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Am I the only one??

fierynutfierynut
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Been lurking and reading for a few days now.  Just found out last week that we are expecting.  Total shock for both of us.  I had a miscarriage in 07 & another in 08.  I spend every day since finding out I was pregnant trying not to worry about another potential miscarriage.  I have a u/s scheduled for the 12th (at 8 weeks & 5 days) and have been crossing off the days until I can actually see that everything is OK. 

 To my point.. Am I the only one who has found that the message board actually adds to their anxiety?  I read posts and start to question myself and worry about another miscarriage.  I had both of my miscarriages before 6 weeks and keep telling myself everything about this pregnancy feels different then before.  I have horrible ALL day sickness, my boobs feel like they are going to explode, I pee constantly.. Things I didn't have with previous pregnancies.  I guess I am just hoping others are feeling that same anxiety from reading posts and that I am not losing my mind!

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  • Ebeth_in_ATLEbeth_in_ATL

    You are not alone.  I've never had a loss.  I have been pregnant 2 times before and have 2 healthy kids.  This pregnancy is fine.  But reading here makes me paranoid too.  Maybe  back off until after your first appointment?

     

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  • JanimalJanimal member

    Given your previous losses, OF COURSE you are having some anxiety.  Sounds totally normal to me.  Me too! 

    When I miscarried after my first IVF, it was devastating.  Then when I got pg after IVF #2, DH said he was going to not get excited in case it didn't work out.  That made me incredibly sad.  I didn't know if I was going to be pg for a week or for 40 weeks, but that child deserved all the happiness my first lost one had.  If I was only going to be pg for a little while, at least I could enjoy that little while.  Pretending it wasn't real wouldn't make it less painful if it ended.

    So that's what I say to you now.  It is unfair you had to have other losses.  But THIS TIME, THIS BABY, you have the right to be happy.  You have the right to be excited.  Every day you get to be pg is a magical gift.  Try to enjoy it for as long as possible.  Being anxious or crazy won't make it any better or worse on the other side. 

    We're all freaked out in the 1st tri.  But the odds are on our side - most of us will have healthy happy pregnancies.  CHEERS to that!  Hang in there!

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  • myantoniamyantonia
    Ditto the PP.  I've never had a loss, but seeing so many miscarriages going on in first tri makes me seriously paranoid.  I know it's a disproportionately high number since people tend to post more about highly emotional things, but still, it's scary to see.
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  • wrinjuwrinju
    imageJanimal:

    Given your previous losses, OF COURSE you are having some anxiety.  Sounds totally normal to me.  Me too! 

    When I miscarried after my first IVF, it was devastating.  Then when I got pg after IVF #2, DH said he was going to not get excited in case it didn't work out.  That made me incredibly sad.  I didn't know if I was going to be pg for a week or for 40 weeks, but that child deserved all the happiness my first lost one had.  If I was only going to be pg for a little while, at least I could enjoy that little while.  Pretending it wasn't real wouldn't make it less painful if it ended.

    So that's what I say to you now.  It is unfair you had to have other losses.  But THIS TIME, THIS BABY, you have the right to be happy.  You have the right to be excited.  Every day you get to be pg is a magical gift.  Try to enjoy it for as long as possible.  Being anxious or crazy won't make it any better or worse on the other side. 

    We're all freaked out in the 1st tri.  But the odds are on our side - most of us will have healthy happy pregnancies.  CHEERS to that!  Hang in there!

    This is an awesome post, thank you!

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  • tnleightnleigh
    I know exactly how you feel.  I've had two first trimester losses.  I have tons of anxiety from that.  Add to it all the things I see on the message boards and I absolutely make myself crazy.  I've been trying to limit my message board time, especially on the weekends when I have more time to kill.   We had an ultrasound yesterday at 6w5d and were able to see a heartbeat. Here's hoping you have a H&H 9 months.
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  • fierynutfierynut

    Thank you!  I just feel insane today... Blame it on the hormones! ha ha ha...  I was reading some of the posts and literally felt a anxious/panic come over me.  I know this is all kind of out of my hands.  All I can do is take care of myself and try to not stress but for a control freak like me that lack of control is insanity inducing!

     I have tried to "distract" myself with happy, celebrating thoughts..  Which helps!  That and the constant trips to the bathroom serve as a distraction too.. lol

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  • ascblue74ascblue74
    I'm glad I'm not the only one, I feel exactly the same way. I am in my first pregnacy (4wks 3 days) and my first US is scheduled for the 14th. I want to be so excited, but I need to see that heartbeat. All we can do is take the best possible care of our bodies, and wait. Good luck to you!
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  • Brownee79Brownee79
    No you aren't the only one. I've suffered a loss before myself. So I completely understand. But for me it's a catch 22. On one hand it can cause more anxiety, on the other these women know exactly how you are feeling. So I try to just balance it. But I also have had reason to fear for this one too. But so far so good. GL
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  • katie4891katie4891
    They make me extremely anxious, too!  My husband actually told me to stay away, but here I am...I am addicted! :)
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  • xStacexxStacex

    I'm on this same boat, too. This is technically my 2nd pregnancy. I was pregnant back in November and miscarried on Thanksgiving. I was so excited to see that positive pregnancy test back then. This time when I got a positive, I was shocked, but didn't get the excited feeling because I'm fully of worry.

     I've only had two betas so far and then my first ultrasound is this Friday to see if the sac is in the uterus. My dr office has yet to congratulate me, either, which makes me feel uneasy. So now, all I've been doing is Googling and message boarding about things that can go wrong like ectopics, blighted ovums, etc. I am going crazy!

    I always thought after the 2 week wait that it'd be okay, but I find myself still waiting!


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