Do you ever feel guilty?

MarriedinCali · March 2011

Like there is something else you could or should do to be able to get KU? Our IF issues are 100% me- and I just have this overwhelming feeling of sadness because I haven't been able to give my H a baby (or 13 like he wanted when we first got married, lol). He is always super supportive and tells me he doesn't blame me or isn't upset with me- but he really wants a baby and I just don't know if it will ever happen.

Ok, enough pity party for now- today is one of those days.

DeputiesWife · March 2011

Yes. I feel guilty every month. It sucks. DH is wonderfully supportive. But I cant help it.

Hang in there.

MarriedinCali · March 2011

DeputiesWife:

Yes. I feel guilty every month. It sucks. DH is wonderfully supportive. But I cant help it.

Hang in there.

Thanks- it just sucks and today is all rainy and gloomy so I'm gloomy... this weekend was a lot of baby talk- fostering, adoption, etc... so my brain is still on that road. At least our Hs are supportive- I couldn't make it without that!

Bella2u07 · March 2011

All the time!

Our dx is both of us and I know we are doing everything we can to help. What breaks my heart the most is when Dh looks, holds and plays with babies/kids. I want to be able to give him a baby of his own and it's time is just ticking away.

MarriedinCali · March 2011

Bella2u07:

All the time!

Our dx is both of us and I know we are doing everything we can to help. What breaks my heart the most is when Dh looks, holds and plays with babies/kids. I want to be able to give him a baby of his own and it's time is just ticking away.

And that is what got me this weekend. We went to visit my sister who just had her 1st (she is 1.5 years younger than me), and when H held her, he just lit up- he was such a natural and the way he looked at her both warmed and broke my heart.

Bella2u07 · March 2011

MarriedinCali:
Bella2u07:

All the time!

Our dx is both of us and I know we are doing everything we can to help. What breaks my heart the most is when Dh looks, holds and plays with babies/kids. I want to be able to give him a baby of his own and it's time is just ticking away.
And that is what got me this weekend. We went to visit my sister who just had her 1st (she is 1.5 years younger than me), and when H held her, he just lit up- he was such a natural and the way he looked at her both warmed and broke my heart.

Yeah, it gets me every time! Even now, just thinking about it makes me want to cry.

naybird · March 2011

Yes. I do feel guilty. Every time I see a cute baby, every time someone we know says they are pregnant. Our issues are also 100% me. And it honestly kills me. It kills my self esteem, my sprits, my overall sense of self worth. It's really awful.. and I try to keep sane and smiling through each and every BFN.. I've never really given 2 craps about my career, all I ever wanted to be was a mother and have a family..

So make it a table for two.. I'm totally joining your pity party.. Big big hugs!!!

MarriedinCali · March 2011

Bella2u07:
MarriedinCali:
Bella2u07:

All the time!

Our dx is both of us and I know we are doing everything we can to help. What breaks my heart the most is when Dh looks, holds and plays with babies/kids. I want to be able to give him a baby of his own and it's time is just ticking away.

And that is what got me this weekend. We went to visit my sister who just had her 1st (she is 1.5 years younger than me), and when H held her, he just lit up- he was such a natural and the way he looked at her both warmed and broke my heart.

Yeah, it gets me every time! Even now, just thinking about it makes me want to cry.

Sorry!!! (((HUGS)))

MarriedinCali · March 2011

Bella2u07:
MarriedinCali:
Bella2u07:

All the time!

Our dx is both of us and I know we are doing everything we can to help. What breaks my heart the most is when Dh looks, holds and plays with babies/kids. I want to be able to give him a baby of his own and it's time is just ticking away.

And that is what got me this weekend. We went to visit my sister who just had her 1st (she is 1.5 years younger than me), and when H held her, he just lit up- he was such a natural and the way he looked at her both warmed and broke my heart.

Yeah, it gets me every time! Even now, just thinking about it makes me want to cry.

Sorry!!! (((HUGS)))

MarriedinCali · March 2011

naybird:

Yes. I do feel guilty. Every time I see a cute baby, every time someone we know says they are pregnant. Our issues are also 100% me. And it honestly kills me. It kills my self esteem, my sprits, my overall sense of self worth. It's really awful.. and I try to keep sane and smiling through each and every BFN.. I've never really given 2 craps about my career, all I ever wanted to be was a mother and have a family..

So make it a table for two.. I'm totally joining your pity party.. Big big hugs!!!

I feel like some wine after my whine. Big hugs to you (and everybody in this place!) too- IF sucks

chizzle09 · March 2011

I feel guilty ALL THE TIME. IF is 100% me and it absolutely breaks my heart that I can't give my husband a baby. He wants a baby so badly and to watch him with my nieces and nephews literally makes my heart hurt, I feel so bad (and jealous). He is totally supportive and I don't know what I would do without his support, but still. We both want a baby so badly and I don't know if I'll ever be able to have one. I'll join the pity party.

Julie721 · March 2011

chizzle09:
I feel guilty ALL THE TIME. IF is 100% me and it absolutely breaks my heart that I can't give my husband a baby. He wants a baby so badly and to watch him with my nieces and nephews literally makes my heart hurt, I feel so bad (and jealous). He is totally supportive and I don't know what I would do without his support, but still. We both want a baby so badly and I don't know if I'll ever be able to have one. I'll join the pity party.

This. It is so hard not to feel like the "broken" one, even though my DH is amazing about all of it.

PecanSam · March 2011

I don't think I have felt guilty yet b/c it's not b/c of anything I'm doing or not doing. This is the way I was made. I do whatever I can and that's all I can do.

scooterq · March 2011

Yes, I feel guilty all the time. I rationally know it's not my "fault" but I can't help but feel guilty sometimes.

((hugs)) sweetie!

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