piling it on than taking it off! And I guess GD and high birth weight are not correlated to weight gain, so that makes me feel a lot better!

aesf · March 2011

Hes probably talking about the 9 in a month and not the overall. I have found using daily plate helpful. I picked a weight gain goal, like 1 pound or 1.5 pounds a week and then started logging what i ate. I dont follow the goal too closely actaully (i keep in mind when im way over or under for days at a time) but its a good way to see what you are eating and where better decisions can be made.

MFAinNYC · March 2011

sarahanderic2009:
Um, misconception, the amount of weight you gain during pregnancy does not correlate to baby's weight.

This is true! My mom gained 27lbs and had my 10lb 2oz brother, and next time she gained 28lbs and had me... a whopping 6lbs!

I also gained 9 lbs from my 20 week to my 24 week appointment. My OB asked what happened and said I needed to start watching everything I eat and to stop drinking things like fruit juice (but the baby reeeealllyyy loves grapefruit juice). I am being tested for GD 2 weeks earlier than normal, but I have a family history. My father has Type 2 diabetes and so did two of my grandparents. I am up a total of 25 lbs, and even though the recommendation is to gain 25-35lbs, I feel if I go 5lbs over it's NOT going to be a huge deal. I also think some of it is water.

BabyCakes87 · March 2011

Hear hear!!! I am the exact same. Nine pounds this past month. I actually cried. Lol! DH told me its fine, but I don't feel like it is since I'm at risk for GD anyways since diabetes runs in my family. So frustrating. I eat really good and only give in to the occasional craving but this month I decided no craving caving at all!! I've put on 20 to date and I am getting so frustrated!

MrsCase1 · March 2011

well, from your wedding pic in your siggy, you have a gorgeous hour-glass figure. perhaps the picture is no longer true to life, but if it was then i am hard-pressed to think you look anything but terrific. if you're trying the way you say you are, i think your doctor needs to trust that it is doing what it needs to do. mother nature supercedes doctors, mostly, when a woman is making a conscious effort.

you have my support-i bet you look adorable!

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