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July 2011 Moms
MIL Vent...And You thought yours was bad.. (long)
So let me just say I never thought I would post a MIL Vent because the situation with mine is too dramatic and complicated and I thought DH and I were on the same page with her...but last night he changed his mind and I need to vent so Thank you in advance for reading this...
Situation:
When I go into labor I want my parents and my FIL & SIL called..(SIL is a drill Sgt. and lives 6 hours away so she will need the most time to get here and I love my SIL). I did not want my MIL notified until after baby had arrived when we first found out I was pregnant DH was in agreement...now DH thinks we should call her at the same time everyone else is called and she can stop in and say hi just like everyone else will be allowed except when pushing.
Background: (Please pick any Story to read)
*MIL and FIL divorced when DH joined the Navy at 18 MIL Cheated on FIL (She later claimed she cheated because her baby boy (DH) left her)
* When DH and I started dating the woman refused to even say hello to me-but DH knew his mother was crazy so we only saw her on holidays and birthdays so didn't matter much to me since he is not close to her. One year we went out to lunch with her for DH birthday and she didn't speak to me the whole time, DH gets up to go to the bathroom and she completely turns her head and faces the wall the whole time DH is gone.
* When we got engaged we called her and the first words out of her mouth were did you buy the ring already? Then started talking about something else. DH then didn't respond to anything she sent for a while cause she pissed him off. MIL calls FIL and wants to know why baby boy won't talk to her..FIL explains..2 hours later I get a text that says for me to meet her at a restaurant the next day..I arrive the woman pulls out a notepad and a pen and begins to interview me..asks my name? DOB? parents name? Siblings Name? DOB for them? My favorite food? My favorite vegetable? etc... when she was done asking that was the end of lunch...DH is now in full agreement his mother his crazy
* MIL starts dating a man well known in the community..boyfriend gets arrested for child porn on his computer...she stays with him and believes him in that it was an accident? She was on TV walking out of the court house holding his hand...Even after convicted she goes to visit him in jail-takes all his money while in jail...DH and I agree she will not be allowed to watch any children we have
* DH and I get married; RSV season begins at work and so I'm working overtime, DH tells his mother this..she tells him he better check up on me cause that sounds fishy..
* MIL just got engaged to another man and her two children find out about the engagement via Facebook...
* MIL also moved out on her own wheelchair bound father (stroke) for new boyfriend without telling anyone...we found out by stopping by to see him one day and he says he woke up one morning and MIL was gone...Who moves out on their own wheelchair bound father?
There are PLENTY more where this came from but needless to say this woman has never wanted to say hi to me before, why when I'm in labor would she want to or would I want to her? Not happening DH!
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Re: MIL Vent...And You thought yours was bad.. (long)
Best Wishes to my labor buddy FunNSunAZ!
"Well I've waited so long, so long, so long For someone like you And as this morning breaks through the window pane It reveals the truth Baby, you're my sunshine, first light Find your way to places that only know lies Failed tries and bruised skies With hardly time to hold on or be strong, now I'm strong 'Cos like the dawn you push it all away I tell ya, you're my sunshine
Everybody needs a little sunshine"
Steve Azar "Sunshine"
See thats what I was thinking as a favor to other moms there they don't want that crazy in a 5 mile radius!
For DH 26th birthday she purchased him glow in the dark necklaces, earings, and braclets...I get you don't know your son but in general wat 26 year old man wants that? The look on my DH face was priceless he thought it was a joke, she was serious!
You win the prize for crazy MILs. Totally agree keep her away as much as you can.
After reading that all I can imagine her sneaking in like a ninja and trying to steal baby in the middle of the night. She scares me
Spontaneous pregnancy #1
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Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
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Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
Id let her find out you had the baby on FB.
The thought has crossed my mind on several occasions!
now that I think about it -- maybe you do want her at the hospital- maybe you can get her locked up in the psych ward lol.
The Sand in My Snow Boots
WOW. That's a very special lady... I'd keep myself and my baby away from her, like, forever. You are so right to not want her there!
Good luck!
Suddenly my mil seems sane again after reading this post.
I would just inform the doctors/nurses that she is not allowed in the L/D room under any circumstances, no matter what your H says. She sounds like a wackadoo.
House / Baby blog
This
Not even kidding I think this is the best plan!
Ya know, before I read through the history of her... I was thinking "oh, come on, you should notify ALL parents/siblings at the same time." And then reading the history all I can think of is no f'ing way... she should find out that you had a baby when the baby is a year old! Lady is a looney tune! Holy crazy.
Stick with your guns on this, and though a child does bring a change of heart, I'm pretty sure she won't care when your DH calls and says "You're in labor."
Hahahahaha I have a mental image of your husband already (police officer or sheriff's deputy, country living, guns, very manly-man) and the glow in the dark jewelry just isn't jiving.
This is an AWESOME mental image to start my day. Thank you!
On a serious note, I completely agree with this. We have a few months to go, and I'd allow him to simmer down and bring the topic back up closer to birth.
My question is: Why even have contact with this woman whatsoever!
She doesn't seem to have enough good judgement to be around your LO anyway!