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Nontraditional Planned Pregnancy...how to tell the parents?!
So me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 years. We live together and are very financial stable. We decided having a baby was more important to us then a marriage right now (RIGHT NOW). My parents live in FL and we live in NJ. I'm scared to tell my parents with the thought of them dropping everything and moving back home (NJ)to be with their only daughter while she is pregnant. How do I go about telling them. Any Ideas?
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Re: Nontraditional Planned Pregnancy...how to tell the parents?!
I would just tell them just like you told us... that you have been together for a while and marriage isnt that important to you but you are ready to have a child. Make sure you tell them you are happy about this and you can handle it. Maybe then they wont feel like they have to move back to "help" you. Good Luck!
DD1 Born March 2012
DD2 Due November 2014
I was in the same position as you, but we hadn't been together for nearly as long. We decided that even though we are getting married someday, starting a family comes first for us. I was scared as heck to tell my dad, but from the start he was very supportive. And now, at almost 20 weeks, he's always calling to say how excited he is for his grandbaby.
Just go for it. Even if it takes a little time on their part, eventually they will come around.
And congrats on your pregnancy!
Edited for clarity.We've been together 9 years, *engaged* for 4yrs, and getting pregnant kind of suprised us both. We're very stable both financially and with each other, so much so that an actual wedding has just never happened for us. Thank goodness we live in Tx so we're actually legally common-law married. We still talk about marriage, but right now this baby is more important. I'd like to be **really** married, like for real for real, before the baby comes but there's no way in heck I am waddling down an aisle after 9 yrs. Good luck with telling your parents, we just sucked it up and told his a few weekends ago, they took it pretty well!! Mine on the other hand.... totally different story :-(
Well I had a similar situation where I was so afraid to tell my parents, but my pregnancy came as a surprise and my fiance and I were only together for a year. We just told them straight up! You should just let them know what's going on and your reasoning for it! If they are a little upset, like mine were, well they were really upset, but they will get over it! As long as your happy with your decision, then don't worry about it!
Good Luck!
My boyfriend and I have done the same thing. My parents are very supportive and very excited always. My mother knew even while I was trying to get pregnant. The hard part will be talling my grandma. Even though this is my second time around. The way I would explain it is you two are very much in love, have thought this through and are financially and emotionally stable. You guys wanted to start a family and that's it. It's 2011 all different kinds of people make up families. You don't have to be married, hey someone women aren't even with their partner they use other means. Anyways good luck!