Staring first IVF in the face

khanley1980 · March 2011

I am staring my first IVF in the face and I am kind of in denial, but it hit me today. AF will probably start this weekend, then all the fun begins. I am scared that it won't work......how does everybody deal with this, trying to balance excitement with realistic expectations? Should I should be really excited?

bbakersgirl75 · March 2011

I think it's only natural to be excited to start a new step in the direction of possibly conceiving a child.

I was in the same place 6 months ago, and I was overjoyed! It's natural. But there is a difference between being excited and being unrealistic. Always remember that as much as we all hope we get PG with our first IVF it may not happen that way.

Be excited!!! This is a great step for you, but remember that it's not a 100% guarantee We are all here to help and support you along the way.

sarah0925 · March 2011

I'm in the same position that you are and trying to stay cautiously optimistic. Good luck with the next step. It is exciting!

PurpleIris30 · March 2011

Good luck! I think it's great to embrace the excitement, but recognize that nothing is a guarantee.

ecleptic · March 2011

On one hand. I am fully committed to the belief that this cycle will work. There's a part of me that needs to believe in something positive so very badly and it's telling me that a negative outlook could sabotage everything.

On the other hand. I have made my peace with trying a second time. I've thought of a couple of reasons why a second cycle would be just as good and I'm trying to keep only positive engery towards that as well. A third cycle is at least a year and a lot of tears away and I simply can't let myself think about that.

It's not about realistic expectations any more- it's about finding my happy center and believing that it has to work. I can't believe anything else without falling apart and I have no reason to believe that we will fail with two cycles to try.

Positivity. With a (small) dash of realistic acceptance that it might not take the first time.

missjul61 · March 2011

ecleptic:
On one hand. I am fully committed to the belief that this cycle will work. There's a part of me that needs to believe in something positive so very badly and it's telling me that a negative outlook could sabotage everything.
On the other hand. I have made my peace with trying a second time. I've thought of a couple of reasons why a second cycle would be just as good and I'm trying to keep only positive engery towards that as well. A third cycle is at least a year and a lot of tears away and I simply can't let myself think about that.
It's not about realistic expectations any more- it's about finding my happy center and believing that it has to work. I can't believe anything else without falling apart and I have no reason to believe that we will fail with two cycles to try.
Positivity. With a (small) dash of realistic acceptance that it might not take the first time.

Great advice! OP, best of luck w/ your first IVF cycle. I just finished my first (still waiting for the outcome) and it was not as bad as I made myself to think. It was worth it for a chance to have a baby.

naybird · March 2011

Yes.. you should be excited, because you know you are trying.. You know you are doing everything possible to have a baby!

IVF is scary. It's sad that as IFers we are scared to let ourselves get excited. I wish you the very best for this cycle!!!

softbalangel · March 2011

No advice on how to balance as I haven't done a cycle yet. Just wanted to wish you the best of luck!

ellenchris0506 · March 2011

It is definitely a mixed emotion type of thing!

It is a big step towards having a baby, and it can be super exciting to know that it can work and have that end result we all want. It is the worrying and wondering and not knowing if it will work that is the hard part for me.

I compare it to gambling, as you just never know what will happen.

Good luck!

OCW2010 · March 2011

I'm in the same boat as you, just a few days ahead (on CD3 now of Lupron cycle). I am trying to stay really positive about the cycle. I hope it works for you!

Esquirette · March 2011

I go for my first IVF in the beginning of May I am soo nervous too. Wish you luck with everything!

MAbride0808 · March 2011

Good luck with everything. I am in a slightly similar situation. AF should be here in about a week and a half. I am excited to start IVF, but also pertrified that I will get my hopes too high and be totally crushed.

It is great to know there are a lot of us first time IVFers starting right now. We definitely can support each other.

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