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DD wants to be held all the time!

BeebopandBuddyBeebopandBuddy member
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She is 2 1/2 weeks old.  Sometimes she takes 1-3 hour naps and I can put her down to get things done.  But this only happens twice a day.  The rest of the time she cries for ne to hold her where she lays with her eyes closed but is not asleep (I know because she yawns periodically while stretching and squirming).  Just when I think she must be asleep, I lay her in her crib or bouncer only to have her crying 5 minutes later until I pick her back up.  Anyone else having this issue?  Any ideas to fix it or I in for a lot of very unproductive days and cramped arms?  I love holding her but I do have to eat, shower and do things around the house.  Thoughts?
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Re: DD wants to be held all the time!

  • ReeseMReeseM member
    I would consider yourself extremely lucky you get 2x a day to do stuff. I get none.
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    imageReeseM:
    I would consider yourself extremely lucky you get 2x a day to do stuff. I get none.

    True that. Oh how I miss those 3 hour nap days!  I'm hoping getting a swing or wrap will help me out.  I hate not having arms and not having time to eat.

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  • Firedancer1013Firedancer1013
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    imageReeseM:
    I would consider yourself extremely lucky you get 2x a day to do stuff. I get none.

    True that. Oh how I miss those 3 hour nap days!  I'm hoping getting a swing or wrap will help me out.  I hate not having arms and not having time to eat.

    This.  DS finally fell asleep long enough to stay asleep and be put down to nap the first time during the day in a long time and I seriously had an internal struggle to figure out what was more important in the limited time I had, eating something or going to the bathroom.  Lol.

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  • jtenebackjteneback member

    I have a Sleepy Wrap (like a Moby) and it lets me "hold" her hands-free, or with one hand on the back of her neck if I am walking around.  She is in it right now :)  I can't do everything in it but I can walk around, go to the bathroom (I won't mention this to her when she is older!), work on the computer, grab something from the fridge, etc.  I highly recommend it.   

    It seemed complicated to put on but after going through the instructions once I pretty much had it down.

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  • nlionbergernlionberger member

    Is she swaddled? A lot of times they will wake up when you lay them down because they feel like they're falling.

    Do you have a Moby or another carrier that's comfortable for a newborn? You'd still be holding her, but at least you would be able to get some stuff done.

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  • iamgraceiamgrace member
    Right now I get NO BREAKS between feeding and wanting to be held.  I don't shower or get dressed until H comes home.  Going to the bathroom without him screaming is a luxury.  So, yeah - no suggestions from me. 
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    Moby!
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  • drea_rayedrea_raye

    DS is similar... sometimes I will put him down  when he is asleep and he will finish out that cycle, waking himself up when he gets to the light sleep. I just tried the no escape swaddle (I think if you youtube swaddling 102 you should find it? It is a guy and his daughter, you use an extra blanket to hold their arms... got the link in a siggy here...) That got me an hour and a half. I also didn't know what to do with the time, and felt guilty for not holding him!

    I think it is important to remember that they went from being "held" 24 hours a day... to now being held 12 (or whatever) - it is a big drop. I also try to remmeber that he won't let me cuddle him like this forever... but it is still hard when you can't even go to the bathroom.

    It does get better... we can get 10 minutes of awake time in the swing... long enough to shower... or like I said up to half an hour if we put him down in a deep sleep.

    Babies have short sleep cycles, and take longer to get to a deep sleep. You have to watch for the cues... fluttering eyes and sleep expressions indicate baby isn't asleep enough to be put down.

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  • laurapalmerlaurapalmer
    imageiamgrace:
    Right now I get NO BREAKS between feeding and wanting to be held.  I don't shower or get dressed until H comes home.  Going to the bathroom without him screaming is a luxury.  So, yeah - no suggestions from me. 
    This! I know it feels tough but you're extremely lucky that you get a few hours a day.
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  • jenna3016jenna3016 member

    Around that age, LO liked to sleep in his swing. 

    We don't have one, but some moms recommend the Rock N Play.  I have heard you don't want to leave LO in it too long, though.

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  • AM2008AM2008 member
    I carry DD pretty much all day in the Moby, because she won't nap anywhere else right now.  She sleeps well at night in the RnP but just wants to be held all day, so the Moby has been a lifesaver.  The only negative about it is that my back isn't liking me right now.
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  • CutieBean79CutieBean79 member
    Ditto the swaddling. Swaddle tight with the arms inside.
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  • DarrenandHanaDarrenandHana

    imageReeseM:
    I would consider yourself extremely lucky you get 2x a day to do stuff. I get none.

    This. 

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  • kapereasdkapereasd member
    imagedrea_raye:

    DS is similar... sometimes I will put him down  when he is asleep and he will finish out that cycle, waking himself up when he gets to the light sleep. I just tried the no escape swaddle (I think if you youtube swaddling 102 you should find it? It is a guy and his daughter, you use an extra blanket to hold their arms... got the link in a siggy here...) That got me an hour and a half. I also didn't know what to do with the time, and felt guilty for not holding him!

    I think it is important to remember that they went from being "held" 24 hours a day... to now being held 12 (or whatever) - it is a big drop. I also try to remmeber that he won't let me cuddle him like this forever... but it is still hard when you can't even go to the bathroom.

    It does get better... we can get 10 minutes of awake time in the swing... long enough to shower... or like I said up to half an hour if we put him down in a deep sleep.

    Babies have short sleep cycles, and take longer to get to a deep sleep. You have to watch for the cues... fluttering eyes and sleep expressions indicate baby isn't asleep enough to be put down.

    Enjoy it now while you can, it won't last long...

    Hope it gets better for you!

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