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mplesset23
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whats with all the opinions from ppl?
mplesset23
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So I work in a large company and there are ALOT of pregnant women here. Growing up I always thought that 12 weeks was normal for maternity leave. My company offers STD for 6 weeks with vaginal delivery and 8 with c-sections, but my company has the policy where my job is secure for up to 12 weeks I guess this has to do with the FMLA). I commented to a few co-workers (one of which is pregnant) that I was planning on taking 12 weeks as long as DH and I will have enough money saved up and they made it out like that was absurd. I know people take less, but I thought 12 wasn't an unusual amount of time to be home with a newborn.
Oh and I got the..."well its a first kid thing, you'll feel different with your next." Um, no it's not a first kid thing, it's a "this is my right and the way my family does things, thing."
Oh and for the record, my boss mentioned to me "I know you'll want to be out for 12 weeks", so I know her and I are on the same page.
Why can't people just smile and nod when they don't agree instead of having to make obnoxious comments. Anyone else annoyed with comments like this...or had a similar situation?
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Re: whats with all the opinions from ppl?
DMoney will be a kickass big sister
I agree with you. Not only that it is not anyone else's business than yours how much Mat leave you take. Why should they make you feel bad for wanting to spend the maximum amount of time with your newborn.
I am from the UK, where everyone gets 6 months Mat leave without question, and I had never heard of someone coming back before then. I struggle even to think about only getting 3 months leave and having to leave my 3 month old, that is going to break my heart.
It depends so much on each indivudial, how much their career means to them, their culture etc... if I could I wouldn't work at all for the first couple of years.,.. those are such precious times that go by fast and you never get them back. I think it must be hard for Mom's who work full-time, I just dont think I could be away from my child for that long. But in this economy, needs must! Its harder now-a-days than ever before and each family has to do what it right for them.
GL. xx
I hope to take 12 weeks too (but the second 6 will be unpaid, so still up in the air). My boss has encouraged me to take 12 weeks. She did and said it's a great experience to stay home that long.
Those that disagree can go kick rocks...it's my money, my family, and really my right to take off, right?? I wouldn't let it get to you when the opinions start coming in...
I'm glad we all agree on here
I did mention this a minute ago to some other co-workers who 100% agreed with me that 12 weeks is normal, and by no means a large amount of time.
After reading the posts, I now wish I lived in the UK. I like your maternity leave much better!
Ppfft! 12 weeks is not near enough!!
I wish we could all ban together and get something passed! It saddens me very much. So many other countries have laws for their mommas. but no the USA has one of the worst!
You dont have to live in the UK to get more than 12 weeks off. I live in CA and get at least 5 months and can take longer but unpaid. If your referring to the fact that UK gets a year then I to wish I lived there! Our laws should really be diffirent. It saddens me.
Maybe baby #2 will be born in Cali
That's definitely the common one. I'm really surprised there are people expecting you to want to go back sooner.
It is so sad. A new Mom needs time with her newborn, I'd hate to feel like I were missing out on developments and milestones. My sister has just had a baby and she has a year off, 6 months paid, and 6 half pay. I am from the UK, but I live in CA with my husband, and of course thinking about giving up a years Mat leave for 12 weeks is sickening!!! I just dont think I am going to be able to bring myself to leave my child.
If you live in CA than why are you only taking 12 weeks? We have a law called family bodding time. and it comes afetr the FMLA...make sure your using all the time the state has to offer and educate yourself on it. My company is huge so maybe thats why I get over 5 motnhs leave?? Smaller companies might not have as much?
Ha! I can beat that! I'm stationed in Germany right now and they get 2 years!!! Technically, it's 1 yr paid, 1 yr unpaid but can come back after 1 year. I always loved the phrase, "if I want your opinion I'll give it you." I'd never actually say that but I heard it in a movie once
It definately depends where you live. i live in canada an we get employment insurance which is i think 60% up to 400/week for one year.. i work for the government so i get my wage topped up for the year. one year off with full pay!! yahoo.
It definately depends where you live. i live in canada an we get employment insurance which is i think 60% up to 400/week for one year.. i work for the government so i get my wage topped up for the year. one year off with full pay!! yahoo.