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pregali80pregali80 member
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Cause silly me I had a wedding question. Cause I'm newly engaged. Cause the baby daddy finally realized what he was missing. We stayed friends after we broke up a year ago, and have had a pretty awesome partnership with our son. And then as I was going on a date one night, stopping by to drop off our kiddo, he wanted to talk.

And its really weird to go on a date with someone you care about and realize you are still in love with your ex. So, the next day, I broke it off with the guy I was seeing, the "ex" proposed and we started all over.

It's a trip, and I have my occasional hangups cause I got so used to being single mommy! Let's face it; we kick ass and we are totally capable of doing it alone. But you know what? I'm so happy to be back with my little family.

You guys are an awesome support team and I appreciate all the great advice I've been given here. To any newly single girls, just know that it does get better and you can totally handle it. 

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  • pregali80pregali80 member
    and Faux Shelly you are right about the Baby Daddy term- I don't say it to be derogatory- just-tounge-in cheek silliness here. Really, I wind up saying "My Son's Father" much of the time.
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  • achase123achase123

    I'm struggling with this a bit.  I can't quite remember the backstory, so maybe that has something to do with it.  What was the reason you two were split in the first place?

    It seems like kind of rushing things to instantly get engaged after being broken up for over a year.  Obviously there were issues, otherwise you wouldn't have been separated and I'm not sure why you wouldn't work on those issues before clouding it all with an engagement and impending wedding as a distraction.

    Maybe if I knew the backstory I could give my blessing but this whole post kind of feels funny to me. 

    And also the statement "I am so happy to be back with my little family" is rubbing me the wrong way.  It seems like a kind of "slap in the face" to many of us here, who would have loved nothing more than to have our own "little families" work out.  Especially because I'm trying like heck to recall your situation and am not able to.  Which rubs me wrong a little more.  Almost like you are coming back here to brag to us all about everything working out for you. 

    ::shrugs shoulders:: but I could be totally off base here and if I am, I apologize.

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  • kmartinez80kmartinez80 member
    imageachase123:

    I'm struggling with this a bit.  I can't quite remember the backstory, so maybe that has something to do with it.  What was the reason you two were split in the first place?

    It seems like kind of rushing things to instantly get engaged after being broken up for over a year.  Obviously there were issues, otherwise you wouldn't have been separated and I'm not sure why you wouldn't work on those issues before clouding it all with an engagement and impending wedding as a distraction.

    Maybe if I knew the backstory I could give my blessing but this whole post kind of feels funny to me. 

    And also the statement "I am so happy to be back with my little family" is rubbing me the wrong way.  It seems like a kind of "slap in the face" to many of us here, who would have loved nothing more than to have our own "little families" work out.  Especially because I'm trying like heck to recall your situation and am not able to.  Which rubs me wrong a little more.  Almost like you are coming back here to brag to us all about everything working out for you. 

    ::shrugs shoulders:: but I could be totally off base here and if I am, I apologize.

    All of this.  OP, I just don't understand your post and it does come off as bragging and "rubbing it in our faces", maybe I'm just being too touchy about it.

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  • carrieannewcarrieannew member
    imagepregali80:

    Cause silly me I had a wedding question. Cause I'm newly engaged. Cause the baby daddy finally realized what he was missing. We stayed friends after we broke up a year ago, and have had a pretty awesome partnership with our son. And then as I was going on a date one night, stopping by to drop off our kiddo, he wanted to talk.

    And its really weird to go on a date with someone you care about and realize you are still in love with your ex. So, the next day, I broke it off with the guy I was seeing, the "ex" proposed and we started all over.

    It's a trip, and I have my occasional hangups cause I got so used to being single mommy! Let's face it; we kick ass and we are totally capable of doing it alone. But you know what? I'm so happy to be back with my little family.

    You guys are an awesome support team and I appreciate all the great advice I've been given here. To any newly single girls, just know that it does get better and you can totally handle it. 

    Yeah.... ditto what the ladies said. And I can't get past the baby daddy part. Ugh

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  • Meliss227Meliss227
    imageachase123:

    I'm struggling with this a bit.  I can't quite remember the backstory, so maybe that has something to do with it.  What was the reason you two were split in the first place?

    It seems like kind of rushing things to instantly get engaged after being broken up for over a year.  Obviously there were issues, otherwise you wouldn't have been separated and I'm not sure why you wouldn't work on those issues before clouding it all with an engagement and impending wedding as a distraction.

    Maybe if I knew the backstory I could give my blessing but this whole post kind of feels funny to me. 

    And also the statement "I am so happy to be back with my little family" is rubbing me the wrong way.  It seems like a kind of "slap in the face" to many of us here, who would have loved nothing more than to have our own "little families" work out.  Especially because I'm trying like heck to recall your situation and am not able to.  Which rubs me wrong a little more.  Almost like you are coming back here to brag to us all about everything working out for you. 

    ::shrugs shoulders:: but I could be totally off base here and if I am, I apologize.

    Achase, I <3 you! You do an excellent job saying what others are thinking.

    I get the feeling this is to rub it in especially since she hasn't posted here since September. 

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  • Mrs.Keith2BMrs.Keith2B member
    I stopped reading after "baby daddy".
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  • pregali80pregali80 member

    I apologize for coming off "wrong"

     And yeah I guess I haven't posted since September. I was always reading and admiring everyone's strength and posted a few times. My backstory was I was single after my son's dad ended it after months of constant arguing and unresolved differences. Since we've been single, things resolved, we talked it all out, and each of us has changed. And we grew back together. 

     I only posted to say look what others on this board said to me when I was down- you can find love again, you can do this, etc.

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