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NBR: Got a thank you note 8 mos later (vent)

amanda1680amanda1680 member
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So DH's cousin got married in July 2010.  DH was his best man, and we drove 11 hours (one way) for their wedding, meaning 22 hours of total driving in one weekend.  The hotel (the only choice) they reserved was super expensive, not to mention the gas money, tux, and wedding gift, but whatever.  He was DH's best man in our wedding too (April 2009), but true to character, he made a terrible, drawn-out, drunken best man speech and didn't even give us a card (after saying they "forgot" our gift at home).

Well, we just got a thank you note from them today.  Eight months after the wedding.  "Thank you guys for the gift."  These people just kill me.   

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  • kimbo1216kimbo1216 member

    Normally, I would say better late than never.  However, is that all it really said?  "Thank you for the gift."  That's horrible!  It's common sense that a TY note is supposed to specifically list the gift and how it is going to be used or something very specific about how excited they are about it.  Some people have all the nerve.

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  • AlyciaandRichAlyciaandRich member
    I have never recieved one for my good friends wedding, which I was in! It was 2 years ago. And no she didn't send them to anyone. Months later she said, well it is too late now!

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  • amanda1680amanda1680 member
    imagekimbo1216:

    Normally, I would say better late than never.  However, is that all it really said?  "Thank you for the gift."  That's horrible!  It's common sense that a TY note is supposed to specifically list the gift and how it is going to be used or something very specific about how excited they are about it.  Some people have all the nerve.

    Yeah, I would also agree on the "better late than never" thing, but after all the shady and inconsiderate stuff they've done over the years, they don't really deserve that.  I guess I shouldn't be surprised though.  Basically the card made a joke about him loving my DH like his "brother" (because that is literally all his speech at our wedding consisted of) and "thank you guys for the gift."  Probably because they have no idea what the gift even was at this point. 

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  • LauraOTRLauraOTR member

    I never received one from my cousin (and neither did my parents or my aunt...so I'm guessing they just didn't do them). Her wedding was 3 years ago, and we spent close to $700 to go to it, including flight, hotel, etc, PLUS got her a nice gift off the registry.

     Not to discount that it's crappy to get a short note 8 months after the fact, but at least you got a note!

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  • northtamaracknorthtamarack member
    DH's family doesn't do thank you notes and it drives me crazy.  One cousin got married and had a baby shower in the same year.  We gave nice gifts and didn't even recieve a verbal thank you.  So wierd!
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  • helenejrhelenejr member

    i think thats totally rude! i don't want to hijack your post but DHs best friend from high school and his wife still haven't sent thankyou  cards - they were married a year ago!!!! when we got married in Oct we invited them but after recieving 2 yes responses only DHs friend showed up because his wife decided she wanted to go to the horse races........... we also weren't given a gift or a card.

     

    some people just don't get it!

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  • Birdies08Birdies08 member

    I have to confess- some of our wedding guests never got their thank you notes. We had a couple returned to us because people had moved since invites were sent out and we didn't get new addresses in a timely fashion- in some cases, MH was bad about tracking down the info or we were told the address was correct (even though the card came back...). In others, our friends were just busy with life/moving and didn't get back to us until it was holiday card time (we got married in August). For some of those people, I included a brief thank you with their holiday card.

    For whatever reason, mailing out TYs and subsequent holiday cards always ends up being a huge headache! Our friends and family are not easily reachable by mail, I guess.

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  • marybethoconnell@yahoo.commarybethoconnell@yahoo.com
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    I have to confess- some of our wedding guests never got their thank you notes. We had a couple returned to us because people had moved since invites were sent out and we didn't get new addresses in a timely fashion- in some cases, MH was bad about tracking down the info or we were told the address was correct (even though the card came back...). In others, our friends were just busy with life/moving and didn't get back to us until it was holiday card time (we got married in August). For some of those people, I included a brief thank you with their holiday card.

    For whatever reason, mailing out TYs and subsequent holiday cards always ends up being a huge headache! Our friends and family are not easily reachable by mail, I guess.

     

    I confess this too!! :( This exactly! Oops. Totally not on purpose just like this person, and I did try to get everyone. It just got really confusing in the end. 

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  • mesrmesr
    this sort of stuff bugs me to no end.  we got a thank you note for a wedding we attended months later, and it just had a generic typed note stuffed inside the notecard.  no mention of our specific gift.  i found out later that the couple hadn't even opened the wedding presents because they didn't have room for any more stuff in their dinky apartment.  and that they were getting divorced.
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  • cofox14cofox14 member
    if this is all you have to worry about, count your blessings, dont sweat the small stuff
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  • cofox14cofox14 member
    if this is all that you have to worry about, count your blessings, dont sweat the small stuff
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  • TessieFTessieF
    Eh, I wouldn't get too worked up about it.  Weddings are a stressful time and it takes awhile to go through all the gifts and organize thank-yous.  I was so stressed by my wedding I lost almost 15 pounds in the 2 months before without trying (and I wasn't overweight).  We took a two and a half week honeymoon and then when I came back I was putting in 70 hour weeks at work for a good 2 months.  It took us 3 months to go through all our gifts and get out all the thank-yous.  It didn't mean we were any less thankful and I don't think anyone was offended.
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