WWYD? Daycare teacher posting pics on Facebook

turtlegirl115 · March 2011

Someone brought it to my attention today that two teacher at my DD's daycare have posted pictures of her on their facebook page. It's weird b/c neither of them are even her teachers. And to make it even worse their pages are not set to private so anybody can see them! I'm a CPS social worker and have had a recent death threat against me AND my child at work so I have been super careful about making sure all of my FB settings are private. Not sure how to handle this. What would you do?

Linz29 · March 2011

I would talk with the head of the DC and get the pics of your LO removed ASAP. They should not be posting pics of students.

Abinormal · March 2011

Is this a center?

If so, I'd go directly to the director of the center.

lifesadance · March 2011

I would go talk to the DCP immediately and discuss your privacy. They should not be taking photos and posting them to public places, especially not the internet, without your permission.

Que*Syrah · March 2011

I'd flip my lid and talk to the director. That is NOT ok.

cortnic84 · March 2011

I would report this to the manager, head of the dc, owner whoever I had to. Furthermore, unless you have signed a media release, I think this might be illegal (I am not for sure on that though). I would demand that the photos be removed immediately and would want reassurance that it will not happen again.

I am not usually one to get riled up, but this is your child's privacy, and you should be the one to decide whether you are comfortable with pictures of your LO on the internet. I am sorry that you are having to deal with this situation enlight of the threats from your work. GL!

Aprilynn0206 · March 2011

I would speak to somebody in charge immediately and get those pictures taken down.

turtlegirl115 · March 2011

Thanks everyone for validating my concerns. I was wondering if I was over-reacting b/c of the recent work situation. I'm not one of those people who cares if my friends or family members post pics of my child but this is different, ya know? Upon further investigation it looks like one of the girls that was posting pics is FB friends with the assistant director (yes, it's a center) so she has probably seen the pics already! I know the director doesn't have FB and probably doesn't have a clue what it is but she's about to find out! LOL I'm not a confrontational person and have a decent relationship with the teachers in question. I was thinking about printing the pics off and putting them in the payment mailbox anonymously. But the mommy in me says who gives a crap if someone gets fired, this is my kid we're talking about! Ugh.

Que*Syrah · March 2011

turtlegirl115:
Thanks everyone for validating my concerns. I was wondering if I was over-reacting b/c of the recent work situation. I'm not one of those people who cares if my friends or family members post pics of my child but this is different, ya know? Upon further investigation it looks like one of the girls that was posting pics is FB friends with the assistant director (yes, it's a center) so she has probably seen the pics already! I know the director doesn't have FB and probably doesn't have a clue what it is but she's about to find out! LOL I'm not a confrontational person and have a decent relationship with the teachers in question. I was thinking about printing the pics off and putting them in the payment mailbox anonymously. But the mommy in me says who gives a crap if someone gets fired, this is my kid we're talking about! Ugh.

Yes

You do not post pictures of other people's kids on facebook- or anywhere on the internet. Especially not if you are their teacher, or DCP and the parents have not given you permission.

rinny25 · March 2011

turtlegirl115:
Thanks everyone for validating my concerns. I was wondering if I was over-reacting b/c of the recent work situation. I'm not one of those people who cares if my friends or family members post pics of my child but this is different, ya know? Upon further investigation it looks like one of the girls that was posting pics is FB friends with the assistant director (yes, it's a center) so she has probably seen the pics already! I know the director doesn't have FB and probably doesn't have a clue what it is but she's about to find out! LOL I'm not a confrontational person and have a decent relationship with the teachers in question. I was thinking about printing the pics off and putting them in the payment mailbox anonymously. But the mommy in me says who gives a crap if someone gets fired, this is my kid we're talking about! Ugh.

To help your case, I would still do this. I am a teacher and I would NEVER do this. I have media release (pic & video) for all of my students and still asked my supervisor if it was ok to forward a video to a teacher for educational purposes. If one of my son's teacher's was posting his picture on the internet I would not be ok with that. He goes to school to learn, not to have his picture taken for personal reasons and posted on the internet. I would print out the pictures and then take them when I would go to talk to the director and I would do that asap before the teacher gets tipped off that you know about the pictures to begin with. A screen print works perfectly in this situation. I'm sorry but mommy intuition trumps some day care workers job.

turtlegirl115 · March 2011

Thanks, I will definitely do that!

rinny25:

turtlegirl115:
Thanks everyone for validating my concerns. I was wondering if I was over-reacting b/c of the recent work situation. I'm not one of those people who cares if my friends or family members post pics of my child but this is different, ya know? Upon further investigation it looks like one of the girls that was posting pics is FB friends with the assistant director (yes, it's a center) so she has probably seen the pics already! I know the director doesn't have FB and probably doesn't have a clue what it is but she's about to find out! LOL I'm not a confrontational person and have a decent relationship with the teachers in question. I was thinking about printing the pics off and putting them in the payment mailbox anonymously. But the mommy in me says who gives a crap if someone gets fired, this is my kid we're talking about! Ugh.

To help your case, I would still do this. I am a teacher and I would NEVER do this. I have media release (pic & video) for all of my students and still asked my supervisor if it was ok to forward a video to a teacher for educational purposes. If one of my son's teacher's was posting his picture on the internet I would not be ok with that. He goes to school to learn, not to have his picture taken for personal reasons and posted on the internet. I would print out the pictures and then take them when I would go to talk to the director and I would do that asap before the teacher gets tipped off that you know about the pictures to begin with. A screen print works perfectly in this situation. I'm sorry but mommy intuition trumps some day care workers job.

msalinardi@live.com · March 2011

About 4 years ago, I worked for a preschool and put up tons of pics of my kids on FB. I never really thought anything of it and I know that at that time it was not against the rules. I was just showing my friends how cute the kids were that I was taking care of. Most of the pictures that I posted I made copies and gave them to the parents at the end of the year. Looking back I defininently shouldn't have done it and have since taken them down because i wouldn't want anyone putting pics of my kids up on FB without my permission.

You have said that you have a good relationship with the women who put up the pics, so i would just send them a message on FB asking that they take down the pics of your LO and to please refrain from putting any up without your express permission. If they do not immediately take the pics down, THEN I would report them to the director. Why cost someone their job, especially when they most likely aren't trying to be malicious or sneaky? Also, they most likely won't get fired because of this, unless it goes against the schools rules.

sunflowergrl · March 2011

While I most certainly agree they should be taken down, I think (and I'm sure I'm in the minority judging by the PP's) it's a bit absurd to go straight to the director without talking to the teachers themselves.

I'm sure they meant to harm, they probably just wanted to show off the cute kiddies they work with. I would just approach them, and tell them you are not comfortable having pics of DD up anywhere but your own FB where you can control the privacy settings, and would they please take them down. (heck, even give a time frame.. "have them down by tonight please")

If after that they don't take them down, the most certainly go to the director of the center or whoever is in charge. But give them a change to correct the situation themselves before doing something that could get them in trouble for something that was an innocent mistake.

whitward87 · March 2011

sunflowergrl:
While I most certainly agree they should be taken down, I think (and I'm sure I'm in the minority judging by the PP's) it's a bit absurd to go straight to the director without talking to the teachers themselves.

I'm sure they meant to harm, they probably just wanted to show off the cute kiddies they work with. I would just approach them, and tell them you are not comfortable having pics of DD up anywhere but your own FB where you can control the privacy settings, and would they please take them down. (heck, even give a time frame.. "have them down by tonight please")

If after that they don't take them down, the most certainly go to the director of the center or whoever is in charge. But give them a change to correct the situation themselves before doing something that could get them in trouble for something that was an innocent mistake.

This. All of it. Don't get them in trouble without going to them first. They will probably feel bad it upset you and take them down immediately.

kada626 · March 2011

I would go to the director w/pictures in hand and let her know it is unacceptable to have pics of your dd online esp on facebook. The person should know better before posting. I think telling the director would increase the chances of this never happening again with any student. I'm sure the other parents would be just as upset. Imo, you don't owe it to the teacher to talk to her first. The problem really needs to be address with all the employees there.

turtlegirl115 · March 2011

That's what I've been thinking about tonight too....saying something to the teachers first. It's definitely against the rules. There are signs up everywhere about them not even being allowed to have their cell phones in the classroom at all. And an ex-teacher told me tonight that one of the teachers got in big trouble last year for it (none of these teachers are new) and they all know it's a huge "no-no". After looking through the pics, over half of the teachers are involved in this. They either posted the pics, are in the pics themselves, have been tagged in the pics or have commented on the pics. I mean I guess it's not really THAT big of a deal. There's nothing that identifies my child. I still don't like it but I really don't want to have to deal with this. Still not sure what I'm going to do...

**sunny** · March 2011

they shouldn't be doing that. you need to notify the head of the DC and the photos need to be taken down immediately.

our daycare has a secure, private, password-protected website where you can access class news and pics and stuff. you have to get log-in information from the daycare and then there is a verification system before your user info is accepted.

ETA: the director needs to know because clearly there is a communication and training issue between the director and staff. it should be common knowledge because it has been explicitly communicated to all staff not to be taking pics of the students and posting them on public websites - and if the staff have not been told this, a policy needs to be developed asap and implemented by the director so that all staff (not just these 2 teachers) are aware of it and it doesn't happen again. it's not being malicious. it's the way of the world and the proper way to do things.

ETA # 2: I'm not trying to be mean, but I'm not sure why you are being wishy-washy about this. you're not sure you're going to say anything? you would anonymously report it in the mailbox? dude. it's WRONG. they should not be posting pics of your child on the internet for the world to see.

you don't have to be a b!tch about it, but for heaven's sake stop by the director's office tomorrow morning and say, "hi, director! sorry to bother you, but I was pretty surprised last night to see pics of my child and lots of other daycare children posted on facebook without any privacy protection or permission from me for posting. do you guys have a policy on that or was there a media release I signed giving the teachers permission to do that?" - this is still a passive aggressive way of saying what you're trying to say, but it's in a "sweet" enough way that you should be ok with that script at least.

grapeape73 · March 2011

I would be upset. I would ask that the pictures be removed immediately. It is up to you whether you want to go to the director, or the teachers. I would worry that if you just go to the teachers in question that other teachers might have pics of students on their FB page. As a parent I wouldn't want my kid's pic on random peoples pages with who knows how many people accessing.

If you want to blame it on your work, then do that. Say something like, "due to the nature of my job, and the various threats to myself and my family, I am not comfortable with any pictures of my children on FB, or the internet in any capacity."

That way, you aren't blaming the teachers directly (sort of), and you can pass the blame.

groovygrl · March 2011

absolutely not acceptable...I don't even post pix of my friends' kids without their permission & would be really pissed if my DC teachers posted them! Def go to the director.

julygal · March 2011

I would talk to teachers first then talk to the director the same day. I think they deserve a heads up that there is an issue, but I do think the director needs to know that this is going on. FWIW my DD's pictures are on the school webpage that anyone can see, but to me that seems different than personal FB page, and I would not want my child on her teacher's FB page. Also, given your work situation, I think you have every reason to be sensitive to the issue, and I think that alone stands as reason to have the pictures removed.

MrsC17 · March 2011

Yup, I'd flip my lid. Totally not okay in my book.

nealbl · March 2011

i would have their butt's fired. That is so wrong on so many levels. They should no better than to do that

Bianca42 · March 2011

sunflowergrl:
While I most certainly agree they should be taken down, I think (and I'm sure I'm in the minority judging by the PP's) it's a bit absurd to go straight to the director without talking to the teachers themselves.

I'm sure they meant to harm, they probably just wanted to show off the cute kiddies they work with. I would just approach them, and tell them you are not comfortable having pics of DD up anywhere but your own FB where you can control the privacy settings, and would they please take them down. (heck, even give a time frame.. "have them down by tonight please")

If after that they don't take them down, the most certainly go to the director of the center or whoever is in charge. But give them a change to correct the situation themselves before doing something that could get them in trouble for something that was an innocent mistake.

I do agree that you should talk to the teacher first to give her a chance to take them down. But I think you should talk to the director regardless. If she takes them down the discussion can be more vague without names...but the reality is that this is a training issue the director needs to be made aware of. And if the center is smart they will make an official policy going forward on how it's handled. Otherwise, you may end up going through the same thing with every new teacher you encounter in the center.

Bianca42 · March 2011

turtlegirl115:
That's what I've been thinking about tonight too....saying something to the teachers first. It's definitely against the rules. There are signs up everywhere about them not even being allowed to have their cell phones in the classroom at all. And an ex-teacher told me tonight that one of the teachers got in big trouble last year for it (none of these teachers are new) and they all know it's a huge "no-no". After looking through the pics, over half of the teachers are involved in this. They either posted the pics, are in the pics themselves, have been tagged in the pics or have commented on the pics. I mean I guess it's not really THAT big of a deal. There's nothing that identifies my child. I still don't like it but I really don't want to have to deal with this. Still not sure what I'm going to do...

Good Lord...I change my answer. I would be at the director's office first thing. It's a known policy and it's being violated left and right like it's no big deal? WTF? There would be no wishy-washy for me knowing that they all know better.

Jessys_Girl · March 2011

turtlegirl115:
That's what I've been thinking about tonight too....saying something to the teachers first.
It's definitely against the rules. There are signs up everywhere about them not even being allowed to have their cell phones in the classroom at all. And an ex-teacher told me tonight that one of the teachers got in big trouble last year for it (none of these teachers are new) and they all know it's a huge "no-no".

After looking through the pics, over half of the teachers are involved in this. They either posted the pics, are in the pics themselves, have been tagged in the pics or have commented on the pics.

I mean I guess it's not really THAT big of a deal. There's nothing that identifies my child. I still don't like it but I really don't want to have to deal with this. Still not sure what I'm going to do...

I agree, talk to the teachers first, BUT I think the talk should say "This has come to my attention and it's unacceptable, I just wanted to give you a heads up that I will be talking to the director". And the talk to the director. Because:

The bolded part: They are AWARE that this is against the rules and that someone has already been reprimanded for this.

The Underlined part: Speaking to the one or two teachers who have YOUR child's photos up does not resolve that "over half the teachers are involved". This is something to make the director aware of.

and the Italics part: It IS that big of a deal. if those teacher's pages are not private and the pics are visible to ANYONE, then the teacher's information (and their place of employment) are also visible to anyone, including pedophiles, people who've threatened you/your DD, etc. This is creepy to say, but it is truly not that hard for someone to use a tiny bit of information to find out more information and ultimately hurt you.

I feel like this should go to the director. Now.

bmstee03 · March 2011

Jessys_Girl:

turtlegirl115:
That's what I've been thinking about tonight too....saying something to the teachers first.
It's definitely against the rules. There are signs up everywhere about them not even being allowed to have their cell phones in the classroom at all. And an ex-teacher told me tonight that one of the teachers got in big trouble last year for it (none of these teachers are new) and they all know it's a huge "no-no".

After looking through the pics, over half of the teachers are involved in this. They either posted the pics, are in the pics themselves, have been tagged in the pics or have commented on the pics.

I mean I guess it's not really THAT big of a deal. There's nothing that identifies my child. I still don't like it but I really don't want to have to deal with this. Still not sure what I'm going to do...

I agree, talk to the teachers first, BUT I think the talk should say "This has come to my attention and it's unacceptable, I just wanted to give you a heads up that I will be talking to the director". And the talk to the director. Because:

The bolded part: They are AWARE that this is against the rules and that someone has already been reprimanded for this.

The Underlined part: Speaking to the one or two teachers who have YOUR child's photos up does not resolve that "over half the teachers are involved". This is something to make the director aware of.

and the Italics part: It IS that big of a deal. if those teacher's pages are not private and the pics are visible to ANYONE, then the teacher's information (and their place of employment) are also visible to anyone, including pedophiles, people who've threatened you/your DD, etc. This is creepy to say, but it is truly not that hard for someone to use a tiny bit of information to find out more information and ultimately hurt you.

I feel like this should go to the director. Now.

Agreed. It would not be a pleasant conversation either.

turtlegirl115 · March 2011

Thanks everyone for your input. I went to the office this morning and the Director wasn't in so I talked to the Assistant Director. She said it was definitely against the rules and in fact was standing there with a sign in her hand that she was about to post about their policy of "No cell phones in the classroom". She said they had that issue last year and they know better. She said she would handle it. Well I just checked and the pics on both pages are still there. So I'll be talking to the director tomorrow. I wasn' t that pissed to begin with but now I'm livid that it was not "handled" today!

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