Another Mayim Bialik article: Bedsharing. :love:

MrsBeckO · March 2011

Loved this article, even though we don't have a family bed anymore. But I do end up in Camy's bed by about midnight every night.. Sometimes sooner, sometimes later, depending on when she wakes up. And we've talked about just bringing Camy back to our bed, but haven't so far...

https://moms.today.com/_news/2011/03/07/6212018-mayim-bialik-why-we-let-our-children-sleep-in-our-bed

I know there are other bedsharing mamas 'round these parts, thought you'd enjoy it as well.

mcurban · March 2011

haven't read the article, don't bedshare, but i luuuuuuurve slumber parties w/ the boys. every once in a while, Jack will let me know that he *needs* one. sigh. they're just so snuggly.

Nessia · March 2011

This bedsharing thing is interesting. The only reason I was "against" it was because it was uncomfortable and we wanted our privacy. Well we is now me so it's not so uncomfortable anymore. The 3 of us fit just right on the king size bed. I start thinking I need to get them back to their own beds but then try to come up with reasons why I should force that issue. They love sleeping together. The only reason I may do it is because DD is too attached to me sometimes. She rather stay home with me than have to spend the night at grandma's and go to Sea World. Her attachment issues are whole other issue.

BoxerMomma · March 2011

hi stranger. saw you had the day off, hope you enjoyed it.

i miss ruby in our bed so much. i end up in her bed on nights when she has a waking. it's just so easy to curl up with her and snuggle, then fall asleep and stay a few hours.

mcgee+mike · March 2011

If Alex would sleep all night and not wake to nurse repeatedly, I'd let him stay in our bed as long as he wants. The only reason we kicked Meredith out as a baby and made her sleep in her crib is that she thought sleeping together = all night boobie buffet where she could take a few sips every half hour. Alex is much more respectful of my need for sleep, but he does still wake up a few times a night. I just love having his snuggly self between us, and I love waking up on chilly mornings with a warm baby asleep by my side.

ali-1411 · March 2011

I never had a problem with bringing my kids to bed. Jakob has outgrown it though, its been years since he's wanted to sleep with us. Layna will come to bed with us sometimes on Saturday/Sunday mornings and that's always fun.

I'm glad to keep it at that, though. No more. I'd rather cuddle with my husband in our bed. We have all day to spend with the kids. Night time is our time.

MrsAJL · March 2011

Bed sharing is not my thing. I sometimes don't like sharing a bed with my husband. I love having our babies in our room though, but in their own sleeping space.

When Ben was younger we tried having him in our bed. He thought it was an all night party. Yeah, it didn't even last the night. He and we were way happier in our separate spaces.

I sometimes wish he were a cuddlier kid. He's just Mr. Energy all.the.time.

Edited to be less b!tchy sounding.

Taytee · March 2011

I think the article is highly irresponsible for using this phrase "Rolling onto a baby is an exaggerated fear that is not based on any research." It's not an exaggerated fear. It happens. An exaggerated fear is worrying that your car may be hit by a comet. I think glossing over the possibility for infant injury and death has the potential to make parents less likely to educate themselves on safe bedsharing/cosleeping practices. Certainly I consider each of you FAR more educated on these topics than the average parent so I am not giving y'all a speech.

Our ER has more than once taken care of such tragedies. One very recently that was found to be due to suffocation while bedsharing 5 infants died in 9 days And that's just in Travis county. The ME's office reports there has not been a single case of SIDS in Travis county since 2007. All deaths have been attributed to suffocation and unsafe sleeping conditions (not all bedsharing, some are overly padded pack-n-plays, pillows and other huge no-nos). 20 babies died last year and they didn't have to.

So instead of bringing attention to how wonderful bedsharing is, we should probably use that media space on HOW to do it safely. Not just a tiny link in an article full of the positives, KWIM?

I'm actually angry after writing this post. ResearchMyAss.

Noisemaker · March 2011

MrsAJL:
Bed sharing is not my thing. I sometimes don't like sharing a bed with my husband. I love having our babies in our room though, but in their own sleeping space.

This made me laugh, and I'm totally the same way. I like to cuddle, and then I like to sleep. Alone. Without anyone in my space, kicking me, sweating on me, etc. There are exceptions, of course, but for the most part, this is my preference.

BoxerMomma · March 2011

Taytee:
I think the article is highly irresponsible for using this phrase "Rolling onto a baby is an exaggerated fear that is not based on any research." It's not an exaggerated fear. It happens. An exaggerated fear is worrying that your car may be hit by a comet. I think glossing over the possibility for infant injury and death has the potential to make parents less likely to educate themselves on safe bedsharing/cosleeping practices. Certainly I consider each of you FAR more educated on these topics than the average parent so I am not giving y'all a speech.
Our ER has more than once taken care of such tragedies. One very recently that was found to be due to suffocation while bedsharing 5 infants died in 9 days And that's just in Travis county. The ME's office reports there has not been a single case of SIDS in Travis county since 2007. All deaths have been attributed to suffocation and unsafe sleeping conditions (not all bedsharing, some are overly padded pack-n-plays, pillows and other huge no-nos). 20 babies died last year and they didn't have to.
So instead of bringing attention to how wonderful bedsharing is, we should probably use that media space on HOW to do it safely. Not just a tiny link in an article full of the positives, KWIM?
I'm actually angry after writing this post. ResearchMyAss.

you made some valid points, taytee. but i still dont think that EVERY article about bedsharing has to be a research article about the tenets of safe bed sharing. sometimes it's nice to just have a mom write an article about how she shares sleeping space with her children and how much she loves it, without the safety lecture.

nanann · March 2011

BoxerMomma:
Taytee:
I think the article is highly irresponsible for using this phrase "Rolling onto a baby is an exaggerated fear that is not based on any research." It's not an exaggerated fear. It happens. An exaggerated fear is worrying that your car may be hit by a comet. I think glossing over the possibility for infant injury and death has the potential to make parents less likely to educate themselves on safe bedsharing/cosleeping practices. Certainly I consider each of you FAR more educated on these topics than the average parent so I am not giving y'all a speech.
Our ER has more than once taken care of such tragedies. One very recently that was found to be due to suffocation while bedsharing 5 infants died in 9 days And that's just in Travis county. The ME's office reports there has not been a single case of SIDS in Travis county since 2007. All deaths have been attributed to suffocation and unsafe sleeping conditions (not all bedsharing, some are overly padded pack-n-plays, pillows and other huge no-nos). 20 babies died last year and they didn't have to.
So instead of bringing attention to how wonderful bedsharing is, we should probably use that media space on HOW to do it safely. Not just a tiny link in an article full of the positives, KWIM?
I'm actually angry after writing this post. ResearchMyAss.
you made some valid points, taytee. but i still dont think that EVERY article about bedsharing has to be a research article about the tenets of safe bed sharing. sometimes it's nice to just have a mom write an article about how she shares sleeping space with her children and how much she loves it, without the safety lecture.

I partially agree with you Boxer -- but I think Taytee's response is valid since Mayim had that line about "exaggerated fear that is not based on any research." She decided to go into the whole question of whether it's safe, and wasn't exactly accurate. If she'd done the whole article without that line, it wouldn't have caused problems.

of note, I absolutely did not bedshare with my babies. The last thing I wanted at night was to be touched by anybody or anything at that stage. Now the girls routinely join us -- if its after 5 am, cool. Before 5 am, off they go back to their own beds.

MrsBeckO · March 2011

BoxerMomma:
Taytee:
I think the article is highly irresponsible for using this phrase "Rolling onto a baby is an exaggerated fear that is not based on any research." It's not an exaggerated fear. It happens. An exaggerated fear is worrying that your car may be hit by a comet. I think glossing over the possibility for infant injury and death has the potential to make parents less likely to educate themselves on safe bedsharing/cosleeping practices. Certainly I consider each of you FAR more educated on these topics than the average parent so I am not giving y'all a speech.
Our ER has more than once taken care of such tragedies. One very recently that was found to be due to suffocation while bedsharing 5 infants died in 9 days And that's just in Travis county. The ME's office reports there has not been a single case of SIDS in Travis county since 2007. All deaths have been attributed to suffocation and unsafe sleeping conditions (not all bedsharing, some are overly padded pack-n-plays, pillows and other huge no-nos). 20 babies died last year and they didn't have to.
So instead of bringing attention to how wonderful bedsharing is, we should probably use that media space on HOW to do it safely. Not just a tiny link in an article full of the positives, KWIM?
I'm actually angry after writing this post. ResearchMyAss.
you made some valid points, taytee. but i still dont think that EVERY article about bedsharing has to be a research article about the tenets of safe bed sharing. sometimes it's nice to just have a mom write an article about how she shares sleeping space with her children and how much she loves it, without the safety lecture.

I agree with Boxer. There are plenty of articles written to promote safe bedsharing, this was simply a defense of the practice. And truthfully, the ME article irritates me. Bedsharing =/= uneducated parents. It can, sure, but it is not absolute. I'd also be interested to know the circumstances surrounding those bedsharing deaths. Bedsharing is unconventional, so it's easy to say "never!!" when something unfortunate happens.. But how many babies have been injured or killed in their cribs? I think it's unfair to say DON'T BEDSHARE EVER if the same isnt said for crib sleeping. If it's acceptable to educate and advocate for safe crib-sleeping, it should be acceptable for bedsharing as well.

Taytee · March 2011

My point is, that line is ludicrous and I can't take the rest of the article seriously with such an erronous statement. Furthermore, I find it dangerous to draw people into an article, potentially selling them or whatever on the idea of co-sleeping while completely minimizing any downside. I see what you're saying Boxer about not having every article be a "safety lecture" - but I feel the article does a disservice to the greater audience.

CollieJade · March 2011

MrsAJL:
I sometimes don't like sharing a bed with my husband.

Haaahaaa!! Yes Yes My husband is very annoying to sleep with sometimes. He's really cuddly and I'm not, and he wiggles a lot and it drives me nuts!

However, the only person in this WORLD I would love to share a sleeping space with is DD. I LOVED having her in bed with us, and so did DH. It became impractical for DD's sleeping though, for various reasons. I keep hoping as she gets older and maybe sleeps better, that she'll be able to easily come to our bed and still rest. Incidentally, DD is also the only person in the world I want to cuddle. But like me, she's not a cuddler. I guess she got something from me after all.

I admit to not reading the article, but I do sort of agree that it's irresponsible to make broad statements about it being "exaggerated fear" without backing that up. I mean, kids do die when bedsharing isn't done safely. But then again, the uneducated bedsharer I don't imagine is going to be reading this article, so I don't think that much harm can be done by suggesting that there is a lot of unrealistic fear associated with bedsharing in general. I'd have to agree that there is a lot of unnecessary fear placed on parents, even ones who educate themselves on how to do it safely.

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