Anyone else feel like you are nobody special in LO's eyes?

MJN9510 · March 2011

How old was your Lo when they first cried when you left them? And also, how old were they when they first got excited when you came to get them after you have been away? DD is 6 mos old and when i drop her off at the babysitters she could care less that I am going. When I pick her up, she could care less that I am there to get her. Its probably normal, but I just wonder sometimes if she realized i am her mom. Dont get me wrong, I am glad that she doesnt scream bloody murder when I drop her off. But it would just be nice to have her show outwardly that she prefers me and knows Im her mom. Im probably acting silly.

Lindsay2907 · March 2011

You're special. Just be glad you've raised a confident little LO who doesn't have a panic attack every time you leave her sight! She knows who her mommy is!

EMWindy · March 2011

Thank your lucky stars that your LO doesn't have seperation anxiety yet! And really, its common for it to come later on - like the 7-10 month range.

It is heart-breaking when they do it. My 2 y.o. still cries some days at daycare when I leave - and when I get to work, I can still see her tear-stains on my pants.

Crying

shibby00 · March 2011

I don't think you are acting silly at all! I felt the exact same way up until a couple weeks ago (DD is 7 mos)! Finally after an evening out with my DH when I walked in the door to pick her up she got the biggest smile and wanted me to take her! It was very frustrating to me before that event that she seemingly didn't care when I left her or when I was picking her up since I'm a SAHM....I even started wondering if she actually liked me! All I can say is that she DOES know you are her Mom and that she will eventually show that!

sodelish · March 2011

Awwww, don't feel bad, mama. Your LO loves you more than anyone! It sounds to me like she is confident that you'll be back for her. That's a good thing!

BlueRidge8 · March 2011

Often, DD will look excited when I pick her up.

But when I drop her off, or visit at lunch, she is all "OOH, something sparkly over there!" by the time I set her down.

I am thankful because I know she's happy.

emi_girl23 · March 2011

When LO was 6 months he didn't care when I left, but got excited when I would come back. Now that he is 8 months he watches my every move when I'm walking out the door and will crawl towards me, but as soon as I leave he's fine. It works out great for me since I have enough separation anxiety for the both of us!

MJN9510 · March 2011

Thanks ladies. This makes me feel a little better. But I still would LOVE to see her react in some way to me. I should feel lucky because hopefully some of this means, she likes the babysitter. But she is with the babysitter the same # of hours as she is with me in a week. So I struggle with that sometimes...does she think the babysitter is her mom too? Will she prefer her? LOL I know that is crazy!

historychick79 · March 2011

DS is just starting to notice this week. I picked him up at daycare yesterday, and he was in the exersaucer. I patted his head, and walked over to his cubby for his bag without picking him up, and you would think the world had ended. And he's starting to give the most awesome baby kisses. But it's completely new for him all of a sudden; it's probably going to happen soon for you (and then you'll wonder when you can leave her without her having a meltdown...)

CourtneyR2N · March 2011

I've gotten a smile maybe a handful of times when I've gone to pick him up. Most of the time he's like "oh, mom's here, okie dokie"

I think it is pretty normal at this age. Seperation anxiety usually hits 7-8 months or so.

UnderAtree · March 2011

I feel the same way. But I think it is cause I am with him 24/7. I feel like he grows tired of me and gets excited when someone else comes over.

write2nicole · March 2011

When we were visiting my family over X-mas, though, my whole family repeatedly commented on how much he lit up when he saw me -- more than when he saw DH. I never saw that. Maybe your LO is lighting up in a way that's not as obvious to you.

ladybug8510 · March 2011

I hope you aren't jynxing yourself for when the separation anxiety phase starts. Stick out tongue

DH and I went out to dinner last weekend, she cried the whole time until she fell asleep right before we got back. I left her with my mom today to take the dog to get his nails trimmed. I was worried the whole time my parents were dealing with a fussy baby. Apparently she did calm down when we left, but as soon as I walked through the door, tears!

Nightrise1 · March 2011

My son doesn't get upset when I leave. He's 6 months old. He smiles and laughs when I get home though. Then again... he laughs and smiles at everyone.

JBrianne · March 2011

DS just started this in the last week or 2. I was so sad when I left him with the IL's for just over an hour yesterday and when I came back found out that he had screamed the whole time and then passed out a couple of minutes before I got back. Previously I've left him for hours at a time (I think 6 was the max) and he never cared. While it's super cute they recognize you when you pick them up etc, it's really sad to know they were upset while you were gone.

newly_naugler · March 2011

UnderAtree:
I feel the same way. But I think it is cause I am with him 24/7. I feel like he grows tired of me and gets excited when someone else comes over.

This is how I feel. Sometimes it hurts to see him get soooo excited to see Daddy, when I'm the one that does everything for him. Then I realize that I don't go anywhere without him, so I guess he never gets the chance to miss me.

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