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Help me! C likes to hit and I don't know what to do : (

BeckyS1211BeckyS1211
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When he gets mad he hits you, or a cat, or anything else near him.  Not hard, but he lets you know he's pissed.  We don't hit him.  I have smacked his hand, but it's rare.  We've tried redirecting him, we've tried time outs where we hold him for 1 minute (he totally doesn't get it and throws a gawd awful tantrum), we've tried saying "be a nice boy, nice boys don't hit"...ect.  What else can we do???  I don't want my kid to be a bully : (  I do know that at daycare he's the only boy on a few days and the little girls (there are 3 from 2-3yrs) are rough and can get mean with eachother...we're thinking that's where the high pitched screaming came from!  HELP!!!
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Re: Help me! C likes to hit and I don't know what to do : (

  • nferrantenferrante

    Try saying..."C, we don't hit, we use our Nice Hands.  It's ok if you are upset, but we don't hit."  I always repeat to use our "nice Hands" even with my baby and it works. 

    Also, you could try giving him a pillow and tell him, let him know it's ok that he's upset, but we only hit the pillow.  Re-direct his behavior to something that's ok. 

     Those are ideas that were given to me from a behavioral specialist.

    HTH!

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  • BrosisBrosis
    We've had to deal with this too.  What worked for us is keeping the words to a minimum.  Try looking him in the eye and saying in a stern, authoritarian voice, "No hitting!".  If he does it again, we repeat the same phrase, then put him in time out - usually his play pen - & leave the room for 1 min.  The repetition seems to be bringing the message home for him.  GL!
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  • jen-dalejen-dale member
    We're starting to have the same issues. We are trying to redirect and also no hitting or be gentle.
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  • lil_rhodylil_rhody member
    I haven't been there yet, but a lot of people have recommended the "Hands are not for hitting" book and others in that series.
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  • kimmie321kimmie321
    We just got over that stage. When we said "no hitting" he kept doing it over and over. we would say "be nice" and rub his arm.Now is we say be nice he rubs our arm. We also had to do some time outs because it became excessive.
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  • MrsPattersonMrsPatterson member
    We have dealt with/are dealing with this as well.  What seems to work best for us is to say very firmly/sternly, "No hitting", and then say "Gentle" and take his hand and gently rub our knee or arm.  We're really starting to see results, finally, and now when we say, "No hitting, gentle" he'll usually rub our leg and then we praise the heck out of him for doing that - way over-enthusiastic with clapping and huge smiles and "good job!!!" 
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