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Passive Aggressve Cowkr - "your stuff is in a box"

MrsRonBurgundyMrsRonBurgundy member
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Hi Ladies,

So I started back at work on  Friday. The woman who was filling in for me, doing my job was such a biotch to me.

She was sitting at my desk the past 4 mos and put ALL my stuff in a box under my desk - we're talking stripped it clean. I had a wedding picture or two up and they were crumpled up in the bottom of the box. I had little pins up in the cube, like from this or that event, those were in there too. This is so odd and passive aggressive to me. Space is at a premium in my office so a lot of people share desks. Many desks have two peoples' pictures etc up. The last woman who went on mat leave was out forever on bedrest and no one took allll her stuff down.

And she was very eye-rolly when I asked her how everything went. Her tone was sort of like "whatever your job was sooo easy, I totally handled it. No one missed you."

I mean what a biotch. And I know it shouldn't bother me and F her, but wow.

Before I left she was all eye-rolly when I would try to show her things. She wouldn't take notes or write anything down. This is someone who is younger than me and less experienced. The chance to fill in on my job was a big step up for her.

AND now that I'm back she's been promoted to another area, working under someone she is BF w/, so she should be happy, not all passive aggressive toward me.

I do think I didn't tee things up that well for her, partly b/c DS came WAY early and I was caught off guard, but when I would try to train her, she just knew it all. She would cancel meetings w/ me etc.

I am SO annoyed by this. Punchline is I'm probably going to quit anyway to SAH/freelance. So should I not say a word and just leave it? I just hate her treating me like a biotch! 

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Re: Passive Aggressve Cowkr - "your stuff is in a box"

  • monkskimonkski
    If it were me, it would be hard, but I would let it go. Reacting to her would just be feeding into her. Especially if you plan to quit soon. I'm sure other people see the same things you do anyways.  That totally sucks though and I would want to biotch slap her!
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  • MegGaryMegGary member

    Try & laugh it off. If you aren't planning on staying around for long why bother letting it get to you. She sounds like an immature jerk who isn't worth the energy. 

    Or you go always be a biotch right back to her. lol  

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  • kyfirewifekyfirewife member
    Try to let it go.

    In fact, if it were me, I would respond in the passive-aggressive see-how-much-better-of-a-person-I-am-than-you way of being super-nice to her and bringing her cookies or something to thank her for "helping out" while you were gone.

    Kill her with kindness.

    Chances are it won't change her perception of you, but it will emphasize to the rest of your CWs what a B she's been to the super-nice-just-had-a-baby lady. Trust me, someone else has seen how she's been to you, even if they haven't said anything.

    Take the high road, and WIN!
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  • C&HC&H member
    That was pretty bold of her to pack up your stuff! Personally, I wouldn't waist my time stooping to her level. She seems like someone that isn't very professional or respectful of others. Karma will get her one day :)
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  • MrsRonBurgundyMrsRonBurgundy member

    Thanks, Ladies.

    That you all agreed that I should let it go made me feel better. Oh and that you all agreed that she's a biotch - that really makes me feel better.

    And this: Trust me, someone else has seen how she's been to you, even if they haven't said anything.

    Yes. Probably. Hopefully. thanks.

    I mean biotchy as it was of her to paw all over my things, she kinda did me a favor b/c then I didn't look suspicious putting my own stuff into a box (which I needed to do to get it out of there in case I do quit!)

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  • The_Jen626The_Jen626
    What an awful biotch!!!! Yes, kill her with kindness.
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  • Rach21Rach21 member

    I guess I might be a beeotch too, because I'd be like "I'm having trouble finding my [think of something somewhat valuable]. You put everything in the box under my desk? It's not here and it was very important." Just to make her feel like a tool for packing up your desk. Lots of people have personal items on their desk and if I was subbing for a mom on maternity leave, I wouldn't touch jack.

    FWIW, while I was on maternity leave, my boss said I could stay and take as much time as I want coming back because my temp worker had everything under control. Bull-oney! When I came back, I discovered she checked some junk off our production schedule but didn't even touch the stuff. I casually mentioned it, and everyone was like, "really? that's so unlike her!" (I took over her position when she went on maternity leave and decided to be a SAHM but everyone thought she was "super nice.") She might have been super nice, but I'm having trouble finding anything she ever did. Thanks for nothing!!! 

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  • boo-bitzboo-bitz member

    I am the kill them with kindness queen when it comes to those people.

    I have a customer at work whose meds I order in advance, I throw in coupons and free goodies with all his orders because on my first week he was such a jerk to me I wanted to throat punch him. Now I have him trained into being super nice to me, he asks how my daughter is doing and when he's having a grouch day I just give him "the  look" and it becomes unicorns and rainbow glitter farts as far as he is concerned :)

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  • prego760prego760 member

    Wow this sounds like the exact post I posted last June!

    Except my girl at work was let go on August 5th. Na Na Na Na Na Na Na Na Hey Hey Hey GOOD BYE!!!

    Your little hands wrapped around my finger and its so quiet in the world tonight Your little eye lids flutter cause your dreamin so I tuck you in, turn on your favorite night light To you everything's funny, you've got nothing to regret I'd give all I have hunny, if you could stay like that Oh darling dont you ever grow up, dont you ever grow up, just stay this little Oh darling dont you ever grow up dont you ever grow up, it could stay this simple I wont let nobody hurt you, wont let no one break your heart, no one will desert you Just try to never grow up imageimage Pregnancy Ticker Lilypie Third Birthday tickers
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