So... I may quit my job

Re: So... I may quit my job

• mrsrobinsontobe member

  March 2011

  i think it's an emotional time when you first go back.

  a few ?s:

  how does your husband feel about it? would he have to work more hrs. to pick up the slack? in other words, can you afford it?!
  

  is it "work" in gen'l that you don't like? or is it specifically your job?

  how many hrs. would you be working? could you arrange for a flex or pt schedule or wah a couple of days?

  try not to think of it as a nanny raising your kids...i worked ft after my daughter was born...granted, she was w/ my parents, but i was still with her in so many ways! i pumped 2x a day...and i made the most of the quality time that i spent with her. honestly, it's about the quality of the time you spend with your kids when you're with them.
  

  i am pt now with 2 kids...and honestly, i'm glad i waited until having 2 to do this. they need to get to places now...pre-school, ballet, etc. that they need me around for. i don't feel as though my 2 children want for anything, and it's because i know our time is precious!

  good luck...it's such an emotional time!
  

   

   

   

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• JOEBunny member

  March 2011

  I have never heard anyone say they regret the time they spend with their babies.  My only advice is to make as many friends as you can right away.  They make a big difference in the amount of fun you have.  I spent the first year with my DD doing every single tourist attraction in my city.  All the ones I had missed because I was working, going hiking, out to lunch.  We had a great time that first year.  Now, my job is a lot more about the kids, but that first year was super.
  

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• JAM2000

  March 2011

  It's a tough decision. Part of me thinks at times I could have stayed working but then the other part says- no, you couldn't.

  There are a lot of factors-

  Is your company understand and flexible for and with working moms? Mine was not. My boss was an older lady w/ no kids and I saw her give others a very hard time when they came back to work and had the struggles of kids getting sick at daycare. I also realized that the only women in management positions were either not married or had no kids.

  Would the cost of daycare be worth the take home pay from your job? For me, I didn't think it was worth it. It also bumped us up into another tax bracket so the little bit that would have been leftover after daycare costs really wouldn't have made it worth it.

  But those were some of my reasons. Every person is different and you can't think of this as 'not working' or 'never working again'  Lots of people will say "you'll never find a job again" and I don't believe that. I don't want a career again (at least I don't think I do) But someday I would like a job again, which is why I've stayed active with volunteer work, etc. I've created a whole different network than my old work network because someday you never know who knows somebody who knows somebody who may have a the perfect job.

  Good luck to you. I hope I didn't babble too much :-)
  

  

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• MrsRonBurgundy member

  March 2011

  Hi ladies, Thanks for the feedback. Yes, my husband is super supportive. He makes enough that we can be ok and still save. I just will no longer be able to buy the nicest of this or that thing or go shopping on a whim, which is a vice of mine.

  We bought a new place right before DS came and bought below what we could afford in case I wanted to quit my job, though back then the thought was if I wanted to quit my job to do something that paid poorly. 

  I have been unhappy at my job b/c I don't like my boss and his mgmt style. I'm also tired of it - feeling "groundhog day" about it. 

  The other reason I want to quit is b/c my husband works odd hours (afternons/evenings) and I realized over mat leave how nice it was to get to spend days with him and our LO. So when I quit we three will be able to hang out in the mornings and go places and do things. I will almost always be putting DS to bed by myself, but I've been doing that anyway.  Husband secretly is rooting for me to quit I can tell, but doesn't want to influence my decision too much.

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• EveryNameIWantIsTaken member

  March 2011

  I'm a bit late to this party but I worked until ds was 10.5 months.  Many factors went into it including we couldn't get the right situation with his childcare, dh and I having to work weird hours that childcare didn't work with, and general longing to be home with ds.  DH ended up getting a promotion that made it doable, but tight.  Let me tell you, even though things are tight, it is 1000% worth it.  I don't regret a single day of it.  Now, I am actually going to school full time (online and evenings) to do something I think I will really enjoy when the time comes for me to return to work.  I won't be staying home long-term (meaning many years) probably just 4 at the most, but I couldn't be happier with our choice.  This time is what I knew I was missing every single day I went to work.  GL with whatever your decision is, and feel free to come back with any other questions!
  

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